For each of us who enters the marriage door, each of us has our own understanding and experience of marriage. Naturally, each of us has our own views and opinions on the root of extramarital affairs. However, different people have different opinions. Therefore, each of us has different views on the root of extramarital affairs.
So, what is the root of extramarital affairs? Perhaps, about the root of extramarital affairs, we can analyze it like this:
First, no one will really be responsible for anyone without a truly loving marriage!
Whether it is "extramarital affairs" or all phenomena, we are all looking for the root of some things. In short, we should start from the real "root".
Marriage is the product of the same root of husband and wife, and this product (marriage) appears because of the voluntary choice of both men and women.
Well, this finds one of the root causes of extramarital affairs: since it is a voluntary choice of both men and women, that is to say, this marriage should be sincere love and love between men and women.
However, how much do we really like and love in our marriage? Look at the present, look at the reality of our lives, how many people really came together for a feeling, a pure love? Most people, most marriages, are a kind of matching and choice of conditions! "So-and-so conditions are good, how much is the monthly income from work, what is the status of parents, and you will have a good life when you get married!"
A marriage with matching conditions, when the matching of such conditions is out of balance, the other party's conditions change, or our own conditions improve, can we still be satisfied with just such a person to accompany us? Of course not! Then, in our eyes, there are new people worthy of us. As a result, extramarital affairs appeared. Because there is no true love marriage, no one will really be responsible for anyone!
Second, modern people's psychology has been distorted, a distorted value concept full of material and money.
As far as modern people are concerned, it is almost unimaginable to find a love or marriage that can last forever once they hold hands. The reason why we say this is because everyone living in modern times can't get rid of the brand left by the times in this specific environment-in this materialistic era, each of us takes the material and money we have as the standard to measure the happiness of life, while ignoring the feelings and love as the basis of marriage. Then, such a marriage, such a partner, becomes worthless before it is enjoyed, and extramarital affairs are freely produced.
Third, selfishness and lack of responsibility are hotbeds of extramarital affairs.
Modern people, it can be said that we are all selfish, and we can't see the people of our parents' generation who are "lifelong companions" or "self-reliant", but we can use our lives to protect the safety of that person or maintain the loyalty and dignity of marriage. Not only that, on the contrary, we will not defend our loyalty and dignity to marriage with our lives, or even sacrifice our lives for someone who can be replaced at any time. After all, modern people understand that "no one is unique" in marriage at any time, because we all learn to think about our own way out, forget the vows we made when we entered the marriage hall, and forget that there is still a responsibility in marriage.
Therefore, I have no sense of responsibility for marriage, I don't know how to be loyal to marriage, I just think about myself and live selfishly; Pursue material enjoyment and covet vanity, because the inducement of material money may lead to "substitution" at any time; Marriage without love-this is the root of extramarital affairs, which is how extramarital affairs are produced!
Therefore, marriage must marry love! Moreover, learn to attach importance to feelings, respect your own feelings, and understand that there is a loyal responsibility in marriage, so that our marriage can "hold hands and grow old together"!