Model essay on interpersonal communication and mental health 1
People's growth and development can not be separated from interpersonal communication. The success or failure of interpersonal communication reflects a person's mental health level and social adaptability. To some extent, it determines the success or failure of life and career. A person without communication skills, like a ship on land, will never drift into the magnificent sea. Carnegie, a famous American educator, once pointed out that only 15% of a person's career success is determined by his professional skills, and the other 85% depends on interpersonal relationships.
Everyone wants to have a beautiful interpersonal world, more friends and sincere friendship with them. For growing primary and secondary school students, many psychological problems are related to interpersonal communication. This problem can not be solved, which directly affects students' life, study and physical and mental health. Therefore, understanding the basic theory of interpersonal communication, common problems in communication and how to communicate effectively are the main issues discussed in this chapter.
First, the significance of interpersonal communication
Do you see it? People? The structure of the word, one left and one press, is inseparable, interdependent and mutually supportive. Without interpersonal communication, people can't live happily. Especially when encountering difficulties, interpersonal communication is particularly important.
(A) contribute to self-understanding
A person can have a clearer understanding of all aspects of himself only by understanding his position in the eyes of others and society through others' attitudes and evaluations of himself and his relationship with others, so as to constantly standardize himself and improve himself in his behavior.
(b) Information exchange function
Communication between people is a process of exchanging information, knowledge, experience and emotion. In modern society, information is particularly important. For the wise, information is wealth, and grasping information in time means success; At the same time, information is wisdom and an important condition for innovation and achievement tomorrow. A person's knowledge and experience are limited, and a lot of information can be obtained directly through communication. Sometimes a word from others will inspire people deeply. Sometimes I am confused by my own problems, and I suddenly get inspiration in casual conversation with people. In communication, in fact, the biggest beneficiary is yourself. If ten people associate and each person speaks one message, he gets nine messages. In life, some students are always worried that their experiences will be known by others, and they will surpass themselves instead of interacting with others, resulting in their ignorance and difficulty in making progress.
(C) to enhance the feelings between people
The need for belonging and love is the common need of human beings, and the important condition to meet the needs is communication. In communication, people exchange feelings with each other; When others are happy, share happiness with them. When others are sad, they will gain more understanding and relief. It was friendship that shared the burden in their hearts. Friendship enhances the feelings between people. Practice has proved that the more communication, the deeper feelings, the less communication, and the indifference and distance between feelings.
(D) conducive to physical and mental health
For growing students, many psychological problems are related to interpersonal communication. If this problem is not solved, it will directly affect students' life, study and physical and mental health. Especially the teacher-student relationship, if the teacher-student relationship is not good, students will be more depressed or impatient because they can't get the teacher's care and respect, and will accumulate into psychological problems over time. On the contrary, a good teacher-student relationship is an important factor affecting students' mental health, which can meet students' psychological needs and produce positive emotional experience, which is directly helpful to relieve psychological tension and pressure. This requires teachers to have a good teacher-student relationship.
Second, the basic principles of interpersonal communication
If you want to establish a good relationship, you must follow the following principles in communication:
equal rule
Equality is the premise of establishing a good relationship between teachers and students. With the improvement of people's cultural quality and the awakening of self-awareness, the sense of equality is becoming increasingly clear. Teachers face many students, whether they come from rural areas or cities, and there is no difference between them. Everyone is equal, and teachers should be treated equally. If this principle is violated and the authority of teachers is regarded as condescending, the relationship between teachers and students will inevitably become rigid, which is manifested as inequality between teachers and students.
(B) the principle of respect
The need for respect is the common wish of human beings and the wish of every student. Only by respecting students can we succeed in education.
What is respect?
? Look at each other when talking to students;
? When meeting students, smile and greet them;
? When you get help from students, for example? Thank you? ;
? Let me know if there are any inappropriate language and education methods? Excuse me. ; ? Listen carefully when others are talking, and don't interrupt at will.
? Teachers treat students equally, and don't make any difference according to their grades;
? Students are at fault and do not punish students in public;
? Don't criticize and blame students in public.
(3) the principle of tolerance
It is inevitable that some unpleasant people and things will be encountered in the communication between teachers and students. These are all due to the differences in customs, personality and level of understanding. Facing these contradictions, tolerance should be embodied in understanding and tolerance. Mutual understanding is an important condition for interpersonal communication. Understanding means putting yourself in others' shoes and thinking of others everywhere.
