Lead: Children's psychological problems are special, and children themselves lack proper expressive ability, so they often express their problems through some weird behaviors. The following is a short story about children's psychology that I compiled. Welcome to read and learn from!
Children's Psychological Story (1) One day, several students asked Fromm, a famous psychologist, what kind of influence will mentality have on a person?
He smiled and said nothing, and took them to a dark house. Under his guidance, the students quickly passed through this mysterious room. Then Fromm turned on a light in the room. In the dim light, the students can clearly see the layout of the room and can't help but break out in a cold sweat. It turns out that the ground of this house is a deep and big pool crawling with all kinds of poisonous snakes, including a boa constrictor and three cobras. Several poisonous snakes held their heads high and spat messages at them. Just above the snake pond, there is a narrow wooden bridge from which they came.
Fromm looked at them and asked, "Now, would you like to cross this bridge again?" Everyone, look at me, I look at you, and they are all silent.
After a while, the three students finally stood up hesitantly. As soon as one of the students went up, he moved his steps carefully, which was many times slower than the first time. Another student stepped on the small wooden bridge with trepidation, trembling involuntarily, and couldn't stand it halfway; The third student just bent down and climbed over the bridge slowly.
Pa, Fromm turned on several other lights in the room, and the strong light suddenly made the whole room look like day. The students rubbed their eyes and looked carefully, only to find that there was a safety net under the small wooden bridge, but they didn't see it just now, because the color of the net line was extremely dim. Fromm asked loudly, "Now which one of you wants to cross the bridge?"
The students were silent. Why don't you want to? Fromm asked. Is this safety net reliable in quality? The student asked trembling.
Fromm smiled: I can answer your question. The bridge was not difficult to walk, but the poisonous snake under the bridge gave you a psychological deterrent. As a result, you lost your cool head, lost your reason, panicked, and showed varying degrees of timidity-mentality certainly affected your behavior.
Isn't that what life is all about? In the face of all kinds of challenges, perhaps the reason for failure is not because of weakness, low intelligence, or failure to thoroughly analyze the whole situation, but because of seeing the difficulties too clearly, analyzing them too thoroughly and considering them in detail, so we will be frightened by the difficulties and struggle. However, those who do not fully see the difficulties are more capable of moving forward. If we can forget the background, ignore the danger and focus on the road under our feet when crossing the single-plank bridge of life, maybe we can reach our destination faster, right?
Children's Psychological Stories (II) 1907, James retired from Harvard University. At the same time, his good friend physicist Carlson also retired. One day, they made a bet, and James said, I will definitely let you have a bird soon. Carlson disagreed: I don't believe it! Because I never wanted to have a bird.
A few days later, on Carlson's birthday, James gave a gift-an exquisite birdcage. Carlson smiled: I just think it's a beautiful handicraft. Don't bother. From then on, whenever guests visit and see the empty birdcage beside the desk, they will almost invariably ask: Professor, when did your bird die? Carlson had to explain to the guests again and again: I have never had a bird.
However, this kind of answer often gets the puzzled and distrustful eyes of the guests. In desperation, Professor Carlson had to buy a bird.
This is a famous psychological phenomenon. It was discovered by psychologist James. It says: If a person buys an empty birdcage and puts it in his living room, after a period of time, he will usually throw it away or buy a bird to keep. Because it is much easier to buy a bird than to explain why there is an empty cage. This is the famous birdcage effect.
Around us, including ourselves, don't we hang a cage in our hearts and then involuntarily put things in it?
Children's psychological stories (3) Rosenthal, a professor of psychology at Harvard University, once did a very interesting maze experiment with mice.
At the beginning of the experiment, he divided a group of mice into three groups and assigned them to three groups of experimenters, A, B and C, and then told Group A, "You are so lucky. The mice assigned to you were specially selected and carefully trained by several professors. They are noble and smart, and their intelligence is almost close to the human brain, so you must treat them well and try to make them play their best. "
Tell Group B: "Your luck is average. These mice are just an ordinary group. They are of average blood and average intelligence. You can train them in the most common way. "
Tell Group C: "You are unfortunate. These mice are simply terrible. They are poor in blood and mentally retarded. They are simply idiots. You can train them in any way you want. Anyway, their essence is doomed. "
After the three groups of experimenters trained the mice for one month according to the instructions, the professor tested the three groups of mice respectively. The final result shows that the mice in group A are really the cleverest, which not only get out of the maze, but also shorten the time of expert prediction. In group B, only half of the mice walked out of the maze, which took a little longer than the experts expected. Group C was the worst, only two people successfully walked out of the maze, and the time spent was unbearable.
After the experiment, Rosenthal calmly told the experimenters in each group: In fact, the blood and intelligence of these mice are no different. They are all ordinary mice, but I divided them into three groups.
While the experimenter was dumbfounded, he couldn't help thinking of his attitude towards the mice for a month: Group A cherished their mice very much. They not only take good care of them, but also train these "super smart" kids in the most active and difficult way, and even have regular "language communication" with them; Group B treated their subjects like ordinary animals and trained them in an ordinary way. What about team C? Each of them is lamenting their bad luck, so many stupid things have been put on the witness stand. During the training, there are many signs that these mice are really "stupid", such as disobedience and lack of discipline, so they often beat and scold these poor little guys, and sometimes punish them by "forgetting" to feed them.
Professor Rosenthal was inspired by this experiment. He wants to know whether this effect will also happen to people. He came to an ordinary middle school, walked casually in a class, and then circled a few names on the list of students, telling their teachers that these students had high IQ and were very smart. After a while, the professor came to this middle school again, and the miracle happened again. The students he chose have really become the best in the class now.
Why is this happening? It is the magic of "hint" at work.
Everyone will accept psychological hints in one way or another in life, some of which are positive and some are negative. Mother is the child's favorite, most trusted and most dependent person, and also the person who gives psychological hints. If it is a long-term negative and bad psychological suggestion, it will affect the child's mood and even seriously affect the child's mental health. On the contrary, if a mother places high hopes on her child, gives positive affirmation, moistens her child's mind through expectant eyes, approving smiles and encouraging words, and makes her child more self-respecting, self-loving, self-confident and self-reliant, then how high your expectations are, how great your child's future achievements will be!
Through the above experiments, we realize that even if the intelligence is almost the same and people are treated differently, the result will be good or bad. Our own, and even the whole world, will often change because of our efforts. Therefore, if you want to be a smart person, you must demand yourself by the standards of a smart person.
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