First,? Become attached to the wealth school
The first time I heard about the rich, it was a few months ago that Brother Jian (Hui You Zhang Jian) organized a series of face-to-face meetings (most of the participants were Hui You), and Brother Jian invited a guest-Luo Jing of the rich. Rollo shared in this noodle base for an hour. In this sharing, I realized that money is not only a matter of money, but also a manifestation of relationship. How do we treat money and how do our families make decisions about wealth? The deep-seated problem is the relationship between ourselves, others and wealth. There is a sentence in Rollo's sharing that particularly touched me. "Husband and wife are like comrades-in-arms, and they are teamwork." This made me think about my relationship with my husband and how we face life. I found that most of the time we were alone, with no complementary advantages and no use of each other's resources. Although we have a good relationship, we still don't regard each other as life partners at the level of consciousness. And we all have our own strengths and rich life experiences and personal resources. If we cooperate well, we will play1+1> The effect of 2.
Huiyou is a small partner with strong mobility. After sharing with Luo Luo, the boss of Beijing Huiyou Group rushed to the offline workshop of Fortune College, followed by Jiange, Guoguo and Wei Jie. I'm here, too, and I grabbed a place in an offline workshop (FS workshop is very popular, and it's a small class, so I fought for a pit). With the curiosity of exploring wealth, I finally came to the FS offline workshop.
Second,? Three rings of the tree of life
As the article "Here, I saw the most complete appearance of your life" in Fortune School said, "You must have seen the growth of a tree: from short to high, from small to large, growing bit by bit until the shade is full of flowers, and the growth is recorded in the annual rings. Our growth is the same as a tree, with three marks. "
The core of these three rings is my relationship with myself. When we realize who we are and what kind of life we want, we will have a closer relationship with wealth. On the first day of the workshop, I was exploring myself.
What impressed me most was my thinking about wealth and freedom in the process of self-awakening. When I fill out the student handbook, I hope to have the annual income and net assets at the peak of my life wealth. This is not just an illusion of wealth, but actually asking myself, am I worth it? How much income and net assets can I write on it? Do I hesitate at all when I write? Dare I write 300 million net assets? I dare not, because I don't think I deserve it. I don't think the figure of more than 100 million has anything to do with me. 300 million. I never dreamed of it.
"I'm not worth it", this belief is affecting my relationship with wealth. When I change jobs, I always can't get the ideal salary, because I think I can't talk like a lion, and I'm not worth it. When I am at work, I always don't take the initiative to talk to my leaders about salary increase and bonus, because I feel that I have no right to fight for myself and I don't deserve it. As a result, my salary is not as good as many people with the same qualifications and work experience. In fact, it is not a gap in ability, but a belief that I am not worth it. I remember a teacher once said, what prevents us from doing it? One is that there is no plan, the other is that there is no implementation, and the third is that you feel unworthy and unworthy. On the other hand, I'm always trapped in worthlessness.
The second of the three rings is our relationship with others, which also deeply affects our relationship with wealth. I recall how my husband and I do family finance. We have kept the habit of keeping accounts for several years, * * * using an account book (manual app). Every income and expenditure is recorded in different categories, and the income and expenditure of the husband or wife should be recorded. Every account is open and transparent, and a family financial report will be made at the end of each year. The advantage of this is that you can clearly know the income and expenditure of the family and predict the future cash flow. When my husband and I are faced with major decisions such as changing careers, we can clearly know the impact of such choices on the family financial situation. Because we know that the income of either of us can guarantee the expenses of the whole family, and neither of us has any psychological burden when changing careers.
As we constantly change our career trajectory, our income increases year by year and our wealth keeps accumulating. If my husband and I didn't trust each other and treat each other honestly, it would be difficult to accumulate family fortune so quickly. And this kind of trust was established after years of careful management. And Lolo's sharing about the relationship between husband and wife in the workshop also made me clearly see what efforts my husband and I can make in managing the relationship between husband and wife in the future, thus accelerating the growth of family wealth.
Third, husband and wife are a team.
Lolo's sharing about the relationship between husband and wife in the workshop also made me clearly see what efforts my husband and I can make in managing the relationship between husband and wife in the future, thus accelerating the growth of family wealth.