A student lost his temper today. If you can think of it, it may be that he encountered something annoying, and you can forgive his abnormal behavior.
In communication, if you can understand others, be considerate of others and exchange psychological positions, there will be harmonious interpersonal relationships.
Fourth, the common problems in students' communication.
(a) Lack of communication skills
Many students really want to communicate with others, but they don't know how to communicate, and they are embarrassed to ask for advice from others, and they are in a passive waiting state. I don't associate with people at ordinary times, and I don't open my mouth when I need help from others, which terminates my association. Other students call a spade a spade in communication, and don't pay attention to art when expressing their feelings, persuading and criticizing others. As a result, good intentions are not rewarded, which hinders communication.
(B) interpersonal fear
Some students have symptoms of interpersonal fear. In communication, my muscles are tense, my heart beats faster, I blush, I dare not look at people, and my words are not satisfactory. I have a lot of worries, and I always worry that I will behave improperly in front of everyone, especially in public. Generally speaking, people who are too introverted and have a strong sense of inferiority have this kind of performance.
(3) Bad personality characteristics
Some people are too sensitive and suspicious in communication, and it often happens that others say that they are unintentional and their listeners are intentional. When something goes wrong, I always feel that others are uneasy and kind. He is wary and wary of everyone, so he doesn't show his true thoughts in his communication, so it is difficult to have heart-to-heart communication with people and there will be no intimate friends. Others are too conceited, jealous, rude, demanding, lonely, stubborn and selfish, which are all important factors that hinder communication. Look at the common personality defects and characteristics, which hinder the formation of interpersonal relationships. ? Excessive inferiority complex. Their evaluation of themselves is often negative, and they always feel useless and inherently unattractive;
? Excessive publicity. They often overestimate themselves, and even regard bragging as a common practice, which is difficult to be trusted; Once they are not reused, they think teachers are unfair, complain and never know that they overestimate their abilities.
? Sensitive and suspicious. This kind of person is often someone else? The speaker has no intention? , him? The listener has a heart? I often misunderstand others and take my subjective guess as a fact, which not only annoys me, but also makes others feel wronged.
? Hypocrisy There is no sense of security in dealing with such people; It's hard to have real friends. ? Intense jealousy. These students tend to be narrow-minded. They fight back or even retaliate against others if they are slightly dissatisfied; They can't tolerate the Excellence of their classmates and feel uncomfortable. If they can't adjust for a long time, they are prone to psychological barriers.
? Ask others. Being too strict with people, even picky, makes people unhappy; ? Selfish. They only care about themselves, don't care about others, and even sacrifice others, which naturally can't attract people;
? Lonely and stubborn. Too closed-minded, opinionated and blunt, it is difficult to communicate with people;
Although the above personality defects are possessed by a few people, they seriously affect students' interpersonal communication. Therefore, it is very important to improve the personality of college students. The personality of college students is plastic. With the help of classmates and teachers, as long as they are willing to change, it is possible to transform themselves and improve their personality.
(4) Don't want to associate
These students lack desire and interest in communication, and are self-enclosed and narcissistic. Most of them are abnormal personalities.
Cognitive bias
The process of communication is the process that both sides meet each other's needs. If you only consider meeting the needs of others and ignore your own needs, it will be difficult to communicate with each other. The common bad cognition among students stems from unreasonable ideas in their minds, and the effective way to eliminate the deviation in cognition is self-dialogue technology (see Chapter 11 of Psychological Counseling Manual for Primary and Secondary Schools: Psychological Counseling Technology).
Interpersonal communication and mental health model Part 2
Modern people's health standards are different from those in the past. The current health standards include physical health and mental health. In a sense, mental health is more important. The social environment that contemporary college students have to face and will face is different from the past, especially in today's fierce market competition and employment competition. Healthy and good interpersonal skills will help college students successfully find jobs and have a healthy career, which means establishing good interpersonal relationships.
To establish good interpersonal relationships, college students need to have certain qualities, such as sincerity, tolerance, caring for others and treating others equally. College students' interpersonal communication is also two-way, depending on their outlook on life and values and their goals.
