First of all, you need to have personality conditions:
First, he should be a person with relatively healthy psychology, and his health level is at least higher than that of his clients. A qualified psychological counselor should be a happy person who loves life and has good adaptability. He can properly handle his own psychological conflicts and eliminate daily interference, thus ensuring the smooth progress of helping others.
Secondly, he should be a helpful person. Only a helpful person can give warmth to the client in the consultation relationship, create a safe and free atmosphere, accept all kinds of positive and negative emotions of the client and enter the inner world of the client;
Third, he should be a serious and responsible person. Patiently listen to the client's narrative, concentrate on it, make the client feel concerned about their difficulties, be able to talk to the client sincerely and frankly, and make them willing to expose their inner privacy and secrets, which is worthy of their trust.
Secondly, there are certain knowledge conditions:
Do psychological counseling with necessary theoretical knowledge. Psychological counseling does not rely on good wishes, enthusiasm and common sense to comfort, persuade troubled parties or encourage psychological patients to fight diseases. Psychological counseling and psychotherapy are scientific work. We should use the scientific knowledge of helping others to help the parties, let them understand the real reason that bothers them, correct or give up their maladjustment, and make them psychologically mature.
Finally, you need to have skills:
Psychological counselors should be good at helping others, which includes how to collect customers' information in the shortest time, such as the situation or event that bothers them, the time when symptoms appear and their development, and how to ask questions in a timely and alert manner. How to find the unconscious cover-up and resistance of the parties? How to guide them to gradually understand the crux of their own hearts, how to design some corresponding methods to correct some bad behaviors, especially for neurotic children, how to explain something to the parties at the right time, what to explain, and so on.
If you want to be a psychological counselor, simply put, you can become a psychological counselor by attending training courses organized by various institutions and obtaining a practicing certificate issued by the Ministry of Labor. How can I become a qualified psychological counselor? Many professionals have expounded their different views and viewpoints on this issue, and I am only here to express my views on this issue on behalf of myself.
First of all, to be a qualified psychological counselor, you need to have a good personality.
Many scholars have mentioned that the personality condition of a psychological counselor is the most important factor to become a qualified psychological counselor, and it is also the first condition that a qualified psychological counselor should have. The so-called personality refers to a person's whole mental outlook, which is the sum of some tendentious and stable psychological characteristics, including temperament, personality, interests, beliefs, abilities and so on. The personality quality of psychological counselors is the pillar of psychological counseling and the most critical factor in the counseling relationship.
What should I do to have a good character? As a qualified psychological counselor, first of all, we should make clear what is the purpose of individuals engaged in psychological counseling industry. If a counselor doesn't have the personality conditions to help others, his knowledge and skills can't play an effective role and may be harmful. Secondly, a qualified psychological counselor should not only have extensive theoretical knowledge and consulting skills, but also be a skillful craftsman if he lacks the character of sympathy and caring for others, can't be honest with others, can't win trust, and lacks sensitivity to interpersonal relationships.
Secondly, a qualified psychological counselor should also have rich professional knowledge and skilled professional skills.
It is necessary to master professional knowledge, but it is not enough to have these professional knowledge alone. Because although I think it's important to learn professional knowledge, I can't say it's my own business at this time after I finish it. The key is how to turn these professional knowledge into your own things. This time is very important!
Psychological counseling is a major with its own theories, methods and techniques, but the biggest feature is that we are an application part. Personnel engaged in psychological counseling can only take up their posts after obtaining qualification certificates. However, a qualified psychological counselor must undergo special training and training, and at the same time, he must constantly learn the theory of psychological counseling, master the methods and skills of psychological counseling, actively participate in the practical activities of psychological counseling, constantly improve his professional level, and effectively apply the professional skills and theoretical knowledge he has mastered to practical work in order to become a qualified counselor.
Third, there are good mental health indicators.
Psychological counselors themselves are human beings, and they have many desires, such as wanting to be loved, accepted, recognized, affirmed and felt safe. But he has the ability to satisfy these desires outside the consulting relationship, so as to ensure that he can effectively complete the task of the social role of psychological counselor without causing role tension.
Psychological counselors also live in the same social environment as most of his visitors, and they will also have various life problems and psychological conflicts, but he can maintain a relative psychological balance and solve his psychological conflicts outside the consulting relationship, so as not to interfere with the consulting work because of personal problems.
A qualified psychological counselor should be a happy person who loves life and has good adaptability. Those who are emotionally unstable, often in a state of psychological conflict and unable to balance themselves are not qualified for psychological counseling.
In the process of theoretical study and practical operation, we should pay attention to constantly adjusting our psychological state to keep our psychology at a healthy or basically healthy level. This is the primary psychological quality that mental health workers should have, and it is also the spiritual basis for psychological counseling. It should be said that it is difficult for anyone living in today's social environment to be psychologically "absolutely healthy", and so are mental health workers. Psychological counselors sometimes have "psychological cold" or often feel "psychological hunger and thirst", and need "tutor supervision", "partner consultation" or talk to relatives and friends and vent. But as a qualified psychological counselor, his mental health indicators should be above average.
Fourth, comprehensive quality.
1, self-cognitive ability
It is a compulsory course for a qualified psychological counselor to know oneself correctly, analyze oneself and adjust oneself. Each of us has a blind spot in life, and so do counselors. Of course, we don't want visitors to help us find our own blind spots, although many times, I think we should do these things well before meeting visitors. A qualified consultant should be able to analyze himself. Before we say that we are consultants, we first know that we are human beings, and we will have some negative emotions such as depression. At this time, self-adjustment is very important. I think everyone should have the same view!
