First of all, we should pay attention to the advantages of this emotional view: it is simple and direct, which can simplify emotions and make it easier for people to form and maintain an emotional relationship. I love whoever loves me. The emotional view can reduce the complexity of emotions. In this relationship, people don't need to think too much, just focus on each other's emotional needs and devote themselves to this relationship. Therefore, this view can bring higher emotional contribution rate and make people get more emotional returns.
Secondly, the advantage of this kind of emotional view is that it can eliminate emotional stress. People are always easily influenced by the surrounding environment and conditions, and may bear emotional pressure, resulting in anxiety, hesitation, anxiety and other negative emotions. However, in this emotional view, people will follow their own intuition, feelings and ideas, do not need too much consideration and thinking, and throw themselves into it easily and happily to get more emotional satisfaction.
However, the emotional view of who I love and who loves me also has many defects: first of all, this emotional view is easy to fall into the wrong concept, which makes people ignore each other's personality characteristics. Due to the lack of emotional discrimination, it is easy to ignore each other's personality, hobbies and other aspects because of a temporary emotional decision. If there are huge differences or conflicts between the two sides in the later period, this emotional relationship is likely to break down, making people believe that as long as they find someone who loves her/him, they can get a perfect life.
Second, this emotional view gives people an unhealthy view of love. I love whoever loves me. The concept of feelings is based on the perfect concept of love. It believes that true love should not be influenced by heresy, but should be based on eternity, even if there are some shortcomings, it should be accepted, and loving each other deeply should not be restricted. However, this may make people's cognition of true love deviate, gradually face the frustration of love, increase emotional pain, and even pay attention to self-expression, and emotionally show self-centeredness and well-dressed, while ignoring true love.
Third, this emotional view is also prone to dependence. Once the love relationship is established, people will have emotional dependence and feel that their love and each other's love are necessary. In this case, people may pursue love excessively, which may lead to emotional estrangement between themselves and the people around them, and the number of divorces and flash marriages will therefore increase.
The above are the problems that may be encountered in my emotional view of loving whoever I love. The key is how we view this emotional view. Accept it unconditionally, feel it, improve its deviation, or reject it. For this problem, I think we should avoid two extremes-emotional tolerance and intuitive judgment. Through emotional tolerance, try and experience some new things, and at the same time look at emotional problems in combination with each other's characteristics and background, and maintain a good emotional relationship, instead of simply "I love whoever loves me."
In short, the emotional concept of "I love whoever loves me" is simple, direct and easy to popularize, but it is also accompanied by many problems. We should practice emotional freedom and tolerance on the premise of avoiding these problems as much as possible. If we can be good at planning our emotions with reason and establish a relationship of mutual respect based on personality, then we can also get more satisfaction and happiness from this seemingly extreme emotional view.