Doing well in the following aspects is helpful to the healthy interpersonal communication of college students:
1. purity of communication purpose China is in a period of rapid development of market economy, which has brought prosperity, but it has also produced some negative effects. Some people, even affecting college students, put money interests first, and interpersonal communication is also driven by interests. Although this kind of people can enjoy certain material benefits in the process of interpersonal communication, they lose the basic goal and direction of interpersonal communication, can not get spiritual comfort and comfort from the process of interpersonal communication, and affect their mental health because of constant calculation and deliberate. Just like a person who often lies, he is afraid that lies will be passed down, but he is cautious and even panicky everywhere, distorting his normal emergency response to the outside world. In the past, his psychology often established negative reactions to the outside world, which hurt his physical and mental health.
2. In the process of communicating with classmates, be sincere, cheerful and open-minded. A sincere heart and cheerful personality, like a clear spring, moistens the hearts of others, making them easy to have the desire and action to communicate with you, which is the premise and foundation for establishing good and extensive interpersonal relationships.
3. Strengthening personality quality and good personality charm is helpful for college students to establish healthy and positive interpersonal relationships with other students, teachers and others. Personality charm will often become the centripetal force that you can attract others to associate with you.
4. Effective communication methods The ability to communicate with others is a prerequisite for establishing and maintaining good interpersonal relationships. Easy communication means that this person is easy to approach and makes others feel that there is no obstacle to interacting with you. Effective communication enables you to consolidate your achievements and maintain good interpersonal relationships with others.
How to cultivate interpersonal skills
The core of interpersonal communication is cooperation and communication. To cultivate communication skills, we must first have a positive attitude, understand others and care about others. In daily communication activities, we should take the initiative to communicate with others, don't avoid passively, dare to contact, especially dare to face people different from ourselves, and don't be afraid of birth, appearance and experience. Don't shut yourself off just because they come from remote areas, and don't shut yourself off just because they are ugly or less experienced than others. Secondly, we should start from an early age and pay attention to social etiquette. Thirdly, we should be good at doing things, boldly go out of school, eliminate fear, strengthen knowledge accumulation in communication, experience in actual communication life, and master various methods and skills in interpersonal communication. In addition, we should realize that in dealing with people, what is touching is sincerity, sincerity in making friends, sincerity in doing things, and sincerity can be exchanged for cooperation and communication with people. Sincerity is always one of the most precious feelings of human beings.
Principle of interpersonal communication
(1) principle of equality: in the interpersonal communication in socialist society, we must first adhere to the principle of equality. Whether official or individual, there is no distinction between high and low. We must communicate like friends in order to make deep friends. Don't feel inferior because of short working hours, lack of experience and poor economic conditions, and don't be cocky because you graduated from college and are young and beautiful. These mentalities all affect the smooth development of interpersonal relationships.
(2) Compatibility principle: mainly psychological compatibility, that is, harmonious relationship between people, tolerance, tolerance and forbearance when getting along with others. Take the initiative to communicate with others, make friends widely, make good friends, not only with people who are similar to themselves, but also with people who are opposite to themselves, seek common ground while reserving differences, learn from each other's strengths, handle the relationship between competition and compatibility, and better improve themselves.
(3) Principle of mutual benefit: refers to mutual benefit. Interpersonal communication is a two-way behavior, so there is a saying that "come and not go, make trouble without reason", and interpersonal communication that benefits unilaterally cannot last long. Therefore, both sides should benefit, not only materially but also spiritually, so both sides should pay attention to dedication.
(4) Credit principle: communication is inseparable from credit. Credit is a person's honesty, integrity and trustworthiness. As the old saying goes, "A promise is worth a thousand dollars, and a promise is worth a thousand dollars". Now there is an honest principle. Don't promise easily. Once you make a promise, you must work hard to realize it, so that you will not break your promise. Between friends, what you say must be done, and what you do must be done. You are neither supercilious nor reserved, modest but not pretentious, not bullying or being afraid of hard work, not arrogant and impetuous, please highly respected people, show your self-confidence and gain the trust of others.
(5) the principle of tolerance: it is manifested in not haggling over the unprincipled issues, being able to repay evil with good, and being tolerant and generous. Misunderstandings and contradictions often occur in interpersonal communication. College students have strong personalities and close ties, which inevitably lead to contradictions. This requires college students to be modest, generous, restrained and patient, not to care about each other's attitudes and words, and to be brave enough to be responsible for their actions. "As long as we are broad-minded and tolerant of others, the angry party will get bored." Tolerance and restraint are not signs of weakness and cowardice. On the contrary, it is a measurable performance, a lubricant for establishing good interpersonal relationships, and can "turn enemies into friends" and win more friends.
