How to pay attention to children's mental health 1 Don't neglect children's psychological education. With the development of society, the competition between people is becoming more and more fierce, and parents' expectations for their children are getting higher and higher. Influenced by the traditional educational concept, parents often attach importance to knowledge, culture and psychology in the education of their children. People often pay insufficient attention to children's mental health, especially ignore children's psychological education.
Scientists have found through research that mental health is an important factor affecting students' academic performance, and mental health is directly proportional to students' academic performance. Facing the knowledge society of 2 1 century, it is more and more difficult to get good grades only by rote learning under the requirements of quality education. Now more and more people have realized that the improvement of children's psychological level can improve their academic performance. Only with positive psychological conditions can we give full play to people's potassium and non-intellectual factors, otherwise it will hinder them.
Professor Tellman, a famous American psychologist, and his student Dr. Kirks studied the 30 1450- 1850 * * great men who appeared in the past 400 years, and found that they all had strong and independent personalities, were not afraid of difficulties, and were more forward-looking, which also showed that they all had positive and healthy psychological conditions when they were young.
Professor Wang Jisheng from Institute of Psychology, Chinese Academy of Sciences conducted a psychological profile test on more than 20,000 middle school students in more than 500 classes in Beijing. The results of the profile test are shocking: almost every three middle school students now have various psychological problems, and the test results also show that the better their psychological quality and mental health, the better their academic performance.
At present, children's psychological problems are mainly manifested in the following aspects: obsessive-compulsive symptoms, paranoia, hostility, sensitive interpersonal relationships, anxiety, great pressure of study, psychological injustice and scary symptoms. Among them, the symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder are sensitive and suspicious, over-restrained, thinking too much, indecisive, paying attention to details and demanding perfection: the reason for this symptom is related to being too perfect for children. For example, if a child doesn't do a little well, he will be accused or punished by adults, which will cause the child to be afraid of making mistakes. Stereotype psychology: paranoia refers to self-righteousness, suspicion and distrust of others, while hostility is manifested as being easy to get angry, losing his temper and being unfriendly to his peers when getting along; Interpersonal sensitivity means always feeling that others don't trust themselves and are uncomfortable with the opposite sex; Anxiety is manifested as nervousness, worry and anxiety, depression refers to depression and feeling that life is boring, psychological imbalance refers to unhappiness when others surpass themselves, and learning pressure refers to psychological pressure brought by learning: the symptoms of terror are cowardice, timidity and fear, and there is always insecurity in the heart.
Parents should not only care about their children's physical growth and intellectual development, but also pay attention to their personality development and mental health. Scientific research has proved that the education in infancy has a far-reaching impact on a person's life, and many behaviors of adults can see the shadow of his childhood. /kloc-psychological problems at the age of 0/8 may be formed at the age of 3, so adults should pay attention to children's mental health education.
Some suggestions on maintaining children s mental health in daily life;
1, emotional investment-make children happy every day
A relaxed and happy mood can enable children to carry out various activities smoothly, and parents should always keep their children in high spirits.
Children's emotional development is characterized by susceptibility to infection. In order for children to have a good emotional experience, parents should:
Set an example for children to imitate, and always use the optimistic children of emotional contagion.
Only by establishing a harmonious and tacit relationship can parents exert a subtle influence on their children. "The child's face is a barometer of the relationship between parents", which is the truth.
We should put our feelings into our children. American psychiatrist Campbell suggested that parents should make "spiritual investment" to make their children mentally healthy. Look at the child affectionately, have warm physical contact with the child, and care for the child wholeheartedly.
2. Treat each other with courtesy-let children feel that their parents are amiable and respectable.
Democratic and equal interpersonal relationships within the family are the "vitamins" for children's mental health. The survey shows that compared with autocratic parents, children trained by democratic consultative parents are more reasonable, more popular with their peers, more friendly and more helpful. In order to establish a good parent-child relationship, parents should do:
Respect children and realize that children are independent people with their own feelings and needs. Put down the shelf of being a parent and bend down to talk to your child to reduce the "sense of dignity" and make your child feel that parents are equal to themselves.
Parents should be polite to their children, be polite to their children, and don't beat and scold them. No matter what good deeds or achievements children have done, parents should congratulate them and never be stingy with their appreciation.
When parents realize that they may have said something wrong to their children and done something wrong, they should be brave enough to admit their mistakes and apologize in time. This will not reduce their prestige in the eyes of children, but will make children feel that their parents are more amiable and respectable.
3. Be persuasive-let children know themselves.
Whether children can correctly understand themselves and evaluate their abilities is an important indicator of their mental health. In order to help children form a good self-image, develop their self-esteem and improve their self-awareness level, parents should let their children realize that there is only one "I" in the world. "I" is unique. I have many advantages, but I also have some disadvantages. However, through hard work, I can correct my shortcomings and be a good boy.
