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What kind of marriage is happy? Russell, a famous philosopher, believes that human marriage and sexual morality have undergone a long evolutionary process, and their contents have also undergone earth-shaking changes. In history, knowledge about sex has always been taboo or in a dark field. Russell advocates that young people get healthy and positive sex education, so that they have a serious attitude towards marriage and love. He believes that a happy marriage should meet some conditions, such as both husband and wife feel completely equal, freedom of non-interference, perfect integration of body and mind, and similar values ...
On the topics of love, X, marriage, family, trial marriage, divorce, population, eugenics and so on, Russell elaborated with vivid and fluent words. Today, these words of wisdom still inspire us how to manage marriage and get happiness.
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Bertrand Russell (1872- 1970), a British philosopher, logician and social critic, is famous for his outstanding achievements in mathematical logic and analytical philosophy, and is one of the founders of modern analytical philosophy. He also devoted himself to the popularization of philosophy, and was awarded the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1950 for publishing articles on marriage and morality. His representative works include History of Western Philosophy, Principles of Mathematics and Analysis of Things.
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Patriarchy and Shenzhen culture's imprisonment on human nature. Russell tried to ease and eliminate the conflict between love and traditional morality with an inclusive and open new moral concept, but the free realization and beautiful emotion of human beings are still difficult and difficult. Love is based on the same values and is also subject to the soil of social culture.
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Marriage is more serious than the happiness brought by two people accompanying each other. As an organizational system, marriage builds a closer social structure by virtue of the fact of having children, which is far more important than the personal feelings of husband and wife.
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Although there are limitations, it can also cause thinking.
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Even if there are jumping conclusions from time to time, and too many topics are often involved (ethics, sociology and anthropology ...), Russell's (popular sketches) always brings pleasure, which comes from his philosophy and attitude towards life (Wang Xiaobo said "X, wisdom and interest are the same"). We are also talking about a topic that can still hit the pain points of contemporary people.
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The focus is on thighs. I want to cry.
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After reading it in one breath, the translation is ok, and it is not difficult to read. I quite agree with Russell's views on sex and family. But I don't agree with him about marriage.
? Russell believes that the essence of marriage is to have children, and the responsibility for children is far greater than the romantic love between husband and wife. For the healthy growth of children, both husband and wife should exercise self-restraint, maintain a harmonious relationship, and even tolerate infidelity for children. The reason in favor of divorce turned out to be that the husband and wife lacked self-restraint, and the family environment in which the husband and wife accused each other of quarreling caused harm to the children. It's better to get divorced before it's too late.
? In my opinion, the reason for marriage and divorce is always because of oneself, not children. On the basis of safety, hygiene and stability, premarital sex is acceptable, and unmarried pregnancy is unacceptable. The unexpected arrival of a small life is actually very contradictory. It is difficult to strangle a small life, but it is too hasty to decide to enter marriage for him/her, which will largely be the reason for the breakdown of marriage in the future. The reason for entering marriage is that everything is suitable, not just because of children. Marriage is cautious and serious to me. Besides, getting pregnant before marriage is really cheap for girls.
? The essence of marriage, I think, is that life is not easy. Find a person who knows each other and loves each other to support each other and make life miserable. Personal feelings and values are 1 in marriage, not children.
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Nowadays, most men and women are like inorganic things, and their marriage lacks real and profound love. This kind of love is entirely possible if they are less bound by taboos in their childhood. They lack the necessary experience, and even if they have such experience, they have obtained it through secret or improper means. In addition, because jealousy is praised by moralists, people think that mutual supervision is completely justified. Of course, it would be great if the husband and wife love each other and have no infidelity.
However, even if infidelity does occur, it should not be regarded as a terrible thing, especially if there is no friendship between the two sexes. A good life cannot be based on the mutual interference of fear, bondage and freedom. Without the above factors, we can still remain loyal, which is of course good, but if we feel that maintaining loyalty requires a very high price, then if we accidentally stumble, it is better to understand each other. There is no doubt that even with physical loyalty, the marital misfortune caused by mutual jealousy is often much greater than that caused by mutual conviction that there is a deep and lasting love in the end.
According to the viewpoint of marriage revolution, the author despises that the loyalty of marriage is restricted by mutual "monitoring", and a good life depends on self-control, even vaguely revealing that even infidelity does not matter. At least, you are convinced, and you probably won't have any doubts, which far exceeds jealousy and happiness.
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This is a rare good book for readers with serious reading habits. The ideas inside are about topics that ordinary people dare not talk about. From the perspective of human rights, they refuted some old moral concepts. Note that some old moral concepts are still common today. ) put forward some ideas to reform the marriage system, and predicted and prospected the future marriage. I hope you can find the topics you are interested in in in the following catalogue. The content is positive and constructive. Although Russell, as a western scholar, had a westernized view and a biased understanding of the East, he did not agree with China. However, it is undeniable that in recent hundreds of years, the influence of the West on the world has been much greater than that of the East. Since the 1980s, we have been exposed to more Western ideas. There are still many places worth learning and criticizing.