Interpersonal communication and mental health model paper 3
Abstract: People are members of society, and a person's mental health depends on good interpersonal relationships. Psychology defines interpersonal relationship as the direct psychological connection established between people in communication. The communication between people will produce different emotional fluctuations, which will affect mental health more or less. This paper will study this topic from three aspects: the connotation of interpersonal relationship and mental health, the influence of interpersonal relationship on mental health and how to deal with the influence of interpersonal relationship on mental health. Contemporary college students are prone to problems in dealing with interpersonal relationships, and their psychological problems are even more complicated. It can inspire college students' interpersonal relationship and mental health, which is the significance of this paper.
Keywords: interpersonal relationship, college students, psychology, mental health
1. Introduction
With the continuous progress of social civilization, people have a higher pursuit of happiness and health. Mental health, an important indicator of human health that was easily overlooked earlier, is now receiving more and more attention. So what exactly is mental health? What is its measure? And what does interpersonal relationship have to do with it? In today's society, events caused by psychological problems emerge one after another, from Ma Jiajue's revenge on his roommate to the bizarre murder case of Fudan University and the anonymous corpse incident of China Southern Airlines. We modern people can't help asking ourselves, what happened to us? The complexity of interpersonal relationship leads to the diversification of psychological problems, which is the cause of psychological problems. Interpersonal communication is a part of people's social life and one of the criteria for judging mental health. Being good at communicating with others and maintaining good interpersonal relationships are the keys to our study and career success. For us students, at school, we can correctly 1 *** 6 pages.
It is of great help to deal with the relationship between teachers and classmates and maintain the harmonious friendship between teachers and students, classmates and classmates. It can meet our psychological needs, promote psychological balance, enhance emotional communication, eliminate bad emotions, improve ourselves, cultivate good personality quality, and make people feel happy and safe all the time.
2. The connotation of interpersonal relationship and mental health
2. 1 the connotation of interpersonal relationship
Interpersonal relationship is the psychological direct relationship or distance between people in communication, which reflects the psychological state of individuals seeking to meet their social needs. Sociology defines interpersonal relationship as a kind of social relationship established by people in the process of production or life activities. Psychology defines interpersonal relationship as the direct psychological connection established between people in communication. Chinese often refers to the general term for interpersonal relationships, also known as? Interpersonal communication? , including relatives, friends, schoolmates (classmates), teachers and students, employment, comrades-in-arms, colleagues, leaders, leaders, etc. People are social animals, and each individual has his own unique thoughts, backgrounds, attitudes, personalities, behavior patterns and values. However, interpersonal relationship has great influence on everyone's mood, life and work, and even on organizational atmosphere, organizational communication, organizational operation, organizational efficiency and the relationship between individuals and organizations.
2.2 the connotation of mental health
Broadly speaking, mental health refers to an efficient, satisfactory and sustained mental state. In a narrow sense, mental health means that people's basic psychological activities are complete and coordinated, that is, cognition, emotion, will, behavior and personality are complete and coordinated, and they can adapt to society and keep pace with society. Individuals can adapt to the development environment and have perfect personality characteristics; And its cognition, emotional response and will behavior are in a positive state, which can maintain normal adjustment ability. In life practice, being able to know yourself correctly, control yourself consciously, treat external influences correctly, and maintain psychological balance and coordination have already possessed the basic characteristics of mental health.
Professor Xiao believes that the basic meaning of mental health means that all aspects and activities of psychology are in a good or normal state. The ideal state of mental health is to keep perfect personality, normal intelligence, correct cognition, appropriate mood, reasonable will, positive attitude, appropriate behavior and good adaptation.
3. The influence of interpersonal relationship on mental health
3. 1 the relationship between them
Interpersonal relationship is the basic condition for people's healthy growth. As Freud said, people's basic anxiety caused by childbirth can only be relieved by others, and he is saved by the gentle slapping and appeasement of others. Maslow also believes that everyone has a basic need: he needs to belong to a certain social group, and he needs to be loved and respected by others. These social needs are as important as physiological needs such as eating and dressing, and must be met. Otherwise, it will make the subject feel insecure and affect mental health. Sociological and anthropological research is even more positive, and group cooperation has the function of biological preservation and adaptation. Without the cooperation of groups, not only human beings, but also many creatures will become extinct. Marx also said that human nature is the sum of various social relations. Without social relations, human nature cannot be defined.
