Usually you ask the parents of Xueba, how do you educate your children? The answers are almost strikingly similar. Generally, we don't pay much attention to it. He is self-taught.
Is that really the case? Maybe some students really do, but most students don't. Their success is inseparable from the efforts behind their parents. To some extent, the parents of Xueba pay far more than ordinary parents.
The son of colleague Xiao Li's family is also a proper schoolmaster. Children are all famous schools all the way, and learning is not hard at all. When someone asked Xiao Li about parenting classics, Xiao Li replied faintly that he didn't care much about him. He taught himself.
Only colleagues who are very close to Xiao Li will know that the child's growth has broken his parents' hearts. It can even be said that without the efforts of parents, this child can't be a schoolmaster at all.
L preschool problems
Although both Xiao Li and her husband graduated in 1985, their expectations for their children are not high at all, because the children are not outstanding at all before going to school, but there are many problems.
It may be a sequela of caesarean section. Xiao Li's son has poor coordination ability since he was a child. He speaks, crawls and walks much slower than normal children. Even when he was 3 years old, he couldn't walk steadily.
Because of the great difference with children of the same age, Xiao Li took the children to the hospital for examination. The conclusion was that the sensory system was out of balance and had no effect on intelligence, but the brain and body were out of harmony, which greatly affected normal life.
During the whole kindergarten, Xiao Li and her husband were busy giving their children rehabilitation training in professional institutions. At that time, their only wish was that their son could grow up healthily like other children.
The pain of the lower grade students in primary school
Such a child, parents will naturally not have too high requirements. Xiao Li's housing in Shanghai is a school district, and the counterpart is a well-known primary school, which has very high requirements for children.
Grade one or two in primary school is very difficult for Xiao Li. Busy with rehabilitation training, Xiao Li's son really entered this prestigious school on a zero basis. To put it simply, Xiao Li's son was very different from other students when he entered school.
Children have poor foundation and high school requirements. Although the teachers are also very responsible, almost every day, the children are taught by themselves, but the effect of tutoring is not obvious because of their weak learning ability.
On the contrary, children are afraid of learning, tired of learning and don't want to go to school. The teacher found this problem in time, so he reduced the frequency of counseling and communicated with parents, hoping that parents would participate.
Obviously, part of the pressure began to shift to parents, although the teacher was also very responsible, clearly telling parents what to teach and how to teach, and there was no problem in home-school communication.
This period may be the most difficult time for Xiao Li's family. Going home every night should not only help my son study, but also pay attention to controlling his emotions so as not to hurt his children.
Fortunately, husband and wife Qi Xin work together. Dad couldn't control his emotions and went out for a cigarette to change his mother's bed. Mother watched the tears flow down. Dad hurried forward to relay, and the husband and wife encouraged each other to help the children move forward together.
During the period, I wanted to give up countless times and thought about transferring schools countless times. Fortunately, Xiao Li and his wife persisted. In the second grade, my son barely reached the minimum standard of the school, and his grades were lower than the middle class.
Cheating in the third grade
I thought children were not cut out for study, and that's all for life. But by chance, Xiao Li and his wife found their son's memory quite amazing. For example, dad follows his fingers on the road, and the children can still remember it clearly when they get home.
So, Xiao Li and his wife tried to follow the crowd and send their children to learn the Olympics. Of course, Xiao Li's father not only accompanied him all the way, but also took notes so that he could come back and explain to his children.
In this attempt, I found that my son's understanding ability is ok, and he can understand it after explaining it several times at home. Although some difficult problems still can't be solved, the basic Olympic math problems are still no problem.
Xiao Li tried to sign up for an Olympic math contest for her children, but she was afraid to sign up for the top prize contest for fear of hitting her children. She only entered a relatively ordinary Olympic math competition for her little doctor, but the children still didn't get any prizes.
In order to stimulate children's enthusiasm for learning and build up their confidence, their father bought a certificate himself and made a certificate for the second prize of the Olympic Mathematics Competition for Little Doctors, telling them that he was great and won the prize.
L counterattack at the beginning of Xiao Sheng
It is hard to imagine that a false certificate has such a great effect on children. After getting the certificate, my son's attitude towards learning has changed a lot. It seems that he suddenly feels that he can do it, and he does not resist or reject learning.
