Self-control is the ability to control your attention, emotions and desires. Will affect a person's health, interpersonal relationships, career success or failure.
This book comes straight to the point. The first way to cultivate self-control is meditation. Pay attention to your breathing when you meditate, and control it by saying "breathe" and "suck". You can exercise for 5 minutes at first, and gradually increase the time to 10~ 15 minutes. The purpose of meditation is to train your attention and concentrate on controlling your breathing.
Besides meditation, exercise is another way, because exercise can make people energetic and improve self-control. Similarly, ensuring adequate sleep is also conducive to improving their self-control. In addition, it is also very important to train your brain consciously, such as closing the door with your left hand, closing the door handle, choosing difficult things and practicing constantly, which can improve your self-control as a whole.
It only takes 10 weeks to get full marks in self-control and get rid of the stumbling block of self-control.
We often hear a saying from friends that sweets can make people happy. Do you want a big piece of cake when you feel stressed and depressed? When you are a procrastinator, do you think you are far behind schedule? Do you feel more pressure and continue to procrastinate without facing the facts?
Stress leads us in the wrong direction and makes us irrational. In this case, to improve self-control, you need an effective way to reduce stress, such as taking part in sports, doing yoga, reading books, listening to music or chatting with family and friends, so cultivate a creative hobby and do it when you feel that the pressure is getting out of control! When the pressure is released, you will be full of energy and resist temptation.
In life, I just want to eat a few tablets at first, and finally I don't even let kruimeltje go; Losing $ 100 in the casino will make you want to make a bigger bet; If the weight loss plan falls through, you simply don't exercise and overeat ... how do these degenerate behaviors get out of control?
The author said that it is not the first abandonment that aggravates the degradation, but the sense of shame and guilt after the first abandonment, that is, the feeling that it is better to be broken since it is out of control. When you blame yourself for giving in to temptation for the first time, you can't pull yourself out of depravity, and you face more failure of self-control. If you think that the key to improving willpower is to be hard on yourself, you are wrong. Self-criticism will reduce enthusiasm and self-control! So when you fail, please forgive yourself, sympathize with yourself and encourage yourself to start over, otherwise the guilt of self-blame will make you give up the struggle again.
It only takes 10 weeks to get full marks in self-control and get rid of the stumbling block of self-control.
Self-control seems difficult to master, but we can improve constantly by simple methods, such as meditation, exercise and staying energetic. In addition, when you feel stressed, don't force yourself to move on. First, seek active and effective decompression methods, release pressure, and cheer up before starting. Don't criticize yourself in the face of failure, forgive and encourage yourself to meet the greater challenge of self-control in the future.
Self-control also has limits. How to improve the limits?
Have you ever seen a quitter who hasn't smoked for 24 hours suddenly gobble up an ice cream? all