The content of sex safety education. Children need to have the ability to distinguish bad guys, but also need the courage to say "no" to bad guys. Protecting children has a long way to go, which is not only the responsibility of society, the obligation of law and the responsibility of schools, but also something that every parent must do with heart. Let's learn about the content of sex safety education.
Sex safety education content 1 We need to teach children the safety knowledge of preventing sexual assault and let them know how to deal with sexual assault. Next, let's talk about it in five points:
1, teach children how to identify bad people.
Sexual assault also prevents the danger of trafficking, so how to teach children to distinguish the bad guys? First of all, tell children that bad people don't mean "bad looks." Some people are good-looking and kind, but they may also be bad people. If the child really can't tell the difference, then parents must tell the child that as long as it is a stranger, no matter whether it is tempting you with all kinds of delicious candy or gifts, you can't go with him.
2. Teach children to know private parts.
The lack of children's sexual safety knowledge is the main reason for children's violation. Teaching children to have a sense of sexual safety is actually very simple: the place covered by clothes and underwear can't be shown to others or touched by others.
For children, drawing is the easiest way. Show them the picture above, tell them that the parts covered by shorts and vests are "not allowed to be seen and touched at will", and ask the children to point out which parts of the picture are private. This is much better than parents trying to explain what private parts are.
In addition to private parts, in fact, children's lips, ears, chest, neck and so on are places that others can't touch at will. Parents in China like to let their children be "hugged, patted, hugged and kissed" by their relatives and friends to show their love. Even passers-by don't stop kissing and cuddling children, and they don't care about children's resistance. Just teach them to be obedient and kiss. But it is precisely these behaviors that may make young children not understand their rights boundaries. When parents are not present, they mistakenly think that sexual assault and molestation by other elders and strangers is a way of showing love, and they think that they should be "obedient". So I chose not to resist.
In addition, of course, we should also tell our children not to touch other people's private parts. If children ask why we can't touch them, we should tell them in time that this is uncivilized behavior.
Parents can clearly tell their children that if you feel uncomfortable with any touch or contact from others, you can say "no" and immediately try to "walk away". Even if someone holds your hand, kisses your face and touches your head.
3. Establish children's sense of crisis.
A good sense of crisis is more important than letting children know their private parts. For children, private parts are still a new concept and knowledge, if there is no good sense of crisis. These concepts and knowledge are like empty floors without foundation, and they can't really protect their own safety.
So, how to cultivate children's sense of crisis? What parents need to do is actually to remind them more in their daily lives. For example, tell children when they are taking a bath: "Now mom/dad can look at your body and touch your body, because we are your closest people and can clean your body;" When you get to the hospital, under the supervision of your parents, doctors and nurses can also look at your health, which is to treat you. But in addition, others, no matter who they are, even our relatives, can only touch you with our consent and your own will. "
It is worth noting that 70% of child sexual abuse cases are committed by acquaintances, which means that children's awareness of prevention is not limited to what we often call "strange uncles". In order to give children a safer and healthier environment, the establishment of correct consciousness should first start from parents.
4. Tell children how to face threats.
In a large number of real cases of child sexual abuse, a common reason why children do not choose to tell their parents is that they are threatened. If you dare to tell your parents, I will kill you/your parents.
It turns out that even if the child clearly knows the private parts. But when we ask, "If you dare tell Mom and Dad, I will kill you." Many children choose not to tell their parents.
Therefore, parents must emphasize to their children: "You can lie when facing the bad guys, and don't believe what the bad guys say. Mom and dad will protect you. Just tell the police uncle and the bad guys will be caught!
5. Observe children more.
Communicate with children more. Some children are introverted. After being bullied outside, they won't tell their parents what happened. Therefore, parents should always observe their children to see if they are not talkative recently and are afraid of panic. If you find it, you should ask your child in time to find out why. In addition, parents should communicate with their children more. For example, when children come home from school, parents should ask more about their children's situation at school. Ask questions with skill. They shouldn't simply ask their children, "What did they learn at school?" Instead, they should say, "What did the baby learn at school?" What's interesting to tell mom (dad) "What game did the teacher play with you today? You can get something you don't know in another way. "
Sexual safety education content 2 Recently, news about sexual abuse of children has been heard from time to time. What makes people angry is that some people actually extend their evil hands to underage children. However, what is even more worrying is that many children are at a loss when they are sexually assaulted, and they don't even know that it is harmful to themselves.
A prosecutor who handled a child sexual assault case said: "Children just feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable, but they don't know that these people are doing illegal and criminal things." Looking at many cases of sexual abuse of children, one of the important reasons is that children lack self-protection knowledge and can't correctly understand their private parts, which gives some malicious people an opportunity.
Children's awareness of sexual self-protection is lacking, so we should reflect on it. For a long time, we have avoided talking about children's sex education. According to a survey, less than 8.82% of children have really received sex education from their parents. Besides, sex education in schools is superficial. Some schools even only tell children some simple common sense, such as the difference between boys and girls, going to the toilet separately, etc., while others rarely involve it.
Scientific and correct sex education is very important for children to avoid harm. In Britain, Sweden, the Netherlands and other countries, sex education has been systematized since childhood, really starting from dolls. In the Netherlands, like other courses, children begin to receive sex education at an early age, and children can discuss this topic with their parents at the dinner table. Britain's "Ten Declarations for Children" is very specific and highly operable. Article 2 stipulates that no one is allowed to touch the place covered by vest and underwear. Children should know that the body belongs to them, some parts of the body should be covered with clothes, and no one should peek or touch it. Children have the right to refuse kissing or touching.
At present, some developed areas in China have also realized the importance of sex education and done some work in this regard. However, the development of sex education in schools still encounters many obstacles. Some people object to it, while others say it is unacceptable. It can be seen that there are still many problems to be solved to make sex education enter the campus generously and spread all over the country.
Children are the most vulnerable and needy group. We cannot do much to protect our children. "The influence of traditional ideas" can no longer be an excuse for lagging sex education. It is an urgent task for all sectors of society to explore sex education methods suitable for children's growth laws and form a sense of self-protection. Whether we can make a breakthrough depends, in the final analysis, on whether we really think about our children.