Although I have written some articles about Separate child care before, and analyzed some common disadvantages and solutions in Separate child care, the unique advantages of old people's parenting can not be ignored.
If we can look at intergenerational education from a more objective perspective, many contradictions may be easier to solve. This article is written for parents who have old people to help take care of their children.
▊ Parenting advantages of the elderly: Some nursing viewpoints are worth learning.
Many elderly people have obvious advantages in parenting. For example, I want to share with you this old man's parenting experience.
The old man used to be a nurse, and she raised about 100 children. In the process of caring for children for more than 20 years, the elderly have accumulated a lot of valuable parenting experience. Her nursing viewpoint is worth learning from young parents;
1. Never cover a child.
It is better to let the children wear a little thinner than to cover them. Because once a child has a fever, his physique will get worse, and then his development will slow down and he will get sick easily. When the indoor temperature is low in winter, the quilt should also be covered under the armpit. If the quilt is thick, it should be
Lift the quilt on the child's chest a little to facilitate breathing and heat dissipation.
2. A small belly is very important
The most common cause of baby crying is abdominal pain caused by cold and flatulence. So pay special attention not to let the baby's stomach show. Even in summer, it is best not to expose the baby for too long. It is recommended to wear a Chinese bra.
If the child is crying, you can feel whether the child's abdomen is cold first. If it is really cold, put a little alkaline noodles on the navel of the child to melt, and absorb the cold in this way.
In addition, 100 days before the child is born, if the outdoor temperature is not too high, it is best not to let the child take an air bath directly in front of the open window, because the child is too young and has low resistance, and it is easy to inhale the chill, causing abdominal pain and crying.
Don't let the children eat too much.
Seven points full is not as good as one point full. So be careful not to give the children too much. If children eat too much, the extra food is not only bad for digestion and absorption, but also affects children's brain development. More seriously, in the long run, it will have an irreversible impact on the child's future body. Therefore, when you meet children's favorite food, don't give it to them just because they like it or the food is nutritious. This is actually harmful to children. Besides, there are too many fat children now, and it is also a good way to avoid being fat in the future to give children a scientific diet from an early age.
Boiled water is the best drink for children.
The best drink for children is boiled water. Water is an important factor that constitutes human cells. If the child is short of water, it will have a bad influence on the development of the body, so help the child develop a good habit of drinking water. Especially in summer, children sweat more and get angry easily. When taking children out, pay attention to bring enough water and replenish water on time, a small amount of times. As for fruit juice, although it is nutritious, it is best not to give it to children, because it is easy to cause dental caries and children will resist drinking water because it is more delicious.
In addition, even older children who have already gone to school should pay attention to the importance of proper hydration. Lack of water in brain cells will affect children's memory and reaction ability, causing headaches and other symptoms. It can be seen that the role of water can not be underestimated.
Although not all elderly people can have such scientific parenting experience, the parenting of the elderly plays a vital role in the current family structure. Mothers should also learn to see the contribution of the elderly in caring for children and families and learn to be grateful. Only with this gratitude can we handle more parenting conflicts with the elderly.
In addition to the above advantages in nursing, other obvious advantages of the elderly in helping children are as follows:
▊ Advantage 2: Raising the elderly saves family expenses.
Most parents have to go to work. If there is no old man to help take care of the children, they will have to hire a nanny. The nanny's salary is basically not less than 2500 yuan. If the child can go to kindergarten after the age of 3, the cost of hiring a nanny is 2500 *12 * 3 = 90,000 yuan, which is not a small expense for ordinary working families.
▊ Advantage 3: Providing for the aged gives parents peace of mind.
With the development of the media, many tragic events of nannies have been exposed frequently. For example, some nannies add cold medicine to their children's milk powder to make them sleepy because they think their children can't sleep well.
Nowadays, the quality of nannies in the intermediary market is so mixed that I believe no one wants to use their children as test supplies for the probation period of nannies. The old people of all families are completely dedicated. After all, he is his grandson/granddaughter/granddaughter. No matter how undesirable the old people's parenting style is, at least the old people and their parents have the same wish, that is, they want their children to grow up healthily and be really good to them.
Advantage 4: Older people have richer life experience.
Isn't there an old saying? Old people eat more salt than they do. Although it sounds a bit exaggerated, it is the principle.
Although today's parenting knowledge and books are overwhelming, for novice parents, when things really happen, they are often in a hurry and at a loss. Old people have rich practical experience in raising children, because they are experienced people. Many old people have given birth to more than two children, and they know more about the development characteristics of children at all stages, especially when children are sick, which can give psychological support to panicked parents and play a very positive role in solving problems.
▊ Advantage 5: The old people's parenting mentality is relatively peaceful.
The pressure of social competition and parents' work pressure are easy to cause emotional tension and anxiety. If these negative emotions are brought home, it is likely to affect the healthy growth of children.
But the old people have got rid of the fierce social environment and their mentality is relatively peaceful. They are calmer in getting along with their children, less mixed with negative emotions, able to devote themselves to games and activities with their children, more able to calm down and listen to their voices, and have more exchanges with their children, so as to better understand and meet their needs, which parents who often accompany their children with mobile phones can't reach.
▊ Advantage 6: As a supplement to the lack of role of father or mother in single-parent families.
For some special families, such as divorced or widowed family structure, in the process of raising children, the influence of the gender role of father or mother on children is missing. The participation of the elderly makes up for the lack of father or mother in the family for those children in single-parent families, provides children with the object of gender imitation, and also provides children with the opportunity to learn to get along with the opposite sex, which invisibly gives them a correct and complete gender awareness education.
Although the elderly will have some inappropriate methods in parenting and some conflicts with the advanced and scientific parenting concept advocated by their parents, the purpose of writing this article is to hope that parents can better understand the hardships of the elderly in parenting life and the benefits they bring to their families. When encountering some contradictions in Separate child care, with a grateful heart, communicate more with the elderly and discuss the parenting issues with them, instead of complaining first and then facing the problems with resentment.
In any case, old people's parenting brings more happiness and dedication to young parents and young children! If you have an old man to help with your children, please remember to be less picky and more grateful! Complain less and communicate more!