Men's five kinds of psychology in the early stage of love, whether during love or at ordinary times, have different changes in our hearts. We can also see some psychological changes in love. Here are five kinds of psychology of men in the early stage of love.
Five kinds of psychology of men in the early stage of love 1 1, regardless of blood type.
This kind of men are generally in a state of taking the initiative in love activities. When they meet a girl who is very consistent with their dreams, or when the girl they have long admired gives them a glimmer of hope, their nerves will be highly excited, so they will desperately join the love movement and launch the most violent attack on the target regardless of blood and consequences.
In this case, men in love are always in a state of high excitement. In order to get the attention and heart of your lover, you can say that you will do whatever it takes.
2. Suffering from loss of type
A man who suffers from loss is a typical ambivalent complex. They may be lovers they met or introduced by others. This kind of man is often too calm and calm, which is manifested in his relationship with his lover.
On the one hand, they fall in love with their lover (or are not sure whether they love each other at all) and hope to join hands with her.
On the other hand, they don't want to spend too much time, energy and money on their lovers, because they are not sure whether they and their lovers can succeed in the future, so they can't see the rabbit without spreading the eagle.
The reason is that such a man is too realistic and relatively lacks the passion for love; Or suffered some emotional setbacks, leading to serious doubts and fear of being cheated again.
3. Self-righteous
This kind of man is often talented, looks and is under fire, so he generally feels better about himself. In love activities, they are mostly in a passive state, but they also have a sense of self that dominates everything. It is said that he is in a passive state because the girls around him are not attracted by his efforts, but by the charm of our hero.
In this case, no matter how excellent and rare the girl is, our hero is ignorant, so he will have a sense of superiority. He thinks that as long as he doesn't dislike her, the girls around him will stay with him forever, so in the whole love activity, they always appear in front of lovers as charity givers, sometimes even arrogant.
4. Lack of self-confidence
Men with low self-confidence usually know their lovers through the introduction of others. This kind of men usually have poor conditions and lack a healthy and cheerful attitude, so they lack self-confidence and inferiority. They rarely show their strengths in front of the opposite sex, although they are very eager to have the love and gentleness of their lover.
So once someone cares about him and introduces him to friends, he will be very grateful and will cherish this opportunity. But to make matters worse, that stubborn inferiority complex is always hidden and lingering.
When his lover is having a pleasant conversation with another man, when his lover temporarily refuses his invitation because of physical inconvenience, when his lover gets a promotion or a raise, the demon of inferiority will jump out at any time. He puts all his attention on his lover and cares too much about his lover and the people around him. Over time, he will ignore his own advantages and charm more and more, making these advantages and charm that are not redundant gradually die out.
5, sloppy type
Most of these men ignore the importance of love and are indifferent to psychological pleasure. They pay more attention to skin intimacy than emotional communication, and pay more attention to the ending of marriage than the process of love, so they take a hasty attitude towards love. As long as they take a fancy to this girl, and this girl is willing to marry themselves, they even think it is better to get married right away, and it doesn't matter whether they love it or not.
Therefore, as long as there is a little catalysis from external factors, they immediately ask their lovers to enter the besieged city. It can be said that he is a typical sloppy man.
Five kinds of psychology of men in the early stage of love 2 things that men misunderstand most easily in love 13.
1, "I don't like going to my girlfriend's house"
Most men are reluctant to go to the woman's house after falling in love. In different love periods, men have a rare tacit understanding. When the relationship between two people is unstable, men naturally don't want to go to the woman's house, not only because they are afraid of determining the relationship, but also because they are afraid of taking responsibility. When the relationship is confirmed, he doesn't want to go to the woman's house. Even if the other parents are kind to him, he will not take the initiative to visit, because it is always polite to go.
You should see if his character belongs to that kind of person who is particularly shy. If not, you can talk to him and see what makes him unwilling to meet your parents. You must know his thoughts before you can prescribe the right medicine. After all, they are most afraid of getting married. Don't you understand? Men are also afraid of getting married. Because he will lose his personal space and time alone after marriage, you just need to let him know thoroughly that marriage will not be his shackles and he will definitely let go of all his concerns.
2. "It's great that my girlfriend is a beautiful woman, but I prefer to marry a woman who looks average."
Everyone thinks that men prefer beautiful women when they are in love, but in fact not all men like beautiful women. For men, bringing beautiful women will make their faces shine, so they always fantasize that their girlfriend is a big beauty. But they also know that a woman who is too beautiful will make people feel uneasy and cause a fire in the backyard. Once they marry a beautiful woman, they are always worried that their beautiful wife will be remembered by other men and hidden rules by some men who have the right and money, so they dare not go on a business trip or let their wives go out alone. They have to spend a lot of energy on later maintenance, which will kill many nerve cells and make them feel "tired and unloved".
