Because people get along with each other, just like hedgehogs holding a group to keep warm in winter, they are too tight and easy to hurt each other. But to keep a certain distance, but you can get along comfortably for a long time.
Good interpersonal relationship, there are some distances in friendship and some appropriate limits in intimacy.
So when you get old, you should learn not to get too close to your friends. Because everyone is an island, even if the relationship is good, we can't fully understand it.
It is both lucky and blessed to have several close friends in one's life. So there are many kinds of friends, so for an ordinary person in old age, it is best to keep a certain distance from friends. Don't choose blind trust because of your loneliness and boredom. You also need to keep a certain distance from your friends, and don't be too enthusiastic. The so-called "full moon means loss, and full water means overflow". Sometimes time, sometimes too close, not only will not enhance feelings, but it is likely to bring some disasters, misunderstandings, or indifference ...
People over 60 years old should not get too close to their friends or break off diplomatic relations, but have their own principles in the process of communication. Among them, it is very important to maintain these four kinds of vitality.
Being too close to others is not conducive to the long-term management of feelings. Therefore, you can't get too close to your friends. Once you rely too much on and trust this intimate relationship between friends, it is easy to tell your friends all your secrets. There are always secrets here, which may be trivial things at home, melancholy in my heart and my troubles. Therefore, we should keep a good and appropriate boundary with each other and treat friendship more rationally and objectively.
72-year-old Uncle Liu is a 72-year-old Uncle Liu is an optimistic, cheerful and generous person. The biggest problem in his life is his only son. He always wanted his son to have a happy family and rich material conditions, but he didn't know why. My son always misses many job opportunities by mistake. Through the timely help of others, my son went to work smoothly, but whenever he worked for a period of time, he would encounter some unexpected situations, which eventually led to his son's life being not so smooth.
Uncle Liu himself is very hospitable and always gathers friends at home. During a drink, Uncle Liu told his troubles. Especially about what happened to my son recently.
A few days later, several strangers came to the house and said that it was a person's luck. Uncle Liu didn't take it seriously at all and didn't believe it. Who knows that these strangers are holding their fingers and counting: Tell Uncle Liu in detail that there is only one son, and what happened to his son recently, as long as Uncle Liu believes. Then they will turn their son's luck around. From then on, Uncle Liu's son will be rich and have good luck.
At this time, Uncle Liu has great trust in these strangers. He thinks these are gods, incredible. How can you make your own situation so clear, and your inner demands are also in your heart.
In the end, Uncle Liu warmly hosted these strangers, and these strangers persuaded Uncle Liu through their own rhetoric. In the end, strangers can solve all the "bad luck" only through money. Of course, the stranger promised not to take the money away, just need Uncle Liu to take out his savings and let the stranger see his loyalty, so it will be blessed.
Uncle Liu was so convinced that he took out the key to his savings drawer in front of strangers to show his loyalty to them. The strangers blindfolded him. Uncle Liu has no doubt. In a series of finger-pinching transshipment, Uncle Liu was finally asked to beg blindfolded for half an hour. However, they galloped away on motorcycles. At this time, Uncle Liu realized the seriousness of the problem until he heard the sound of the motorcycle drifting away, and his heart suddenly hitched. Feeling cheated.
Immediately untie the blindfolded Puckilo and open the deposit drawer. Only then did he find that his savings were gone, and Uncle Liu regretted it. There is nothing you can do to call the police, because you are in a remote rural area and there is no monitoring. Only the dumb eat coptis chinensis, and there is suffering.
It can be seen from Uncle Liu's cheating behavior that these people took advantage of his inner troubles and expectations and had already understood his family situation clearly in advance. Therefore, we cheated Uncle Liu's trust by pinching fingers and transshipment, thus taking away Uncle Liu's deposit. It can be seen that you must be careful when making friends. As an elderly person, don't get too close to friends and tell family secrets, which will eventually lead to the loss of wealth because of the exposure of the news.
If in the process of friendship development, if you constantly compromise and please others, it is actually a kind of injury and neglect to yourself. It is not advisable to excessively consume the friendship between people. Especially for some friends, learn to refuse decisively.
Sometimes it is inevitable that you have a kind of friends around you and always want you to help him. However, often because you go too close and help too much, you form resentment and even hatred. The other party thinks that you should have greater ability to help him win more, and even hates that your help is not in place, and may also suspect that your help is not sincere enough. However, you are full of grievances and resentment. You think you've tried your best to help. This is not only thankless, but also a complaint.