To this end, parents can take various forms: encourage their children to take a look in the mirror to see how their facial features look and figure; Inspire children to draw their own images in different ways, such as lying on the ground, asking their parents to help them draw the outline of their bodies, then cutting and pasting them themselves, or drawing self-portraits; Guide children to sort out their photos and works, arrange them by date or by content, and establish a relatively complete growth file; Collect all kinds of origami works and bind them into a book, so that children can browse and watch them often and feel proud of their progress.
In addition, it is also important to shape children's good character. Childhood is a critical period for the formation of children's personality. The quality of children's personality characteristics directly affects all aspects of development and future work and life.
When cultivating children's independence, parents should educate them in daily life and let them do their own things; When cultivating children's restraint, parents should work with their children to formulate rules and regulations, encourage their children to be the "inspection team leader" of the family, and take the lead in observing family rules and regulations and laws.
How to pay attention to children's mental health 2 1 Pay attention to the healthy growth of the mind.
Good psychological quality needs to be cultivated from an early age. Mental health has attracted considerable attention in family education abroad, but it is almost a blind spot in China. China's exam-oriented education system makes learning the focus of parents and society, while children's spiritual growth is neglected. Some parents think that it is enough for their children to study hard and be healthy, but they don't know that the huge pressure of study has overwhelmed the growing children. Many children, including top students, are afraid of exams, especially rankings. With the present results, it is difficult to predict the future of children. We can't refuse to know their world, but we should learn to communicate with children, learn how to decompress their minds and create a relaxed environment for their growth. Should be worthy of parents' attention!
2. Supplement nutrition to the child's heart.
Children's brains, like their bodies, need nutrient intake. Giving children an affirmation is the "protein" for their spiritual growth.
We should see every little progress of our children, give them praise and recognition, and don't compare our own shortcomings with the advantages of other children. Every child is an independent individual and has its own characteristics. Let children grow up in affirmation, which is a strong psychological support for children!
Give children a free space. It is an indispensable "water" for children's spiritual growth. Giving children a physical and mental space is conducive to their free thinking, which undoubtedly gives them a pair of beautiful "wings." This kind of freedom includes freedom of time, pocket money, reading and interest, which invisibly cultivates children's time management ability and financial management concept. Give your interest back to your child and do what you are interested in. Your child can easily feel a sense of accomplishment. Otherwise, it is easy for you to help your child decide what he doesn't like, and then the child will not only do badly, but also feel depressed! What is worth mentioning here is reading. Let children swim in the "ocean" of reading, which can broaden their horizons and stimulate curiosity! Without reading, children's spiritual world will only be overgrown with weeds and desolate. This is also a kind of spiritual edification.
Giving children a kind of tolerance is an indispensable "oxygen" for their spiritual growth, which is conducive to cultivating their understanding and attitude towards life. We are all real people, and we can't compare with God, which is too far away and unrealistic. We should allow children to be imperfect, allow children to make mistakes, and be good at discovering the bright spots in children!
Recognizing children's dreams is the necessary sunshine for their spiritual growth. Don't ignore children's dreams, this is the direction for children to fly. A child without dreams is like a bird that can't fly. He can't see the sky and mountains outside!
3. Let children learn to deal with setbacks.
Teach children to learn psychological self-help, knowing that the most successful people have to experience countless failures behind them, let them bravely face setbacks, adjust themselves with a positive attitude, and don't get carried away. Let children properly vent their negative emotions without hurting others and themselves. Never let a child spend the night in tears. Giving them some positive psychological hints is very important to cultivate their frustration ability. A strong personality can inspire children's lofty sense of responsibility, which is cultivated in the process of suffering and frustration! Only when children have the power to cope with setbacks can they hold up their own sky.
4. Let children have the ability to enjoy spiritual happiness.
Children who grow up in a happy environment often have a good mentality. Happiness needs to create and cultivate their own ability to find happiness, enjoy happiness and spread happiness, which is very beneficial to the healthy development of children's minds!
How to pay attention to children's mental health 3 1 Don't care too much about children. It is easy for children to be too self-centered and think that everyone should respect him, and as a result, they become arrogant people.
2. Don't go near children. Children should be encouraged to live, study and play with people of the same age, so as to learn how to get along with others.
3. Don't praise children too much. Children get achievements in doing things, but only a little praise. Excessive praise will make children infected with the bad psychology of fishing for fame and reputation.
4. Don't be moody to children. Parents should keep emotional restraint when getting along with their children. Never allow children to ask the stars for the moon when they are happy, and yell at them immediately when they are angry, which will make them sensitive, suspicious, emotionally unstable and timid.
5. Don't cheat and threaten children unnecessarily. Scaring children will lose the authority of parents in their children's minds, and children will not listen to all warnings in the future.
6. Don't criticize or laugh at children in public in front of peers. This will cause children to bear grudges and be shy, which will greatly damage their self-esteem, thus leading to unhealthy psychology such as inferiority, timidity and escape.