Time flies, time flies, everyone is living a completely different life. Some women have become their best in the changes of years, but at the same time, some women are getting worse, worse and worse, and more and more sad. Especially for some middle-aged women, the life gap between them is even more obvious. Some people are happy, while others complain constantly.
Perhaps we can think that middle age is actually a watershed in life, a process from naivety to maturity, from confusion to sobriety. Moreover, in this process, we will constantly increase our life experience and make our life goals clearer. Middle age is a turning point in a woman's life.
Maybe when she was young, a woman's attitude towards love would be braver. Even if they try their best, they will pursue a person they like. Even if this relationship fails, there is still a way out. However, middle-aged women may become more hesitant about love and never dare to do what they want. After all, for middle-aged women, life is full of challenges and traps. If they accidentally fall down, they may never get up again. The price is too high for middle-aged women to lose.
When you are young, you still have the capital to overthrow everything and start a new life, but the life in middle age will determine the life state of this person for the rest of his life. Therefore, if a middle-aged woman is still blindly pursuing something meaningless and valuable to herself at this stage, she is actually wasting time and energy, and then she will not be really happy for the rest of her life.
It's time for middle-aged women to change their attitudes and views on people and things. The life of middle-aged people should not only revolve around love. Love or not may not be that important. The biggest sorrow of middle-aged women is that they don't know? These three words? You can recite it clearly.
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Sister Yang has lived for 50 years, and she has been thinking? Lack of love? It is the greatest sorrow of a middle-aged woman. What's the point of such a life if you can't get the love and care of the man you love? But when she gradually entered the middle-aged state, she sent out such a feeling:? For middle-aged women, being loved is no longer important, and being unclear is the biggest sorrow as a woman. ?
She was married for 25 years. Everyone thought this marriage would be happy forever, but it turned out to be because of her? Can't carry it clearly? , making this marriage come to an end in advance. No matter how sad and regretful she is, her husband is no longer willing to come back to her. Sister Yang is the eldest in the family and has a younger brother at home. The whole family regards this younger brother as the treasure in their hands, and so does Sister Yang.
Even after marriage, she is still responsible for her brother's living expenses as always, and she thinks it is her obligation as an elder sister. Even if her brother has graduated from college and gone out to work, she is always worried that his money is not enough. She must subsidize buying a car and a house, and even want to bear the wedding gift for him. Yang Jie never discusses with her husband every time she gives money to her family, which leads to the growing opinions and dissatisfaction of her husband's family, and the relationship between husband and wife will be affected to some extent.
No matter how her mother-in-law complains and accuses her, no matter how her husband persuades her, she still doesn't want to change her attitude towards her family, because she always feels that she should treat her family without hesitation, regardless of her own gains and losses. However, Yang Jie didn't realize that her practice had hurt her relationship with her husband, and her relationship with her husband was gradually alienated.
She even naively believes that her husband, as the closest person around her, should support and agree with all her decisions. Because of this, she finally lost her husband's heart and failed to keep her marriage. After nothing, Yang Jie knew that the end of the marriage was because she couldn't carry it clearly.
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In fact, for middle-aged women, we must be clear about what is most important to them. Even if no one loves you, it is not terrible, because you can still love yourself. But those? Can't carry it clearly? Some women will not only destroy their original happiness, but also affect their later life.
I can't understand the relationship between my family and my husband's family. It must be a great challenge for all married women to coordinate the relationship between in-laws and parents. If not handled well, it will not only hurt the relationship between the two families, but even affect the feelings between themselves and their husbands.
In real life, many women spend too much time, money and energy on their parents' family. After marriage, they still focus on their parents' families and support them with their own and their husbands' savings. Besides, women haven't realized their mistakes yet. If they keep this mutual pattern for a long time and don't know how to make changes to save the husband's family's heart, their marriage will become fragmented sooner or later.
I can't understand my relationship with my husband. Perhaps women are too kind to their parents, and they are confident that they can do anything in this marriage. Even if she keeps helping and supporting her family, her husband will not complain, and even firmly believes that there will be no cracks in this marriage. A woman thinks that her husband wants to be himself, and even if he gives advice, he never changes. How can such a woman deserve a man's long-term and stable love?
But in fact, in a relationship, both sides should constantly make themselves better, so as to maintain long-term attraction. If you are no longer willing to pay and make changes for each other from the beginning of marriage, then your future relationship will only consume the love in each other's hearts. When there is no love, marriage will come to an end.
So, what should be the biggest sorrow of middle-aged women? Can't carry it clearly? . Women always live in a self-righteous way, so whether it is family friendship or love, it will probably be affected. Middle-aged women should learn to be smarter. Only by grasping the most important thing in your life can you get the greatest happiness. Can't carry it clearly? It's not worth ruining everything you have!