We can see a lot of news every year. Junior high school students and senior high school students commit suicide, and even college students give up when they encounter a little setback. Depression and anxiety are more common?
So what makes the former children different from the present children?
In fact, if you think about it, it's really different!
One,
First of all, the previous network was not developed enough and the speed of information transmission was slow.
In other words, it is also possible that some children are psychologically unhealthy, but we don't know. At that time, the speed of news dissemination was not as fast as it is now, and it only took a moment to spread all over the country. Just because we see less doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
Secondly, it is also more important. The living conditions in the past were generally not as good as now, and the material conditions were poor. People were still trying to solve the problem of food and clothing at that time.
Judging from Maslow's demand level, people used to be in a low-level demand stage. They focus on how to eat better and dress warmer every day, so naturally they have no other thoughts to pay attention to whether they are unhappy or not. There will be fewer psychological problems.
Secondly, although the material conditions were not good in the past, the "boundary" between parents and children was very clear.
In this way, it is actually much better than the children's environment now. In the past, my parents were responsible for making money, working and working in the fields. They don't stare at their children's homework, and they don't worry about helping their children sign up for various interest classes to fill their free time.
Learning is a child's own business, and learning well is also his own business. If the homework is not done well enough, the teacher will criticize the discipline and the parents will not interfere too much. Even if the child is naughty and beaten by his parents, it's okay to go out for a run and find a small partner to play all afternoon.
What about children now? In addition to classes, it is classes, not in schools, not in various training institutions, or even on tablets. They have little time at their disposal. The "boundary" between parents and children is also blurred. Children have no idea whether the so-called "study hard" is for themselves or for their parents. I didn't do well in the exam, as if my parents were more anxious than themselves to get angry; My parents are sadder than themselves for not winning the prize in the competition. ...
I remember reading a news that a primary school student called 1 10 and asked the police to take his mother away because her mother left her too much homework.
The Internet is full of all kinds of "prodigy" videos. At the age of three, I can recite hundreds of ancient poems and know thousands of Chinese characters, and I can do joint calculation within 100.
Once a young mother proudly introduced how she "cultivated" her son: she made more than 300 sets of papers for her children in a summer vacation, and in addition, she participated in more than a dozen interest classes. There was basically no day off throughout the summer vacation. She said that she often tells children stories about "other people's children" and encourages them to study hard. However, in the video she shot, her son was listless and manipulated by her like a puppet.
With such a childhood experience, how can a child have no problems?
Third, in my opinion, don't simply compare: children in the past were strong, but children in the present are fragile and always have psychological problems.
We should get inspiration from this comparison, that is: in the process of raising children, have we invaded too much "space" for children? Have you blurred the "boundary" between parents and children, put their affairs on themselves and put their dreams on their children?
Instead of lamenting the differences between children, it is better to find the gap between parents.
I hope every child can grow up healthily! Nowadays, children are prone to psychological problems under the meticulous care of their parents, while their elders received much simpler and more extensive education when they were young, but they rarely have psychological problems ... The reason for this phenomenon is that their elders have less contact with people and things when they are young, and their lives are relatively simple, so their thoughts are relatively pure. First of all, elders have less contact with people and things when they are young. Nowadays, children can contact more people and things through more channels, so their thinking is more complicated, so they are prone to psychological problems. ..... and when the elders are young, they have relatively few contacts with people and things, so their childhood thinking is not complicated and they are not prone to psychological problems. Secondly, the life experience of elders as children is simpler. Today's children are young, but their life experiences are complicated, which is also the root cause of their psychological problems. ..... For elders, their childhood life experiences are relatively simple, and there are not many things to consider, so it is not easy to have psychological problems. Finally, the elders' childhood thoughts are more pure. Nowadays, children are prone to psychological problems because they watch and listen more, so their ideas are more complicated. ..... In contrast, elders are not prone to psychological problems because of their simple childhood experiences, so their thoughts are relatively pure. It is precisely because of the above three factors that although the elders received a simple and extensive education when they were young, they are not prone to psychological problems. If children are now in the same environment, they will not be so prone to psychological problems.