As a post-80s generation, when I was a child, I saw Little Tiger painting "Heart" on TV and singing: "String up your heart and mine ..." I thought it was love. I watched the mantis girl in the black cat sheriff eat her husband with tears, thinking that this is also love ... when I grow up, I find that people will wait for love as long as they have a wish; It is also slowly discovered that only "love" can cure "fear", and only "love" is our belief. On the island of mental safety, we received letters from thousands of travelers. Behind the "fear" is the need for "love"-let's see what the love that makes us both look forward to and contradict life is. Our psychological age is about to grow old with our appearance, but at least our hearts should be warm. "bitter almond tea", a safe traveler of love, said, "everyone has his own safety island, so do I? Maybe I don't know, but after reading your messages, I found that we are all so unsafe now. Why? " The traveler said, "I once broke up with three boyfriends because I refused to have sex with them." Sometimes I think they are probably with me because of sex. I should be glad to lose them! " But after a long time, I feel insecure about men. Wang Piaopiao, a spiritual traveler, said, "I want too much and put too much pressure on myself." In the process of taking, I was frequently knocked down by reality. I found myself so distrustful of my own ability and realistic environment, which led to too many psychological obstacles. In the quiet night, I found that more and more people like to think quietly, insomnia ... how should we live? "Psychoanalysis: For the post-80s generation, social changes are both quick and subtle. When I was a child 1 Mao 1 Bao Ximei is now sold in 5 yuan; When I was a child, there were only two or three single-parent children in a class. Nowadays, divorced parents are everywhere ... The more they face uncontrollable changes, the more they need stable love. Whether it is affection, love or friendship, I hope to be full of security. But we are used to being alone, and it is not skilled or easy to establish close relationships with other people. We must first learn to trust and then gain a sense of security. Of all the psychological resources, what we want most is a sense of security, and what we love most is a sense of security. If feelings, relationships, materials, wishes and ideals can be controlled by ourselves, it will be a perfect world-although it is impossible to completely control them, we always hope that many people and things can be long-term, stable and safe. Two "love" personality travelers "Guo Mudan" said: "I like things with personality. Hairstyles, clothes and mobile phones should be the latest and most personalized. Bad for me? Very fickle? Although I know in my heart that some people hate other people's personality, I still feel that I am not me without personality! "Cheng Cheng" traveler said: "Why do I often have a secret crush, and the person who has a secret crush has a lot of personality? I feel normal, so I dare not confess. Am I bored with such a special person? "Psychoanalysis: When I want to go to school after 80, it is the peak of enrollment; When I want to work after 1980, it is the peak of employment; When we wanted to buy a house after 80s, there were fewer houses, more people and soaring house prices-we were almost crushed by our own people. If we don't have some personality, how can we "mix"? So when there is an idol star, idolize and imitate; When you have the latest fashion products, you should also have a credit card ... Sometimes, the price of loving personality is being swallowed up by personality. Sometimes, the more you look individual, the paler your heart is, the more you have personality, but you can't find yourself. Who can say that I have never hidden behind my personality to protect myself? It is a superficial phenomenon that post-80s love individuality and love is different. In fact, what we really love is a state of independence, non-attachment and self-existence. 3. "Radish Pulling", a traveler who loves "free heart", said: "I am tired of working from nine to six, and I really want to be free, but people often say that when I am free, I have no money, and when I have money, I have no freedom. How can people live so depressed? The traveler "Space Bobo" said, "I am twenty-six years old, but my parents always interfere with me. I have to find a job and a partner. Aren't these all my own things? "Why can't I make my own decisions?" The heart traveler "Solanum nigrum" said, "I have been in love many times, and I am surprised every time I break up. Why can't I settle down ... I think if I stay with someone for a long time, I will be bound. I'm afraid of this. I want to be free, grasp myself at any time, and don't give myself to others ... "Psychoanalysis: I don't want to be controlled, managed or bound. Even though many of us have a tangled parent-child relationship with our parents, we