In addition to paying attention to the individual's healthy physical and mental growth, we began to pay more attention to how to shape the "healthy environment" of the family.
In life, a healthy family is like a healthy system, which will run in a regular state. Let every member of the family be happy and comfortable. An unhealthy family environment will not only affect the feelings between husband and wife, but also hurt the growth of children.
Therefore, it is very necessary for us to guard against ten kinds of unhealthy family life and create a good environment for children's healthy growth:
1. Too strict father+too nagging mother
Although our traditional folk custom advocates "loving mother strict father", an overly strict father will cause children's timidity and rebellious psychology, while an overly nagging mother will make children feel dependent and disgusted, and weaken their adaptability to society.
2. Family atmosphere tending to "zero" communication
In life, we often encounter the so-called "age gap" and "generation gap", especially when the mobile Internet is highly developed. Many family members are in a family atmosphere inclined to "zero" communication at night. They play with their mobile phones or work in front of computers, and there is basically no topic, which has a negative impact on family development.
3. Meet the vanity of comparison
Everyone has vanity. In order to satisfy themselves, over-amplifying material comparison and interpersonal comparison will make family members feel uneasy and bored.
4. Excessive intervention from generation to generation
Not only between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also between son-in-law and mother-in-law In the life of husband and wife, excessive intervention and encouragement by elders or excessive doting on children will cause hidden dangers in the family.
5. Materialized family
The so-called materialistic family means that family members express their love and care with material as the sole criterion. For example, if a child meets a certain condition required by his parents, he will get a certain substance. Although it is ostensibly encouraging, it will actually make children misunderstand the materials.
Step 6 pay the blamed family
No one's contribution is based on the return of their own needs, so a family that often talks about "I do everything for you" will make love more and more alienated.
7. Satisfy your family and lose yourself
Meeting the expectations of family members is what we should do, so losing ourselves will make us depressed, which will have a bad internal impact on family life in the long run.
8. Lack of positive factors
The emotions of family members will affect each other and often spread negative energy without positive energy and positive factors, which will make people living together feel pressure. ,
9. Parents who don't lead by example
Parents are imitators of children and have a subtle influence on their physical and mental growth. Parents who are good role models instead of setting an example will lead their children's mental model in the wrong direction.
10. Pay too much attention to children's families
A family that is excessively child-centered and centered on children's learning will inevitably increase children's fear and pressure.
In addition, some people say that splitting independent family members is the foundation of a healthy family and will not rely too much on each other. Others say that harmonious coexistence between husband and wife and their respective families is the way to a healthy family.
The standard of health is "five harmonies".
Unity of body and mind:
The source of personal continuous creation is the most likely state of happiness, and it is the best state of one's spiritual and material freedom.
Gender harmony:
Harmonious relationship between husband and wife can naturally stimulate their enthusiasm for work and life; Family harmony can keep its state stable. Respecting human nature and the characteristics of men and women's roles is conducive to creating and building a harmonious relationship between the two sexes.