First, the symptoms of Internet addiction
Internet addiction is a psychological disorder. Long-term surfing the internet will produce "excitement points of surfing the internet" in many neurons of the brain, which will make the brain continuously excited about surfing the internet. The pathology of this addiction is very similar to drug abuse and gambling, and it is as difficult to quit as drug abuse and gambling. The main symptoms are:
1, strong attachment
The psychology and behavior of internet addicts are dominated by the activity of surfing the internet, and surfing the internet has also evolved into their main psychological needs. The proportion of online time and energy is gradually increasing, which leads to the disorder of individual biological clock. When you can't surf the Internet, you will experience a strong desire, and even have irritability and anxiety and corresponding physiological and behavioral reactions. Things will get better after surfing the internet. Internet is dominant in his life, and his attention and interest are directed at it, which weakens his motivation to work and study and reduces his quality of life.
2. Emotional apathy
Addicts can't live without netizens, but they are even more indifferent to relatives who have flesh-and-blood ties. Internet addicts don't reveal their feelings to family and friends when they are depressed, but hide their emotions and turn to pour out and vent on the internet. In addition, Internet addicts often have conflicts with their families because of their restricted access to the Internet.
3. Narrow the scope of interpersonal communication.
Internet addicts often seek higher social recognition, but in real life they encounter relatively more difficulties and have serious social anxiety. The contrast between the ease of online social interaction and the constant setbacks in real life will inevitably lead to more repeated online behaviors. Internet addicts turn interpersonal communication into virtual cyberspace, and the real interpersonal relationship gradually alienates or deteriorates, and they take an evasive or confrontational attitude towards the people and environment around them. In addition, the language expression ability of internet addicts declines, and there are obstacles in interpersonal communication.
4. Weak willpower
Although internet addicts can realize the harm caused by excessive internet access and try to shorten the time of internet access, they always end in failure. After a period of compulsory abstinence, people will become restless and want to surf the internet irrepressibly. Finally, addiction will recur and show a stronger tendency.
Internet addiction, like drug abuse and gambling, is a kind of spiritual dependence. Once caught, it's hard to extricate yourself. Only early guidance can prevent problems before they happen. But don't be too hasty, across the board. The best way is to communicate with children more and let them feel the warmth of family.
Second, the reasons for Internet addiction
There are many reasons for internet addiction, but as far as educational mistakes are concerned, they include family, school and social factors.
1, mental emptiness
Children are addicted to the internet, and the most sad thing is their parents. But many parents don't know that children's behavior has reached this point, and many reasons are caused by parents. Most parents are busy at work at ordinary times, and their concern for their children is only satisfied with "eating and drinking enough, wearing warm clothes and having some pocket money". I don't know what's bothering my child recently, and whether there is any contradiction with my classmates. The boys in 12 building have been bullying him recently. what should he do ？ Children can't find this kind of love from their parents, so they go online. They will chat with netizens under pseudonyms, swear and speak freely.
2. Bad personality
In addition to family factors leading to mental emptiness, children's bad personality is also an important reason for addiction.
It is observed that most children who are addicted to the internet have bad personality characteristics, such as being withdrawn and introverted, and unwilling to associate with others. When they have contradictions in their hearts and are worried that they can't solve them, they vent on the Internet, because they find that the network is a good object to talk to: the keyboard is controlled in their own hands, they can read whatever they want and say whatever they want with netizens. Soon, he will be addicted to the internet.
3. Environmental impact
Today, with the development of information technology, the network is no longer a strange term. Everyone from newly enrolled dolls to retired old people is familiar with computers. Internet cafes can be seen everywhere, and things on the Internet are mixed. Internet cafe operators aim at making profits, and open their doors to underage children who have not yet fully mastered the ability to distinguish right from wrong, so these children can easily lose themselves in the dazzling virtual world.
4. The pressure of study
Under the guidance of exam-oriented education, children in China have lost their thirst for knowledge under great pressure. They study mechanically, and it is easy to get tired of learning. Then they skip classes, go to Internet cafes and indulge in the Internet. Senior three students from a key high school in a province ran into the internet cafe before the college entrance examination and became addicted to surfing the internet. He said to the doctor, "I feel so tired that I can't get grades every day. I have to study hard every day."
It can be seen that children's internet addiction can't just blame children. Many times, parents should think about what pushed their children to Internet cafes. Talk to your child calmly and find out the reasons for your child's internet addiction, so as to fundamentally solve the problem.
Third, the countermeasures to quit Internet addiction
To prevent children from falling into the embrace of the internet, we must "start" in advance and intervene as early as possible. Don't think that children will be finished after eating and drinking. We should communicate with children more, help them solve any unpleasant things as soon as possible, take some time out to chat with them every day, listen to him talk about what happened in class today, and let children feel that you really care about him. In addition, don't be too hard on children, force them to do things according to their own wishes, such as when they must read books every day, how many points they must take, and give them too much psychological pressure to be close to their parents. For example, when a child gets 90 points in the final exam, many parents will say to the child: 10. How did you lose? Sum up the experience and score 100 next time. But few parents will praise their children: "Everything you do is 90% right." Children especially need such praise and encouragement. As long as children are willing to be close to their parents, they will naturally stay away from the Internet, and parents' early intervention will succeed.