Special apology
As long as you are unhappy, apologize immediately. Apologize is immediate. He won't argue with you, you may think, that doesn't mean he cares about me and likes me. I have asked many male friends, and they all told me that men's psychology of apologizing only accounts for a small part, and they are more afraid of more troubles in the future, so let's apologize quickly.
At this time, you have to ask where the perfunctory is. It's simple. Apologize, right? I will do it again next time. If you are angry, go on. This is perfunctory.
Special comfort
For example, he not only didn't give you a present on your birthday, but even forgot it. Are you angry at this time? Well, then he said, I really didn't forget. I want to save all my money to give you a big surprise. For example, if you want to buy something, he will tell you to save the money and write your name when I buy a house. Look, that's comforting, right? But think about it, all you have to do is talk. No substantial expenses were paid. This is perfunctory.