1) Effective communication
Don't always say "break up" and don't have a cold war.
Don't quarrel if you can talk well.
The word "breaking up" will only accumulate disappointment, heartache and helplessness. Sometimes this careless sentence really makes people tired and feels really inappropriate, so they really broke up.
The cold war is the same, and the party who cares more about each other often feels very uncomfortable. Because of love, I have to find/give steps, because I am stubborn and unwilling to communicate and compromise. Sometimes you are really angry, but it's not a cold war for three or five days. You can say how you feel now, how long you want to calm down, and then talk about it.
This will solve the problem more effectively when the other party is mature and stable and attaches importance to this relationship.
If the other party doesn't want to communicate, doesn't care, runs away from home without power, obviously doesn't care, doesn't pay attention. Then you can calm down and consider whether this childish reaction is something you are willing to bear for a long time. Once, twice, three times, forever.
There are often dissatisfaction and unhappiness with each other in feelings. Instead of having a big fight, everyone is unhappy, and sometimes it will get better results to speak out their feelings and expectations. Everyone has a rebellious side. The more you scold, the more you teach, and the expected effect will not be achieved.
2) independence
A mature and healthy relationship is that you have your world, I have my world, and our two worlds will be more spectacular around each other.
Not one side is completely dependent on the other's world. In this way, no matter what happens, we can go back to our own world and live a good life.
Therefore, we must be independent and have our own income, hobbies and social circles.
In this way, if your emotional happiness is not completely controlled by one person, you will not be so afraid of losing it.
3) Respect and support
The two most important points in a relationship.
Without respect, there is no loyalty.
Without mutual support, we won't grow together.
Respect and support means that I will not bind you in the name of love. You can do whatever you want.
No matter what you do, you will consider each other's feelings because of respect and make the right choice, not a lucky choice.
"If you don't get caught, you will be fine." Just let him go.
Support means that although I don't understand and disagree, I respect what you want to say, express my position and respect the other party's choice after negotiation. No matter what the consequences are, I won't say "I told you, but you didn't listen" and let him take it. No matter how disappointed you are in him, you can still solve the problem together.
4) Falling in love is not for people to see.
We often see a couple who are in love, pyq, sprinkling dog food, acting very sweet, but breaking up "inexplicably". In fact, they can't communicate in private and quarrel every day.
Love is not for others to see. Indeed, it's a shame to wash one's dirty linen in public, but falling in love is not about comparing whose other half gives sweeter pyg and more expensive gifts.
Love is to support each other, respect each other and grow together, not to compare with others and make people envious.
Yes, things like emotional pyq background pictures can be published, but experience tells us that if the other party wants to steal food, nothing can stop it.
5) stick to the bottom line
To like someone and fall in love is to give your heart to the other person and let him have the right to hurt you. But before you like someone, you must be clear about your principles and bottom line.
Once the other party touches the bottom line, can they communicate to solve the problem, find a compromise, and take substantive actions to make changes?
Never lower your bottom line because of love.
Because you are capable, independent and excellent, you don't need the company of someone who doesn't respect you so much. Long pain is better than short pain. Keep a clear head, leave decisively and stop loss in time.