1. Duration of sexual activity
Although short-term sex often cannot fully satisfy both men and women, the longer the sex, the better. The key is to give the woman enough time to stimulate her passion.
If the woman starts to have sex without adequate preparation, no matter how long the sex lasts, the woman's reaction is indifferent, and 10 minutes, 20 minutes or even longer can't achieve sex. However, with full preparation and high sexual excitement, most women can achieve sex after 1.5 ~ 5 minutes of sex.
Generally speaking, the whole sex time of 10 ~ 20 minutes can satisfy most men and women. Too long sexual life often makes people feel tired, reduces local sensitivity, and even feels bored and tired. Of course, there are great differences among individuals in this respect.
2. The size of the sex organs
This is a question that many men are confused and full of prejudice. In fact, female * * * is an inclusive organ, which can accommodate the delivery of a baby.
Sexologists have found that female * * * is the most sensitive organ, followed by * * * mouth, including the size of * * *, while * * * nerve receptors are mainly concentrated in the outer 1/3, and the less the inward distribution, the less sensitive it is.
Therefore, in terms of sex, * * * is not the bigger the better, and the local pain that big * * * makes women feel is much higher than normal * * *.
3. The importance of female sexuality
Although sex can make women get great happiness and satisfaction, it is not necessary. For the vast majority of women, there is no sexual life in the early stage of sexual life, and strong sexual excitement will make them feel satisfied, which is "sexual satisfaction without sexual life." At this time, they have moist sexual organs, releasing physical tension and spiritual satisfaction. Many sexologists believe that it is quite good for women to have sex for 5-7 times out of 10.
There are many reasons for women's sexual apathy: sexual psychology and physiology are not really "mature", hormonal imbalance, improper caressing and sexual behavior skills, and her husband is too fast. Of course, there is also the "sexual satisfaction without sex" mentioned above.
Although many women have never experienced sex, they are satisfied with their husbands and their sexual lives. The wife's responsibility for not having sex is not necessarily on her husband, but more likely that their sexual life is not harmonious, such as: the wife is too introverted and suppresses her sexual response; The husband doesn't know what his wife needs, although he knows it in his heart, but he doesn't want to make it clear; Although the wife can achieve sex, she must adopt some * * * way that doesn't look "decent", and try her best to hide her own requirements, and so on. Therefore, in order to achieve sex, mutual understanding and full expression between husband and wife are essential.
4. Spoil between husband and wife
The tenderness between husband and wife, especially the wife's love for her husband, does not mean having sex. They need caress more, including loving kisses, hugs and caresses, and even gossiping. They can feel the care, love and comfort from their lovers. As marriage expert Srde said: "As an art, caressing can bring great * * *, which is no less * * * than sex itself.
In the marriage life that people yearn for and pursue, caressing should be paid attention to. Some people may be unwilling to accept sudden sexual behavior, but it seems that no one is unwilling to accept caress. Therefore, don't "get on the wrong dock and get on the wrong boat" for the love signal sent by your lover, thinking that your lover longs for tenderness and sex.
5. Harmonious sex life
Harmonious sex life requires both men and women to have sex at the same time? In fact, under normal circumstances, it is difficult for both men and women to reach orgasm at the same time in every sexual life. According to some data, only 18% couples can have sex at the same time under relatively natural circumstances.
And artificially adjusting the arrival time of sex * * * often does more harm than good, because it will increase the ideological burden in the process of sexual behavior, make people afraid that the arrival time of sex * * * will not be as expected, and do everything possible to restrain their own sex * * * from coming ahead of time, which will actually inhibit sexual excitement and sexual ability, and even lead to the occurrence of "expected neurosis". In fact, harmonious sex life is not for both men and women to achieve sex at the same time. What is really needed is the maximum care, consideration and understanding of both sides, and the physical and mental pleasure generated on this basis.
6. Silent sex life
It is a common misunderstanding among women that taciturn sexual life lacks feelings. Of course, if you can have a perfect sex life and hear a touching confession, that would be great. But doing so often distracts men's attention and inhibits sexual excitement. A sexologist abroad said it well: at this time, a woman has two choices, either to listen to the other person's love but his erection is not ideal, or to cooperate with her husband who is absorbed in silence.
7. Couples talk about sex.
The conversation between husband and wife depends on the attitudes and ways of both parties. If the conversation turns into a quarrel, it is not conducive to solving the problem and seriously affects the intimate relationship between the two sides.
Husband and wife should communicate with each other in a positive, enthusiastic and sincere manner on sexual issues; At the same time, you should be measured and tactful when necessary; Pay attention to listen to each other's opinions, respect each other's wishes and express their sexual demands. You can't impose them on others, and you can't do what others don't want to do. Love between the two sexes is both a need and a dedication, and both sides should make a choice in sexual behavior. When you master these principles of sexual behavior, talking about sexual problems between husband and wife can enhance the relationship between husband and wife.
8. Does sexual confusion come from * * * behavior?
For a long time, people think that * * * makes people weak and distracted, and even makes people suffer from mental illness and other incurable diseases. With the popularization of sexual science knowledge, more and more people realize that * * * is a normal physiological phenomenon.
Sexologists say that for young people, * * * is a gate. When young people are excited, it can save them from the "explosion" and find a solution to the flood of young people's sex. For adults, it can relieve the physical and mental tension caused by the lack of sexual life and has a good auxiliary effect on the human sexual system.
9. Postmenopausal sexual activity
When men and women reach menopause, with the increase of age, hypogonadism finally stops and enters a new physiological stage, but this does not mean the termination of sexual activities.
A survey of 4246 men and women aged 50-93 abroad shows that 3/4 of elderly women over 60 and men over 70 are still sexually active, 3/4 of men over 70 are still interested in sex appeal, and12 of women over 70 are still interested in sex appeal. A survey in China also shows that more than half of the elderly are normal, while those who have lost * * * are 12%, which is only a minority.
At the same time, a large number of research data at home and abroad show that the middle-aged and elderly people insist on regular sex life, which is conducive to deepening the feelings of elderly couples, preventing premature aging of sexual organs and prolonging life. Of course, the sexual life of the elderly is not necessarily a sexual act, and mutual caressing can also make them sexually satisfied and physically and mentally happy.