At first, I came to FS Workshop to learn more about financial investment. The reason is that my husband likes to study wealth management products and the real estate market. In contrast, my knowledge of wealth management is obviously insufficient. In the past, my husband had the final say in investment decisions at home, and I basically didn't ask. I think I need to learn some knowledge about investment and financial management to make up for my shortcomings, so that my husband can be consulted when making a decision.
But a word from Lolo changed my mind. Luo Luo shared how the husband and wife cooperated in the process of her family from invisible poverty to invisible wealth: Luo Luo's husband is very good at investment and financial management, while Luo Luo is good at interpersonal communication, so in the process of investment, Luo Luo's husband is responsible for making investment decisions and Luo Luo is responsible for handling interpersonal relationships. Both of them have their own strengths, and the cooperation is very tacit. Luo Luo's husband also shared his feelings: he felt that Luo Luo had always treated him with an accepting and tolerant attitude throughout the process, which was very important to him.
What Lolo and Lolo's husband said made me understand: I don't have to force myself to make up for my shortcomings. Husband and wife are a team. Like any team, there is no need to ask everyone to have the same longboard, or even to ask everyone to have the same longboard. Difference is the meaning of team existence. If team members can give full play to their respective advantages and cooperate tacitly, it will be unfavorable. Looking back at my husband's previous model, it is precisely because I fully believe in his investment and financial management ability, do not interfere, do not make trouble, do not give advice, and do not be wise after the event, so that my husband can give full play to his ability with confidence. I was greatly relieved to understand this. I also have a new idea about the cooperation with my husband in the future: we can be each other's strongest backing, complement each other in family affairs, learn from each other's strengths and enjoy resources such as contacts. Of course, this is the most ideal situation, and we still need to learn how to adjust constantly with our own conditions, but I still feel very happy to think that our future is possible and we can work hard for it.
Fourth, spend money on dreams.
Expenditure represents lifestyle. I used to understand spending only for survival, so sometimes I don't want to spend more money because I don't think it's necessary. But in the FS offline workshop, I learned that expenses can be divided into three categories: survival expenses, growth expenses and dream expenses. With this understanding, look at this year's expenditure, many of which are for growth and dreams. At that time, I thought it was too expensive, such as taking psychology courses and so on. But looking back, in fact, most of these expenses are spent for growth and dreams, and even can be said to be disguised investment, investing in myself, and I believe that these expenses will not only give me a monetary return, but also improve my mental health and happiness in life.
Verb (abbreviation of verb) unique coaching experience
In the rich life workshop of Fortune College, there are four opportunities to experience coaching. Fortunately, I got a chance to coach. At the beginning of the coach, Rollo asked me, "What do you want to talk about?" I thought about it, and I was a little unhappy with my husband in the morning, so I told Luo Luo a conversation between us when my husband sent me to class in the morning: I was telling my husband about my feelings of studying psychology recently with great interest, and my husband listened silently for a while. Inadvertently mentioned the search engine, began a long speech about the search engine. I felt bored and couldn't get a word in, so I began to get angry silently. This is the recent communication state between my husband and me. Everyone is talking about each other, not on the same channel at all.
Under the guidance of Lolo, I saw this interaction between my husband and me. I'm spinning in the red meme (I'm right, you must follow my lead). I think my husband should listen to me attentively, give me positive feedback and affirm my achievements in studying psychology. But my husband didn't satisfy me. His performance made me feel that I was not valued by him. He didn't care about my feelings, so I started the anger mode. Behind this is my unilateral request to my husband: you must satisfy me.
I just learned the reasoning ladder in the workshop that morning: all the observable data-the data I chose-the assumptions I added-the conclusions I reached-the meme I was in-the actions I took.
Looking back at my conversation with my husband with the ladder of reasoning, my husband and I are both experiencing the same thing: First, talking about psychology that my husband is completely uninterested in, and my husband is silent. Then my husband found an entry point in my sentence: search engine. This is what he knows, and it is also a topic he is interested in, so my husband began to talk endlessly, in exchange for my silence. This is all the observable data. Before, I only saw the part where my husband didn't respond to me, and on this basis, I assumed that my husband didn't pay attention to my feelings and didn't want to listen and give me feedback. The conclusion is that my husband ignored me and I entered the red meme. My behavior is anger and passive attack on my husband. After collecting all the observable data, I began to examine my heart. I am eager to be listened to and valued. Similarly, husbands are eager to be listened to and valued. It seems that neither of us gave each other what they wanted.
