The antonym of "carefulness" is carelessness and carelessness, which is very common among children. When they were young, they didn't think much. The bigger you get, the more headaches you get, which is not conducive to learning and success. Most of the adult's carelessness is developed from childhood, which shows that it is very important to develop as a child. "Be careful. ...
The antonym of "carefulness" is carelessness, which is very common among children. When they were young, they didn't think much. The bigger you get, the more headaches you get, which is not conducive to learning and success. Most people who are careless are brought up from childhood. Obviously, the cultivation of childhood is very important.
"Careful" is a habit, which is related to personality, but it is not innate. All habits are acquired.
It is necessary to cultivate the habit of "concentration", be serious and focused, be able to concentrate quickly, and be able to control yourself to calm down and be half-hearted and not anticlimactic.
It is necessary to cultivate the habit of "checking" and get used to it when you are finished. How about checking after work? I'm finished packing. Check to see if there is anything missing. After you finish the leaves, check whether there are any mistakes ... get into the habit of "checking" and you will benefit for life.
It is necessary to form the habit of "order" and "organization", and do things in an orderly way, methodically, not impetuous, and not throwing things away.
Habits are not formed overnight, but the result of perseverance. Children cannot form their own habits, but the role of environment and education. First of all, adults should set an example and infect children with their care. If the whole environment is careful, children will naturally be careful.
We should make demands on our children and stick to them. There can be no slack, no mercy, no unprincipled forgiveness, and no substitute for children to clean up the mess.
I will discuss with parents the child's careless performance, parents' misunderstanding, the reasons for carelessness and how to correct it.
First, carelessness often has several manifestations.
There are many reasons why children are careless. In a child, carelessness often has several manifestations, and these manifestations are not static. For example, in a test, classmate A showed that he didn't pay attention to these problems. In the next exam, he still didn't carefully examine the questions, but there was nothing wrong with advancing and retreating, just forgetting to fill in two blanks. Children's carelessness will change with the change of physical and mental state and environment, and the degree of carelessness is still inconsistent. Anyway, carelessness is carelessness after all. No matter how and to what extent it appears, children can't escape carelessness.
After careful observation, it is found that junior one students are prone to fear of difficulties in mathematics learning, especially in the difficult spatial graphics and time understanding (in fact, they did not carefully examine the questions or listen to the teacher's reading aloud). When they are afraid of difficulties, they don't know how to solve them through repeated observation and identification, but they like to scribble and fill in. Their performance is like telling you, "I'm not incompetent, I just don't do it carefully." This is a false carelessness.
Many children have developed a careless habit in their usual study, mainly because they have to be checked by teachers and parents when they do their homework, and they have no good habits and sense of responsibility. Therefore, children are careless in exams, and parents should also reflect. We should use the right methods to help children minimize mistakes caused by carelessness.
First, several manifestations of children's carelessness
Carelessness is a simple word, but it contains many connotations. It refers to what you understand and do. Mistakes caused by carelessness are different from those caused by ignorance and inaction. It is manifested in all aspects of study and life, with various forms of expression. In contrast, "carelessness" is more prominent in learning. For example, in mathematics, some children confuse symbols, such as "+"as "small" and numbers, such as "3" as "8", forget to write answers, copy wrong questions, and copy. In Chinese, the initials and finals of pinyin are unclear, and the two tones and three tones in the tone drop are unclear, and the characters are half recognized and the stroke order is wrong. In English, English D is confused with the pronunciation of Pinyin "D", and D is written as Pinyin "A".
In life, carelessness is also manifested in many aspects: my room is in a mess, I don't tidy up after finishing my homework, I forget to bring my intimate book and communication book to school, I scribble my writing leaves, I often lose pencils, erasers, watercolor pens and even textbooks and dancing shoes, I forget to turn off the tap after washing my hands, and I don't know how to find them when necessary.