There is nothing wrong with his intelligence. Once he has confidence, he wants to study. With the help of school teachers and family members, Xiao Li's son has made rapid progress. By the fourth grade, his grades had been in the top ten in his class.
At the same time, the child participated in the Olympic Mathematics Competition of the Central Cup in the fourth grade and won the second prize in the final, which is the first certificate that the child obtained by virtue of his own ability.
It is also with this certificate that the child was successfully admitted to a private brother Huayu Middle School in Shanghai when choosing a school, which Xiao Li and his wife never dreamed of.
L junior high school is also suffering.
Children who enter Huayu Middle School are not assigned to large and small science classes, but to parallel classes. To this end, the children are not convinced and work hard in secret. The early years may be the most worry-free year for Xiao Li. That year, the child ranked third in the class.
Maybe he has proved his learning ability. Xiao Li's son began to fly by himself, fell in love with video games, and even began to fool his homework. He also copied his classmates' answers. The grades plummeted.
With learning ability, there is a problem with learning attitude. Parents began to fight with their children. Children should close the door when studying at home. Every time parents push the door in, they will find their children playing games in most cases. In a rage, Mr. Li changed the door into a glass door.
Children feel that their privacy has been violated, so they stick various stickers on the glass door, and the two sides reach a balance on this one. Tablet computers can't be confiscated, because children need to find information and some questions need to be searched and answered.
Parents just deleted all the games on the tablet, but it didn't help. Children can keep files or go to websites to watch others play games. Or sleep until midnight to play games at night, which will inevitably affect the next day's study.
When Xiao Li and his wife get home, they should sit in the hall through the glass door and urge their children to study. At night, they should get up and go to their son's room to see if the children are playing games.
After being arrested several times, the child learned to be smart, put an empty paper box in the hall, and pretended to sleep immediately after hearing the parents kicking the paper box. Parents naturally have a way to deal with it, and directly touch the phone or tablet to see if it is hot.
The whole junior high school stage is the history of the struggle between the two sides. The two sides fought bravely, and Xiao Li's son's grades were as high and low as ECG. When he is good, he can enter the top 20 of the grade, and when he is not good, he will count down to the class directly.
In junior high school, Xiao Li and his wife were exhausted by their son. Fortunately, parents persistently urged Xiao Li to be admitted to Shanghai Middle School, the first of the four famous schools in Shanghai.
L there are new problems in high school
It is forbidden to bring smart phones in high school, and offenders will be prosecuted. Finally solve the problem of the game. However, new problems have emerged. The study in this prestigious school is not only fast, but also very difficult and involves a wide range.
The school's grade ranking is 100 to grade ranking is less than 10. That is to say, the one-point ranking is poor 10 people. In such a learning environment, the competition is naturally fierce.
Xiao Li's son felt system disorder when he was a child. The main reason seems to be intermittent vestibular dysfunction. Once you are too anxious or nervous, the symptoms are dizziness and vomiting. Once it happens, this phenomenon will last for 2-3 days.
Obviously, this situation has a great influence on learning. So Xiao Li and his wife decided to rent a house near the school. After the children come home from self-study in the evening, their parents accompany them to exercise, do rehabilitation exercises and do logistics work for them.
The husband and wife try their best to make their children happy, reduce the pressure of study, decompress their children as much as possible, and don't set goals for them.
Constant efforts finally paid off. In 20021year, Xiao Li's son scored 6 14 in the college entrance examination and was admitted to a popular major in Tsinghua University through the Strong Foundation Program.
Write at the end:
Although Xiao Li's son is a special case, his growth process is full of ups and downs, some of which are caused by congenital factors and some are caused by acquired human factors.
Fortunately, the child was born in this family, and the parents provided almost unlimited help and help to the child. It was these help that made the child finally show his Excellence.
Whether it is primary school, junior high school or senior high school, as long as parents fall off the chain in any link, it is very likely to rewrite the results. Without this family, the children probably wouldn't have achieved today.
In fact, children are basically the same. There may be perfect children in this world, but the probability is extremely low. No matter whether you are a bully or an ordinary child, you will have problems of one kind or another, and you need outside help.
Therefore, there is no need to envy those schoolmasters. Behind their success, a high probability is inseparable from the painstaking efforts of their parents. In a sense, Xueba is cultivated by these responsible parents.
Even most parents of Xueba didn't think their children were Xueba at first, but under the inner cultivation, their children became better and better, and finally completed the transformation, that's all.