2. Rich social knowledge
Counseling is not going to the market to buy food. You can choose whatever you want. In consultation, we will meet people with different cultural and environmental experiences, and they will ask us for help. Many people's problems are unique, all related to his various background factors. We know that it is much easier to form a diagnosis than to find a targeted solution to the problem. Why? Because there are many factors, psychological counselors should analyze and face them together with visitors. Let's think about it. If you don't understand society, people and cultural laws, how can you do this consultation, just those very professional theories and skills? You can't. So I think an excellent consultant should have rich sociological experience or knowledge, because we are dealing with a complex person. You should pay attention to what happens in society, especially this changing society!
3. A positive outlook on life
Mentally healthy people are mentally positive. Competent consultants are active, optimistic and energetic in their work and life outside the consulting relationship. Such people can bring their optimistic attitude of loving life into consulting work. When they consult, on the one hand, they can let the disheartened people regain their courage in life; On the other hand, you won't run out of energy. They don't regard consulting work as a burden, so they can bring enthusiasm and vitality to consulting work. Psychological counselors should not only use superb technology to heal people's wounds, but also use their noble and sound personality to give visitors a positive infection and influence.
When I first studied psychology, I learned that psychological counselors should remain neutral in the consultation process, but after some consultations, I found that it is impossible for psychological counselors to be completely neutral in the consultation process, and their values will be inadvertently revealed, which will affect visitors. If this effect is positive, I regard it as self-opening technology; If it is negative, I regard it as negative empathy. We certainly don't want the latter, so what should we do? Since we can't be completely neutral, we should show more positive aspects while trying to be neutral, which will be conducive to negotiation. However, it is not so easy to do this. To really do this, we need something inside. I understand it as a positive outlook on life. Only on this premise can you perform better. It is hard for us to imagine that a person who is not confident in himself can help others!
4. Open your mind
I found such a problem when I first attended the training class for psychological counselors. "The study time here is limited, and many students don't know it, even at the end of the study. How to improve in the future? " So I chose the initiative. Under the guidance of this ideological activity, I met hundreds of psychologists and enthusiastic people, and established personal friendship with some people, including people with different backgrounds. Now that I think about it, I'm still secretly happy. It is because of this open mind that I grew up on the road of psychology and have never given up until today. Because of this open mind, my personal professional quality has improved a lot, so I am very grateful to my friends, and I am more determined to take this road of psychological counseling with such an attitude. Understanding the world depends on how open your heart is! So I think professional counselors should have this.
5, keen observation
A keen mind enables the consultant to gain insight into the inner world of the inquirer through his words and expressions during the consultation process, and find things that are difficult for ordinary people to find or easy to ignore from the subtle expressions. Some visitors don't know much about the essence and principle of psychological counseling, so it's easy to beat around the bush at the beginning, talk about some side issues and hide their real problems. A keen consultant can find problems in time and guide the dialogue in depth.
How to achieve these goals. How about becoming a qualified psychological counselor?
1, system learning
Psychological counseling, as the main part of the clinical application of psychology, has higher requirements for people engaged in this profession. Without systematic study and mastery of the theories of psychology and related disciplines, it will be difficult in practical work. I think as a qualified consultant, it is necessary to study systematically. For example, attend professional training classes, read basic books for one month, and write more about your own experiences in the process. Continue to strengthen what you have learned. It will be much faster to attend class reunions or exchange salons with the same industry on a regular basis, communicate more and promote mutual progress!
2. Systematic training
Since it is an applied science, the requirements for practical operation ability can be imagined, and it is impossible to achieve results without skilled and flexible application technology. Therefore, targeted systematic training is needed, such as setting up professional study groups and conducting simulation training one day a week. This can improve the proficiency of some skills of psychological counseling. Or attend a training class with technical training to improve your technical application quickly!
3. Effective and correct positioning
A qualified consultant or an excellent consultant is a consultant with his own direction. A consultant who doesn't know where to go should not be a qualified consultant. This direction can be said to be the learning and application direction of consulting theory and skills, the direction of choosing different groups as consulting objects, and the direction of choosing marketers who want to be an excellent consultant or a consultant. And so on, at a certain stage, we must solve the problem, or we will be confused.
4. Conventional psychological supervision mechanism
One of the criteria to see whether a consultant is qualified is whether the consultant or consulting institution has a supervision mechanism. Psychological consultation is not clinical medicine, and the cases we encounter are basically discussed with other consultants. Even in clinical medicine, we should consult difficult cases. We can imagine that if a person consults alone for a long time and receives cases, there is no communication and supervision mechanism. Where will he go? We will find it dangerous! Therefore, it is necessary to establish a supervised study group of several people and communicate regularly.
5. Case supervision mechanism
We are first and foremost talents and consultants. You will be influenced by your own experience during the consultation process, and you will also encounter situations where you are not sure how to deal with it. What should we do when these come? I think I'll go to my supervisor and ask him to help me with my case or my personal problems.
In a word, as a qualified psychological counselor, before starting to consult for visitors, the first task is to complete self-improvement and growth, and at the same time, in the process of continuous learning and growth, effectively understand professional theoretical knowledge and technology, and realize effective consultation and treatment process.