Your memory bank will automatically provide some information, which you deposited in the former case. Therefore, the original materials needed to generate new ideas are mainly provided by memory.
The cashier at Memory Bank is extremely reliable and will never let you down. If you tell him, "Mr. cashier, I want to put forward some ideas I saved before to prove that I am not as good as others." He would say, "no problem, sir, you should think back to how the first two failures like this happened, and how your sixth-grade teacher said you couldn't finish something;" Recall how you overheard other colleagues criticize you; Memories ... "
That's how Mr. Cashier keeps digging up ideas from your head to prove your incompetence. But if you ask him, "Mr cashier, it's hard for me to make this decision. Can you safely give me advice? "
The cashier will also say, "No problem, sir." But this time he will put forward the idea that you have been successful before: "Think back to how well you have done in similar situations before;" Think back to how confident Mr. Smith is in you; Think back to how your good friend praised you; Memories ... "
The cashier is responsive, completely listens to your arrangement and comes up with the ideas you want. After all, this is your bank.
You can build confidence by managing your memory effectively:
First, keep only positive thoughts. Everyone will encounter many unpleasant, embarrassing and depressed situations. Winners and losers deal with these dilemmas in completely opposite ways. In other words, losers will be bitter and always indulge in these unpleasant situations and let failure guide their memories. They just can't let go, and they will fall asleep when they remember. And those successful people who are confident don't think much at all. They know how to store only positive thoughts in the memory.
If you put some dirty things in the crankcase of your car before going to work every morning, what will this car look like? A good car engine will soon be in a mess and can't do what you want it to do. Negative and unpleasant thoughts in your mind will consume your mental movement unnecessarily in the same way. These thoughts will produce anxiety, depression and inferiority. Everyone else is moving forward, but you are stuck on the side of the road.
When you think alone, such as driving or eating alone, try to recall happy and positive experiences and inject all kinds of beautiful ideas into your memory bank. This will boost your confidence, make you feel "I really feel good" and help your body maintain normal function.
Here is an excellent plan. Just before you go to bed every day, put all kinds of beautiful ideas into your memory bank. Count the blessings that have befallen you and think of many beautiful things that you must be grateful for: your wife or husband, your children, your friends and your health. Think back to what you saw others do today. Think back to your own small victories and achievements. Think carefully about all kinds of reasons to make yourself happy.
Secondly, only take positive thoughts from your memory. Dr Schwartz often contacts a psychological consulting company in Chicago. They handle all kinds of cases, but most of them are related to marriage and psychological adaptation, and all of them are related to psychological activities.
One afternoon, when Schwartz talked to the person in charge of the company about his industry and the skills he used to help people with serious psychological obstacles, the person in charge said, "In fact, as long as people can do one thing, they no longer need our industry."
"What is it?" Schwartz asked.
"As long as negative thoughts are destroyed before they become psychological monsters."
"Most people I want to help," he continued, "run a museum of fear psychology for themselves. For example, many marriage problems are related to the so-called honeymoon monster, that is, the honeymoon is not as beautiful as people expected, but they don't bury those memories, but keep thinking about them, which eventually makes those memories a huge obstacle to successful marriage. Most of them came to me after 5 years or 10 years. "
"Of course, my customers usually don't understand what their problems are. My job is to help people explore, explain the crux, and let them understand that what bothers them is only trivial things. "
"A person can create a psychological monster from any unpleasant experience, for example, work failure, lovelorn, wrong investment, disappointment with teenagers' behavior ... these are often the' monsters' that I want to help my clients eliminate."
It can be seen that any negative thoughts will become a real psychological monster, destroy confidence and lead to serious psychological obstacles.
Therefore, you must properly manage your memory bank and only take out positive memories, so that you can move forward optimistically.