still want to get rid of the management of our parents and live for ourselves. However, the hatred and love between the only child and his parents are sometimes difficult to disassemble, and love is sometimes a kind of control, so sometimes the generation born after 80 will not even love for freedom. Therefore, we are so easy to "have no love" and so easy to be full of love, not wanting love, but wanting freedom. I always hope that I can do better, protect others, realize my ideal and become a strong and brave person. The dreamer "A.D. 1627" said, "I'm going to work. I didn't sleep late, no classmates, no classroom, no campus. " Do people who work get old fast? Will there be no passion? I really hope my parents can support me for a few more years. Hehe, it's embarrassing to say it ... how did you face this problem after 80? Is it too empty to simply ask me to adapt slowly ... the traveler "fashionista" said, "Why can't I live the life of a comic book hero? They can have good results as long as they struggle, but I struggle and struggle. Why am I always disappointed? "psychoanalysis: animation, comics, Japanese dramas, Korean dramas ... the virtual life at your fingertips is so wonderful that it is difficult for the post-80 s to accept the reality. We like to dream, so many people like to sleep ... the dream world is closer to the ideal. Sometimes, our love of dreaming is not whimsical, nor escape from society, but a kind of self-treatment. When the reality is cruel, we are meaningless, thinking in our minds. Those who are unacceptable, those who are painful, those who are contradictory, and those who are wrong seem to be able to laugh it off. Dreamers are not empty, have a sense of humor, and can quickly restore hope even if they are often disappointed. I am an embarrassed boy, but I think this is a good attitude. I like this expression. I always feel that life is embarrassing. I want to be healthy, that's all! The heart walker "cried poor" and said, "It's embarrassing when you're lovelorn. Very painful. I felt embarrassed when I was stood up. I was embarrassed when I failed the exam. I was embarrassed when all my money was spent. Don't be infatuated with me. I'm just embarrassed. Psychoanalysis: Embarrassment was once popular in 2008, and now it can only be regarded as an outdated word. But I believe it must still be on our faces. We are embarrassed because this expression is innocent and simple. We are really not pretending, but really ignorant. We are used to new things, but it doesn't mean that we have adapted to them. Those shocking things, the most beautiful things, things worthy of BS … We all have some opinions, but we really feel that many things happen for their own reasons. What can we do besides embarrassment? In fact, we accept many people and things more easily than the older generation. We think there is nothing unacceptable about this race, this syndrome and that syndrome ... even BT and ET. Isn't this a kind of "love" (fraternity)? Is there anything bigger than embarrassment? Highlight ... six "love" otaku traveler "Silent House" said: "I am a otaku. Anyway, I don't want to touch anything except cartoons and games every day. I am in my own world. I hid. I know it's a little autistic, isn't it? But I like it. " Heart walker [Slow Ji] said: "I stay at home except for work, but I want to fall in love, but I feel troublesome. Why don't I just stay here, enjoy myself, occasionally talk to each other and feel each other's appreciation? " "I haven't contacted friends for more than half a year this year, and now I have no friends. At work, I haven't worked for five months. Now, I don't want to go out and see anyone. I always stay alone in my room, playing games and watching videos. Paralyze yourself, and some people always feel that they are useless. I don't know what to do. " Psychoanalysis: There is no time when people are more accustomed to loneliness than we are, because we have no brothers and sisters, so we will play with ourselves from an early age. Therefore, even if I like to be lively and call my friends occasionally, I like to leave some alone time for myself every day, writing blogs, listening to songs and watching videos ... This is the best way to cherish myself. Socialization, sometimes like a toy, is boring when you are alone, so you play with others. But toys are toys after all. For the post-80s generation, we are actually introverted. We care about ourselves and love ourselves, so we love our house. The house is a kind of protection-just like when we were young, we were used to looking after the house alone, and the space at home really made us belong. As a way of rest, who can say it's not good? DuDu, a traveler who loves stealth, said, "I can be invisible on qq or msn. I'm used to it, and so are my friends, so before we speak, we all ask,' Are you there?' The traveler "Maji Potato" said, "I like to wear black clothes, so that I can hide in the crowd at any time ..." Psychoanalysis: When I am found and paid attention, I will be anxious-is this only after 1980s? We were paid too much attention when we were young? Still ignored, so that we all want to hide. In fact, the need to hide is the psychological characteristics of human beings, but in this era of developed networks, hiding is as easy as exposing. If you don't want to be harassed by strangers, advertising messages and spam messages, the best way is to be invisible; In interpersonal relationships, not letting others know your schedule is sometimes a kind of self-protection. People who know too much are unsafe. People who know too much may be controlled and anxious, so it is better to be invisible. How much we love invisibility, just look at our qq. Apple, a traveler who loves Baidu, said, "I seem to have search engine syndrome again. Anyway, if I am curious about something, I will search it, and sometimes I will search my name ... "The traveler said," I fell in love with that Ta, and I found the contact information of Ta on the Internet. Do you think I should call? " Psychoanalysis: information is very important to the post-80s generation, and ignorance is also very important to the post-80s generation-we often have to keep ourselves in an ignorant state, just like the recycling bin should be emptied at any time to load the needed information at any time. Therefore, we are all a Baidu "search engine syndrome". Whether it's names, new words, maps or phone numbers, as long as they are unfamiliar, we can have a look. So we have the courage to pretend to know even if we don't know. Knowledge is no longer a fixed thing, but a search ability. As long as you can search, you can become an authority. Facts have proved that human flesh search is powerful, which is also the power that the post-80 s intelligence can master. We love Baidu and search. Of course, goole is also good. Gigi, a nosy traveler, said, "Why are there so many mistresses now, can't you be a little moral?" There are so many men in the world, why bother others ... "The old legend of the new traveler said:" Some netizens commented that they are too irresponsible, don't know how to respect others, and can't type Chinese characters correctly. Serious bs … "Xin traveler" painted magic ww "said:" I'm here to make soy sauce … but I still want to say, let's make soy sauce, or leave others alone. Psychoanalysis: Some people always say that the post-80s generation has no sense of social responsibility, which is unfair! In fact, we are the most socially responsible. Go to forums, BBS and blogs. Those comments and posts are all expounding our views and positions. We are all gossips and nosy. It's just that our way of participation is not to do anything, we just express our views, and bs of bs is very supportive. Dialectics tells us that everything new in the world has two sides. You can have an attitude, but you can't stop it from happening. So we mind our own business, and generally use soy sauce and push-ups to gain popularity. We all have a say in this social model and people's lifestyle, which is the entrance for us to intervene. Huo Yan, who loves to eat, drink and be merry in Time Traveler, said, "Don't always think about tomorrow, live today well. Anyway, I am just like this. I am very happy! Traveler "has a Qian Qian knot in his heart" says: "Love makes us miserable and makes us happy. The ups and downs of life let us learn to grow up. Sometimes I find relief for myself and just want to pursue my own happiness. Facing life, a merciless smile won't let you fall into the abyss. "psychoanalysis: our ancestors always taught us to be stable, safe and think about tomorrow ... but we still long for the old, with moonlight and flash. Is this progress or retrogression? Is it more important to live in the present than to work hard for tomorrow? We all love ourselves and our lives. On the boring way to work, we should buy an mp3 and mp4 for entertainment. We also buy ourselves houses, cars and digital products by installment ... We really prefer eating, drinking and having fun, and let ourselves enjoy happiness immediately. Today's happiness is our strongest psychological motivation, but it is precisely in this way that we have enough confidence to get old and have enough courage to fight for tomorrow. There is no better love than this. Love is love and a sincere heart. Even if this sincerity is a foolish loyalty, we will move forward bravely. Times have changed us and changed our way of life. We can confidently choose the road that few people take for ourselves and our spiritual happiness. We treat our fears with love. Even if we are weak, love can protect the last "energy core". Our love doesn't need an object at all, because the ten things we love are more rooted in our own hearts. Please prove with love that the post-80s generation is a great generation, and we will grow old together with youth.
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