And plain-looking women usually have low expectations of their husbands, and generally don't dislike their husbands' efforts for family happiness. Not only that, they can also do housework, help men and give their husbands more time to concentrate on their careers. Therefore, behind a successful man, there is often a smart and considerate woman, and this woman is often ridiculed by her husband as a "bad wife" whose appearance is not beautiful enough.
3. "Occasionally, I will deliberately say' You are so ugly'"
When a man tells a woman that she is ugly, she is easily excited and may fight back. After a period of irony, she reached a psychological balance. In fact, when a man says his woman is ugly, he is often joking. When another man says his woman is ugly in front of him, he will become a woman, which is also a burst of sarcasm.
Men always make women unpredictable. He loves her, but he is afraid that she will leave him, so he will give her some small blows intentionally or unintentionally, such as "you are ugly", "you have gained a lot of weight recently" and "you are not a beautiful woman, whether you have makeup or not". In fact, what he wants to say in his heart is "I didn't abandon you when you became ugly, proving that I love you" and "You are all mine".
4. "Girlfriend can't replace mom"
Women fantasize that they are the only one for men and even want to take the place of their mothers. Can only say that women who have this idea are too naive and immature emotionally. Men love their girlfriends and mothers differently. The former is love, the latter is affection. On the other hand, if a man can really let you replace his mother and ignore the woman who gave birth to him and raised him, such a man is also unreliable. A woman must not be stupid enough to let a man choose between you and his mother, even if it's just "which one do you save first when your mother and I fall into the water".
5. "Girlfriend will be very cute after listening to yellow jokes."
The survey shows that more than 90% of married men have the habit of telling dirty jokes when they are alone with their girlfriends. Men think this is their own humor, and women think that their men suddenly become very sexy. In fact, just because a man likes telling dirty jokes doesn't mean that he is a playboy, but it may also mean that he likes to see your cute expression of shyness, blushing, heartbeat and being at a loss when you hear dirty jokes. If women understand that dirty jokes are also sweet words of love, they may not feel so insecure for no reason.
6. "Appreciating beauty has nothing to do with betrayal."
No matter how good your boyfriend is to you and how much he loves you, you will find that he is particularly interested in beautiful women. In fact, this can't be said that a man betrayed a woman, nor can he say that he likes her. This is because men themselves have an irresistible impulse to beauty. When they see a woman with her eyes closed, they can't help but want to take another look, or even get close to her.
From a boy's point of view, looking at other women doesn't mean you don't like your girlfriend. Just an appreciation. If you saw a particularly beautiful flower, would you look twice? This is the truth, just like watching a beautiful thing, don't care too much in your heart. If you see a folder of Teacher Cang in his computer, you might as well turn a blind eye.
7. "There are 10,000 excuses not to go shopping with your girlfriend."
Men don't like shopping very much, especially men with girlfriends. For men, a few sets of clothes can make them spend a quarter or even a year, and shopping is completely meaningless. Therefore, many men generally feel that it is particularly tiring to go shopping with their girlfriends, not only as free labor and unlimited cash machines, but also as various shopping consultants sometimes. Every time I go shopping with my girlfriend, I am always half dead.
If you are an ordinary office worker, you don't earn much. To exaggerate, once he went shopping with his girlfriend, his 1/3 salary was gone! Not to mention. The more he strolls around, the more useless he feels and the less he earns. I bought it for his girlfriend. She was happy, but in private, he had to scrimp. Or maybe he is out of male chauvinism. Just thinking about tossing around with a bunch of women in colorful skirts makes him feel that life is worse than death. Whatever the reason, he can only use various excuses to avoid going shopping with you. If you pay close attention, you will find that almost all men in love will have such a love quirk. In fact, men in love usually exist. You don't have to panic, but you have to understand their difficulties.
8. "If you take the initiative, I will be very happy."
Many people think that the initiative in love is in the hands of men, and women lose face when they take the initiative. But in fact, men in love will be more willing to take the initiative. In communication, no one wants to say "I love you" first, because you don't know whether the result is good or bad, but we can be sure of one thing. Almost any man will be as tender as a woman after the feelings of both sides are unfolded. Since we will be together, the symbolic meaning will be deeper and farther. Men don't like to take the initiative, not timid, but afraid of being rejected, and the chances of women being rejected are obviously very small, so men prefer to see you take the initiative.