Such a friend is too close to you, and his requirements and expectations will be higher, so he may be very disappointed in you if he doesn't get his satisfactory expectations, but he won't be grateful at all.
The friendship between two people became the relationship between a farmer and a snake.
As far as my father is concerned, because they always insisted on marriage between men and women at that time, they needed a matchmaker to tell each other about their good and bad. So over time, every time my father introduces a couple, he can smoothly enter the marriage hall. A father who stays in the countryside is bound to be appreciated by many people. Some people, as long as their goals are right, will find their father as a middleman to mend their marriage.
Until one time, my father always regarded Zhang Shu as his best friend, and he asked his father to match his son. His son is also his pain point, and no girl has been willing to marry him. Seeing that he was about to stand for thirty, Zhang Shu was very worried. He found his father, hoping to solve his son's marriage. The father agreed without hesitation, but the woman still refused. In the end, my father had no choice.
Who knows that after things didn't succeed, Zhang Shu thought that his father didn't take it seriously and he didn't plan well. As a friend, Zhang Shu felt that his father had not fulfilled his responsibilities as a friend. This made my father very wronged. He felt that he was running around in the dark early in the morning, always looking at the woman's face. And now it doesn't end well. Because of this, my father and uncle Zhang are no longer friends. Ten years later, they are still far away.
This is because the relationship between friends is too close, which leads to the disappointment of the other party, and this friendship is yellow.
Friends should not get along with each other with a strong purpose. "A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" treats each other with sincerity, without hypocrisy, and is the truest self.
But friends should also keep their wealth secret and reveal themselves too much, otherwise the disaster will come from their mouths and easily lead to great disaster.
Although money is not everything, it is absolutely impossible to have no money. Time and humanity can't stand the test most, so don't use money to test people's hearts, and don't use money to test the feelings between anyone. To be a man and do things, we must always learn to hide wealth from the people, and the greed of human nature will never end.
If you disclose your financial situation to your friends, others may borrow money from you, so there are many real cases in real life where friends' feelings break up because of borrowing money. But I don't think anyone likes to lend money to others When you want to borrow money from yourself, you are always embarrassed. But if you don't borrow it, your friendship will drift away.
At the same time, the exposure of property is also easy to attract thieves, robbers and jealousy.
Therefore, as the elderly, we must be careful to make friends, and don't get too close to friends around us, so as to avoid unnecessary troubles and disasters caused by the exposure of property.
Life in my later years, because I no longer rush about for work or career. Therefore, it is inevitable that you will feel that your life values are different because you lose your social role. Therefore, it is easy for the elderly to get warm because of boredom and loneliness, so many changes have taken place in their married life in their later years.
As old people, we should keep a certain distance from friends of the opposite sex.
In life, we can't avoid contact with the opposite sex, which is understandable, but we should keep a proper distance from friends of the opposite sex.
Because once a person reaches the age of 60, it is easy for the elderly to have an affair because of the boredom of life and the dullness of marriage. However, marriage is plain and real, and the affection between husband and wife is no longer strong, but the triviality of life. But once you have the right opposite sex around you, it is easy for two people to have some unnecessary troubles because of unclear boundaries and uncontrolled scales.
Therefore, it is normal for couples to have friends of the opposite sex, and it will not affect marriage. But once you cross the line, it will affect the feelings between husband and wife.
Therefore, as an elderly person, we should stick to our own principles and the bottom line of marriage. Keep a certain distance from the opposite sex, so that your happy marriage will not change in your later years.
Old people should not get too close to their friends, sometimes they get too close and know each other too well, so that the shortcomings and advantages of both sides will become their own chips; Sometimes if you go too close, there will be too much worldly wisdom. Because of the deep friendship, you will be bad or you can't refuse, so you will give up the principle of being a man or doing things, and your mood will be very depressed. In the end, you not only hurt yourself, but also hurt your friends.
Therefore, keeping a certain distance and grasping a certain degree can achieve the most comfortable state. Therefore, a person's health and optimistic attitude are also conducive to a person's longevity.
Therefore, even friends should have certain principles of getting along, keep a certain distance, treat them rationally, don't rely too much, and don't expose too many family conflicts and personal secrets.