However, on second thought, did my husband really not listen and pay attention to me? Looking back at all the data and paying attention to details, I found that my conclusions were too hasty. On the one hand, although my husband is not interested in psychology, he doesn't express any ideas that he can't listen to. On the other hand, my husband really knows almost nothing about psychology, and he has no way to participate in the discussion of psychology. It's really hard for him to express his opinions and give feedback. From a more positive point of view, maybe my husband really wants to interact with me, so he seized the topic of search engines, because he thought that since I mentioned this, at least I knew something about it, so that search engines could become our topic. Thinking of these, my mood suddenly brightened. From red memes to orange and green memes. Under the reminder of Lolo and Nancy, I realized that I could check his thoughts with my husband, express my unhappiness to him, say that I hope he can listen and affirm me, and ask him if he wants to listen and affirm me. Whatever he needs, I can give him what he wants within my power. When I take these actions, I can imagine that our relationship will become more harmonious.
At the end of the seminar that night, my husband and I chatted about the morning conversation. My husband said that he really wanted to communicate with me, but he didn't know psychology, so he didn't know what to say. Moreover, my husband also mentioned that if I have dissatisfaction, I can express it directly, which is totally acceptable to him. Moreover, he encouraged me to speak out when I had dissatisfaction, and not to keep it in my heart. By looking at my husband's thoughts, I saw how terrible my initial assumptions were. Many of them were self-righteous and made out of nothing. To my surprise, my husband began to reflect on our communication mode during this period, and he also realized that we were doing ineffective communication many times, and we both said it separately. We talked a lot about how to solve this problem. After some frank communication, I can feel that the relationship between husband and wife is closer. This teaching experience has benefited me a lot.
The last three coaches also impressed me deeply, which is still fresh in my memory. If you give a key word, I think it is openness, control and freedom. This passage about "openness" made me see the influence of open places, which made each of us more relaxed and closer. As for the paragraph about "control", I can see that from different angles, there will be different conclusions and different solutions to the original situation, and things will never need to be done one way or another. Choosing the way that suits you best is often the most effective; I have many physical feelings about this "freedom". The most direct feeling is that I have extremely powerful power inside me, just like the waves, constantly beating my body; And my body, like iron, is so thin in front of this surging force, although I want to imprison this force. My inner strength is freedom, which I was born with. What I never expected was that I met freedom in this field of the workshop.
Four coaches, an open venue, restrained coaches and companionship make me feel very comfortable and have many feelings. With these experiences, I feel a little different, more comfortable and relaxed.
6. The freedom of wealth is still about the soul.
In the workshop of Fortune College, one of my most unexpected gains was the discussion about the freedom of wealth. This lesson begins with meditation: what kind of life will we live when we imagine ourselves rich and free? What kind of mood will it be?
In the process of meditation, a picture appeared in front of my eyes. I met a wise man under a blue sky. A wise man is a person who looks like a goat, and his image is a bit between Sean and Pleasant Goat. Let's call him wise sheep. The clever sheep came to me slowly.
I asked the wise man: where is this? Why am I here?
The wise are silent. He held out his hand and gave me a present. This gift is my ideal life.
Then the picture changed and I came to a spacious and bright room. I realized that this was my study. There is a bookcase with a whole wall in the room. There is a chair and a table in front of the bookshelf. I sat in a chair, and at the moment I sat down, I became a wise man. My nickname is Yang Yang, but for a long time in kindergarten, I wrote my name as sheep. I don't know what a wise man looks like when he meditates, and what does it have to do with writing his name as a sheep when I was very young. Later, when Lolo and Nancy talked about my meditation, they said that they were wise men and had interesting meditation.
At the same time, there are many people in this room. They are my friends and disciples. I stood up, walked up to them and talked to them. We chatted happily until night fell. I came to the yard on crutches. At present, there is a green grassland. At first glance, the trees are forest, mountains and rivers are interdependent, and a world like a paradise.
When I was walking in the yard, the clever sheep appeared again. He took my hand and said, I'm leaving. I left everything to you. I said goodbye to him and opened my eyes from meditation, feeling steadfast, peaceful and happy.
I think this is what the free energy of wealth has brought me. I don't have to worry about food, clothing, housing and transportation, nor do I have to run around for money. I have time and energy to realize my life ideal and enjoy the time with others.
