Life is not perfect, and excessive pursuit of perfection will only hurt yourself. Many people with psychological problems are often people who love life very much, but they love too much and become demanding perfection, which obviously exceeds their own conditions or social common sense. It is morbid, and all kinds of troubles and bad emotions will be born, including anxiety. At this time, I always feel at a loss about my place in this world, I have no confidence, courage and wisdom, and I don't know how to make a decision when things happen. Inferiority is the most fundamental cause of psychological problems. Without self-confidence, people will feel insecure, anxious and fearful. Of course, pride is also unacceptable. The essence of excessive pride is inferiority, because he can't face the joys and sorrows of life calmly. Self-abased and self-pitying, arrogant and conceited people often know themselves, but treat themselves in a distorted form, refuse to accept themselves, torture themselves and eventually destroy themselves. A person has no confidence to be himself, has no interest in accepting himself, and only knows to act according to the faces of people around him. The soul is out of its shell, and a real self and an imaginary self are in a split state. If you live in other people's world all day and let others control you, you will lose yourself and find no pleasure in life. Even if the whole world abandons you, don't abandon yourself. Only by not giving up can there be hope. Learn to love yourself. If you don't even love yourself, no one will love you.
2. Face the reality and dare to accept and adapt to the environment.
Hegel said: Everything in reality exists, and everything that exists is reasonable. Think about it carefully, life is really like this, and existence is reasonable. We should learn to appreciate and enjoy the material world you can see and touch, and don't spend too much energy on the spiritual world to get it. Whether you can face the reality is a sign of immaturity. When we are in a bad environment, we can only try our best to change it and adapt to it. If we run away from it and complain about it, it will only hurt ourselves. Suffering is a stone, which can knock a person down or become a stepping stone for him to get up. Many excellent healthy people understand the dark side of the world, but they have more reason to look at the bright place and get peace and joy. Are mentally healthy people born smarter and stronger than others? I don't think so. Everyone's mind will experience hardships and setbacks. It's just that they have a good attitude. They don't exaggerate disasters or turn a blind eye, but try their best to turn bad things into good things. In life, you have met with disaster. Only by accepting it will you feel less pain. Only when you accept it will you have the mind to change. Blindly regretting and complaining will only make the problem more and more complicated, and you will be hurt more and more.
3. Have a confidant, be good at venting and be kind to others.
Negative emotions, like computer viruses, should be vented and cleaned up in time. In reality, you can have several friends, but at least one, you can trust each other together and talk about everything. He can share your happiness and pain. When you are upset, you can find him and vent your troubles in time.