Second, three misunderstandings of parents' careless understanding of children
How do parents treat their children's carelessness? Experts have done a survey and found that most parents blame their children's carelessness on carelessness, carelessness and lack of sense of responsibility in learning. Here is an example. There is a child, in the second grade of primary school, with average grades. His parents' evaluation of their children is that they are cheerful and lively, love learning and have a strong interest. The problem is that he is too careless in his study and stutters when reading the text. A short essay of more than 100 words takes three minutes to read, and he can't finish it almost once, nor can he copy his homework, and he often misses it. If his parents don't check, the child won't find out himself. Sometimes let the children copy it again, but the children don't want to, making the whole family unhappy. As a result, children began to hate reading texts, especially Chinese. Parents think that children are usually very lively. Why do they stutter when reading the text? Do they have vision problems? Therefore, it is really wrong for children to think that carelessness is the subjective reason of children, or that parents can't reach their conscious learning state.
Myth 1: Children don't work hard subjectively.
In fact, the child mentioned just now is not a vision problem, but an unbalanced development of learning ability. Why can some children repeat the lecture after a class, while others can't remember it at all? This is that the development level of each child's learning ability is inconsistent. Listening sense and visual sense are important components of learning ability, and they are used most in learning activities. Listening perception directly determines the efficiency of children attending classes, while reading and writing are inseparable from the development of visual perception. If the development level of children's visual perception is insufficient, even if they have sound visual organs, they can concentrate and face the learning task.
Some parents may say that my children can hear and see, and there is definitely no problem with auditory perception and visual perception. In fact, there is an essential difference between the two. For example, the child mentioned above, after testing, his visual perception ability has not reached the level of his peers, which is characterized by poor visual concentration and easy to add words, subtract words or skip lines; Visual discrimination is underdeveloped and easy to read wrong words; Poor visual memory and understanding lead to poor reading ability; If your visual movement is poor, you will be slow to do your homework. Therefore, parents should not blindly blame their children for their carelessness, but should find the reasons from their learning ability.
The unbalanced development of learning ability refers to normal intelligence, but because of the lack of psychological function to participate in learning or the development can not reach the level of peers, it is impossible to master the learning links of the school, and there are difficulties in listening, speaking, reading, writing, calculating and thinking at a higher level. With the accumulation of problems and the growth of age, children's self-confidence and emotional development are further affected. According to the mental health research group of Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences, the performance rate of unbalanced development of learning ability of primary school students in China is 15.6%, and 8.75% of them have serious unbalanced development of learning ability. According to this calculation, there are about 62.9 million children with learning problems under the age of 14 in China. Therefore, for some seemingly careless children, they are very wronged, not because they don't work hard, but because their ability has not been achieved. It is the first misunderstanding of some parents in education to attribute carelessness to children's subjective failure to work hard.
Myth 2: One-sided emphasis on study habits, ignoring the organization of doing things.
There was a little girl in the fourth grade. Her mother said that she was going to let her children do some housework. After dinner, she arranged for the little girl to wash the dishes, but before the little girl could, her father washed the dishes first. Before going to bed, grandma put the foot washing water on the little girl before she could speak. Get up in the morning, grandpa is anxious to help the children get dressed. There is also a third-grade boy who came home from school and took out his Chinese, math and foreign language homework. He stopped to do math in the middle of writing his Chinese homework, but he couldn't. He dropped mathematics to learn English. Half an hour passed and he didn't finish any of the three courses. The desk is cluttered with textbooks, homework and stationery.
In fact, the habit of studying hard does not exist alone, but is inseparable from living habits. Children who are forgetful, disorganized and lack perseverance are often prone to careless problems in their studies.
Simply looking at the problem of carelessness is the second misunderstanding of some parents in education.
In the process of doing things, children should learn to prioritize, grasp the rhythm, become organized and learn to be independent. More importantly, there is psychological experience, and more psychological experience will naturally become a habit. And good living habits will naturally transfer to study. We can't imagine that an absent-minded child will arrange his studies in a very orderly way. Therefore, we must not deprive children of the right and opportunity to do things. Developing good work habits can promote learning, which often produces a miraculous effect with half the effort.
Myth 3: Moderately monotonous repetition causes psychological fatigue.