Confucius called the Ji family: "Bashu dancing in court is tolerable and intolerable."
According to Zuo Zhuan's Twenty-five Years and Hanshu Liuxiangchuan, Ji's family may be Ji Sun Ruyi. For the dance band of the court at that time, the system was as follows: a row of eight people was called one; Eight Shu is 8864 people), six princes, four Qing and doctors, that is, Ji can only use four Shu, Lu can use six Shu and Zhou can use eight Shu. However, Ji deliberately broke the old rules and decided to form a large dance band of 64 people. This obviously means that he doesn't care about the son of heaven and the court. He has the heart to do such a thing. What else can he not bear to do? Rebellion, he also has the heart to do it.
The original meaning is that a person has the heart to do such a thing. What else can he not bear to do? Now we all regard it as tolerable and seem to compare it to ourselves. There is no need to endure it. In fact, this is not the original intention.
For example, in a company, subordinates contradict their leaders, obviously they just don't take the leaders seriously. Some leaders forgive him just to show their generosity. If he dares to contradict the leader, he will do something more out of line as long as he seizes the opportunity. When you think you are generous to someone, you are just wrong. He can even do such a thing, so he doesn't care how out of line he is. You should know a person's future.
Don't treat small things with evil. In fact, this evil is not in the size of evil, but in your heart. Making small mistakes and misunderstandings will make your heart extremely hard and make demands on yourself higher and higher. We should follow the rules from the beginning. Those who disobey, make trouble, openly resist you and cause losses to the company should actually do what they should do from the beginning, instead of giving generously. Your generosity will become a step for others to do evil.
We all say that good for evil, others have done something to hurt you, and you are generous to him. You think you have done something good, but you are actually doing the evil of adults and conniving at the evil of others. He thinks you are easy to bully. For example, if this person has caused you losses, you just say forget it, but you will still hate him in your heart and get angry when you think about it. This is what we often do.
However, wise generosity is just the opposite. The real generosity is that you made a mistake. I will point out your mistake directly and tell you what is the right thing to do, but I forgive you in my heart. Saints have no psychological resentment towards everyone, only behavioral education and guidance. A person's generosity needs wisdom. In order to be generous in life, we really don't need to be angry with ourselves to death.