When I finished sharing the contents of my meditation, Lolo's words deeply touched me: it is very pleasant to realize wealth and freedom, and it is very beautiful to be able to do what I want. But in fact, we do not have to wait for wealth and freedom. We can live with this mood every day. Even without wealth and freedom, we can still do what we want. We can still feel steadfast, peaceful and happy. With a meditative mood, look at our goal and move forward steadily step by step. This kind of life is actually no different from the life after the pursuit of wealth and freedom. Therefore, we don't have to pursue the final number of wealth and freedom, but make physical and mental choices in life. So it doesn't matter whether wealth is free or not if you live like this.
At this time, I suddenly realized that the ultimate freedom in life is to let our hearts be free, and such freedom is something we can give ourselves.
(A digression here: For those who are beyond wealth, Lolo and Nancy let us write down what my expected annual income is when I reach the peak of wealth in my life. What is my net worth? In fact, whether we are uneasy about writing this figure also shows whether we think it is worthwhile. )
Seven, the core value, help me find a second pair.
In the exploration of core values, we need to select 10 items that we think are important from the value list, and then select the three items that we think are the most important and sort them. After I quickly scanned the list of values, three words quickly came to my eyes, namely: achievement, community and family. I think, without saying anything, it is the three of them. In order of importance, it is family, achievement and community (I prefer to express it as community). Family and achievement, which is in line with a "personal design" of No.3 self-protection (type 9 personality type 1-9, subtypes "self-protection", "one-on-one" and "community"). Unexpectedly, I will rank the community third.
When exploring my second "achievement", Rollo asked me several questions: "What to do in the FS workshop can make me feel a sense of accomplishment", "What to do in the family can make me feel a sense of accomplishment" and "What to do in the club can make me feel a sense of accomplishment". I found that what I defined as achievement was not so-called fame and family background, nor how high a position I got in a certain group, but influence. In fact, this has a lot to do with the third "community". In the community, I hope I can help others and do something for their lives. ? Once, I thought I was "protecting myself" and there was no second kind. I didn't expect that in the class of FS, I actually discovered the potential of my "community". At the end of the core value exploration, Luo Luo's words marked the end of our exploration journey: "The significance of exploring core values lies in whether we can stick to our core values in the face of contradictions and conflicts in life", which also made me start to reflect on what my choice criteria are, how many choices are in line with my heart, and how many choices deviate from my core values.
I wrote this paragraph two months after the seminar. At this time, I have some new views on influence. How can we determine whether our influence on others is good or bad? After all, everyone is different, so I'm not sure. There are many times in life when people do bad things with good intentions. They just impose their own "good" standards on others. If they are too concerned about influencing this matter, they may do something out of line. So I want to change "influence" into "reference". What I say, write and do can give people some reference, which is enough for me.
Eight, a meditation, my body detected yellow memes.
In the last FS workshop, we reviewed our life by meditation and came to the last moment of our life. Luo Luo Rang: We added this sentence after meditation: Looking back on life, I am () and I am (). In the picture of my meditation, at the last moment of my life, I dozed off by the fire, recalled my life and fell asleep peacefully (referring to the girl who was enchanted into an old woman in Hal's Moving Castle).
When sharing, I said, "Looking back on my life, I love my family wholeheartedly and help my friends when they are in trouble. I have experienced, given and experienced, and that's enough. Looking back on my life, I am a dandelion, I fly in the wind, and I also give myself to the wind. " At some point, tears flowed down unconsciously. Rollo said: "At this moment, what you are experiencing is the yellow meme."
When I said these words, I felt relieved. I don't have to get it, and I can't let it go. If I can spend my life with my heart, what else can I ask for? Someone once asked me, if I want to carve a line on a tombstone, what do I want to carve? I blurted out: this is the man who really lived. Now, I have my own answer to what is "real life". ?
Life is a beautiful encounter.
The experience in FS workshop was really great. Lolo, Nancy and Xixi inspired me a lot. Students in class together also have their own loveliness. Both sharing in class and interaction between classes have given me a lot of great input. At the same time, it also makes me feel that through experiential learning, everyone's gains will be different. When everyone shares their gains, my horizons will be broadened and my gains will be multiplied. Especially when we meet a group of partners who love thinking, sharing, openness and tolerance, and are interested in life, how wonderful the spark is. I still remember that at the end of the workshop, everyone was reluctant to leave for a long time and agreed to get together again. Life is really a beautiful encounter.
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