Psychological research shows that children usually have fear and regret when they do something wrong. This fear is mainly about the bad consequences of making mistakes. At this time, the child's attention is often focused on one point, that is, how parents will deal with his mistakes. If this psychological state is strengthened, it will hinder children's understanding of mistakes. Therefore, parents should first avoid aggravating their children's fear, care for and encourage their children to have the confidence and courage to correct their mistakes like sick children, seriously point out the nature and harm of their children's mistakes, and let their children feel their parents' trust and attention to their mistakes from their parents' blind behavior. In this way, the child's regret is grasped, which urges him to further deepen his understanding of mistakes, produces feelings of disgust at his own wrong behavior, and gives him the internal motivation to correct his mistakes.
Secondly, parents should guide their children patiently and meticulously. By putting facts, reasoning and finding harm, help children to improve their understanding of mistakes, distinguish what to do and what not to do, and let children change their direction, determination and confidence. This kind of preaching by parents should be vivid and simple, and the abstract truth should be infiltrated into interesting stories. Otherwise, if you simply do it, you will be happy for a while. Not only can't solve the problem fundamentally, but it is easy to hurt the child's self-esteem and arouse the child's disgust. This may have a temporary effect on young children and people who make mistakes for the first time, but it will not help older children and people who make mistakes repeatedly. Some will alienate the relationship between children and their families, and even lead to emotional opposition and intensified contradictions, resulting in unexpected family changes.
Third, children should be encouraged to tell the truth and put forward their own remedies. When children do something wrong, parents should encourage them to tell the truth and truthfully report what happened. After the child tells the truth, parents should affirm it in time and never take the materials provided by the child to be cynical. If you do this, you will encourage children to lie and cheat in disguise. Only when you treat your child's mistakes calmly will your child be willing to listen to your opinions. When taking remedial measures, it is best to let the children bring it up themselves. If the method proposed by the child is not suitable, parents can guide the child to supplement and modify it.
Finally, when children do something wrong, parents should sincerely analyze and admit their responsibilities in family education. If parents don't talk about their mistakes, older children who have preliminarily judged the standard will have distrust and disgust towards their parents and weaken the educational role of the family.
It's not terrible to make a small mistake, but it's easy to make a bigger mistake if you don't correct it in time. Parents should have a correct attitude and treat children who make mistakes correctly.