9. "You made me naive."
Men are tired without women. If they get sick, they will get sick. If they are really tired, they will go to see a doctor. And when they have a woman, even if they are not tired, they will say that they are tired, and they will tell the woman about any minor illness. It's not that they become childish and delicate, but because men like to see women worry about him and look anxious. They want a woman to take care of them and comfort herself with her gentle hands. For them, this is a kind of happiness in a busy life.
10, "Contact your ex-girlfriend? Very normal. "
According to the survey, 70% of men will still have some contact with their ex-girlfriend after falling in love again, but women always think that this man may cheat or change his mind again. When you associate with him, you find that he still keeps in touch with his ex-girlfriend. Don't panic. You have to understand, just because he contacted his ex-girlfriend doesn't mean there must be feelings between them.
A man is a more affectionate person. You should trust him. When he starts a new relationship, his ex-girlfriend has become a friend. If your ex-girlfriend contacts you, don't you want him to ignore everyone? Therefore, when you see these phenomena, all you have to do is to spy on a man's hidden feelings and who he really cares about.
1 1, "I won't break up easily. Once I say it, I'm serious."
Women say 100 times to break up, not once seriously, but as long as men say the word "break up", it contains 80% seriousness. Women should know that once a man breaks up, it is difficult to turn back. When a man thinks that "she and I are really inappropriate", it is too late for a woman to keep anything. A man who can say goodbye must have a heart of stone.
12, "Love doesn't mean sticking to me for 24 hours"
Men don't regard women's 24-hour care as a blessing, but think it is a burden, which makes them breathless. In the eyes of a woman, being around him for 24 hours can take care of his needs, but in the eyes of a man, being around him for 24 hours is a nightmare, as if he were a caged bird, and his every move was under the other person's nose, so uncomfortable.
13, "I will' pretend' that I am excellent when I am in love."
Women often say that men respect themselves when they are in love, and they will soon call to express their nervousness. But when you get married, you show your true colors, like a big man It is true that many men show their best when they pursue women, but aren't women the same? The two sides who also wear masks will find all kinds of small problems after getting close.
On the other hand, after being with you, men become lazy, deliberately leave their clothes unwashed for a week, and deliberately throw books everywhere. In fact, it is because he enjoys watching you busy for him that he has such a naive idea of "hmm ... this woman has become very virtuous because of me". You can get his attention on harmless things, can't you? But don't spoil men!
After knowing what men think, you should also know what men love most about women, so as to better suit the remedy to the case and seize his heart. See if you have all eight characteristics that men choose to love women the most.
Eighth place: can chat.
When chatting, I am most afraid of meeting people who don't talk much or even respond badly. She didn't feel embarrassed when she looked at her expressionless face. We all want to dig a hole or turn around and run ... why do talkative women always have more friends, because there will never be such a dilemma with them!
Seventh place: pay attention to personal hygiene
When we pass by others, if we smell the faint perfume, it will naturally make us relaxed and happy. But if the oncoming smell is sweat, the sour taste of clothes, the irritating smell of cosmetics, or even the smell of oily scalp … it will really make people stay away from it!
Sixth place: tenderness is never out of date.
Compared with people who are too strong, people with gentle personality are more popular, especially when we are depressed. If someone is willing to listen to our complaints, whether it is gentle advice or just listening quietly, it will make us feel "good to have her" and naturally want to get along more in the future!
Fifth place: coquetry is very important.
No matter what age and type of men, women who know how to coquetry are more popular than strong women. After all, we all like the feeling that we need to be affirmed!
Fourth place: generous and decent.
Smile only at handsome guys or rich people, and the rest of the time you will look like shit and even boss people around. This snobbery is really annoying! No one is a masochist. Do you like this kind of woman?
Third place: Do the right thing at the right time.
It is lovely to stay naturally, but it will be very embarrassing to say the wrong thing on important occasions ... A woman who can speak or do things in this atmosphere and occasion is really reassuring, so don't worry about taking her to different friends' parties, because she can always get into the situation.
Second place: it will stir up the atmosphere at the scene.
When the party suddenly falls into silence, if someone can come out to break the deadlock and make the atmosphere warm up again, everyone will worship her like a god. Who doesn't love this kind of woman?
First place: bright smile
Smile is the best cosmetic. Iceberg beauty can only be seen from a distance, not ridiculous. A woman who always smiles is like a warm little sun, and always feels comfortable around her. So, from now on, melt him with your most beautiful smile every day!