3.2 the impact of interpersonal relationships on people's mental health
The influence of interpersonal relationship on people's mental health includes: good interpersonal relationship, many friends and harmonious interpersonal relationship, so people can care for each other, love each other and help each other.
This can reduce psychological pressure, resolve psychological barriers and improve mental health. Bad interpersonal relationship means bad interpersonal relationship, lack of intimate friends, and you don't want to say anything, and you can't say it. Only by keeping all the problems in your heart, the problems can't be effectively solved. Therefore, it is easy to accumulate and amplify psychological problems. This can easily lead to psychological disorders.
Interpersonal relationship is very important and an important factor affecting mental health. Harmonious interpersonal relationships can bring happiness, joy and happiness, while tense and conflicting interpersonal relationships can bring troubles, depression and pain. College students live in such an environment as university campus, and they can't do without communicating with others and forming various interpersonal relationships. Research shows that all non-organic psychological disorders are caused by poor interpersonal relationships. Interpersonal relationships also affect the success or failure of a person's career. Carnegie once said: In modern society, only 15% of a person's career success depends on his knowledge, while 85% depends on his interpersonal skills. ? Therefore, improving interpersonal skills and establishing good interpersonal relationships are important conditions for college students to grow into talents.
4. How to deal with the influence of interpersonal relationship on mental health
4. 1 Main signs of healthy interpersonal communication
1) Willing to associate.
That is, there is a need and willingness to communicate. Psychologists have proved through experiments that if a person is isolated from the world and deprived of social interaction, there will often be psychological obstacles to varying degrees. Therefore, a mentally healthy person should be willing to communicate, sincere and compassionate, and find joy in life through communication.
2) Good at communication
People with healthy interpersonal relationships are not only happy to communicate, but also good at communication. They have a keen sense of interpersonal relationships, can adjust their behavior in time and establish harmonious relationships with others in an appropriate way. Even if people encounter difficulties in interpersonal communication, they can deal with them in a mature way and never try to escape.
3) Be good at appreciating the advantages of others.
People with good interpersonal relationships are good at discovering and appreciating the advantages and strengths of others, respecting their independence, putting themselves in others' shoes, being willing to listen to their opinions and learn from their strengths.
4) Have positive self-awareness.
That is, they have good self-feeling and self-control, are good at exerting their own strengths, and can remain independent in interpersonal communication and not blindly follow others.
5) Have a friendly sense of humor
This is a very important point. In fact, a sense of humor is a tool for people to adapt to the environment, not interpersonal relationships? Lubricant? Dealing with troubles with humor can not only solve the pain, but also make interpersonal relationships relaxed and happy.
In real life, it is impossible for everyone to reach the standard of healthy interpersonal communication, and due to the differences of social, cultural and psychological factors between the two sides, obstacles often appear in interpersonal relationships.
4.2 How to deal with the impact of interpersonal relationships on mental health
The basic ways to improve college students' interpersonal relationship and promote interpersonal communication include strengthening ideological cultivation, exercising communication ability and enriching social knowledge. These aspects complement each other and promote each other.
1) Strengthen ideological cultivation
The key to interpersonal communication is the exchange of ideas. Some people lack communication, which is often a matter of ideological quality, such as suspicion, pride, jealousy and selfishness. Everyone has the inherent need and potential to further develop interpersonal relationships. It is important to get out of the closed and selfish world, strengthen moral cultivation and improve ideological consciousness.
2) Exercise communication skills
People who are good at communication are often good at discovering and acknowledging the value of others and respecting and trusting others; They are tolerant of others and don't care about their faults; Be able to express yourself properly, neither humble nor supercilious; Try to understand others and don't impose your own views on others; Good at starting with topics of interest to the other party, proactive and enthusiastic when communicating. Paying attention to improving these abilities can improve the quality of interpersonal communication.
3) Enrich social knowledge
In the process of conversation, pay attention to elegant wording, natural attitude, sincere and gentle talk, humorous and relaxed talk, pay more attention to expressing yang and less criticism in communication. Practice has proved that sincerity and seeking truth from facts help to enhance friendship.
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