In middle age, everything stops.
Middle age is the most difficult time and the most easily confused age. The burden of life is heavy, the physical pressure is great, and the heart is often full of anxiety.
Some people, tossing and turning several times, failed; There are also some people who have become kings after tossing.
Nobody tells you what to do, you have to find out for yourself. But there are always some routines for everyone. I don't know. It's too late.
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In middle age, people learn to be cruel.
When a person reaches middle age, he is the head of the family, a worker in the workplace and a leader of social trends. No matter which role you play, you should push yourself hard and not be too kind.
In Water Margin, Lin Chongben was the commander of the 800,000 imperial army, and he was a hero with a gun and a stick.
One day, Qiu's adopted son met Lin Chong's wife, Zhang, who had evil thoughts and did a disgusting thing.
Lin arrived in time and drove him away. So we offended Gao Qiu.
My friend Lu Qian knows that Lin Chong is in trouble. Instead of helping, he became Gao Yanei's assistant, fighting for his position and money.
Lin Chong relented and let his friends cheat and hurt him. Then it was further framed and sent to Cangzhou. Later, Lin Chong's wife died, became an outlaw and went to Liangshan.
We can't believe all the stories in the novel, but we have to believe them.
In the workplace, if you are patient everywhere, your colleagues will not think you are a good person, but will throw more and more things and mistakes at you. In terms of promotion and salary increase, if there is no competition, there will never be a chance of promotion.
In the family, if you don't know how to force your children to study hard, then you are dereliction of duty. After children learn badly, no matter how good you are, you will be dragged down by them. A black sheep will ruin a family.
When husband and wife get along, you have to force your lover to do something, and you can't nourish his inertia. As the saying goes: "Husband and wife are United, and their profits are broken." No matter how powerful a person is, he still needs a wife.
Don't trust others easily in social circles. Eating and drinking makes you drunk, your body collapses, and it's useless. If you refuse cruelly, you won't waste time and energy. For those who are duplicitous, it is even more important to break off diplomatic relations in time.
You should be self-disciplined, no matter how difficult it is now, don't live "loosely". You have to pay twice the price for the days you spent today. Reading, working, exercising, thinking and choosing a job are all indispensable.
How can there be peace in this world? Only a life of war. If you are not cruel, the road ahead can only be full of thorns.
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When people reach middle age, keep their bodies stable.
In The Legend of the Condor Heroes, Guo Jing was originally a dull person, but with hard work, he has the ability to learn from others.
"Pick up the bow and arrow, kneel on your right knee, grab the bow with your left hand, hold it steady, and then pull the string with your right hand and take the arrow. See the eagle fly, aim, loosen the five fingers of the right hand, and the arrow shaft flies out ... "
Guo Jing's skill in shooting sculptures is amazing.
In fact, things for middle-aged people can only be done better if they are stabilized. After all, I'm not that young man anymore. I'm careless. If I fail, I'll start over.
Everything is difficult at first, but we should not be discouraged, let alone give up easily. Stick to it for a while, and you will find a pattern, and then it will be much easier.
For example, if you want to be a chef, you should not only study, but also learn from your teacher. The real beginning is when you open your own shop.
As the saying goes, "the master leads the door and practices in the individual." Along the way, as long as you hold yourself steady, you can go further and further.
In addition to stable posture, the body should also be stable. Working overtime and staying up late seems to be the norm for middle-aged people. Really smart people have long given up the method of "exchanging their bodies for money", preferring to give up some benefits and make time for exercise.
Middle-aged people who can go to bed early, get up early and eat well are even worse.
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When people reach middle age, they speak in moderation.
As the saying goes, "Silence is golden."
A person who doesn't speak will be particularly elegant and become a wise bystander.
However, how can one not speak? Middle-aged people, if they don't communicate with others, may often play charades with others. Always leave some time to interact with others.
Doing things is IQ, and speaking is EQ. How to speak, the key is to grasp the scale and make others comfortable.
The host Luo Zhenyu once told a story: When he went to study and train, a classmate introduced himself, which was particularly wonderful.
This classmate said: "I studied everyone present, who struggled with me in the same city a few years ago;" Who has been in a certain unit; Who got what reward where ... "
In a word, everyone here has become his "acquaintance". This emotional card is played just right.
Study others and speak to the point. This way, there is less nonsense and more effective words.
Everyone is too busy to nag you. So do some homework before chatting. Although it is important to play it by ear, it is more important to be concise and to the point.
Of course, no matter what you say, you have to bear the corresponding responsibility, even if you are joking. It is really important to express your demands accurately.
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Cruelty is a person's greatest courage, but after stumbling, he still holds his head high and strives to move forward. Mind your own business, take your family and go.
To be healthy, we must deal with all kinds of changes with perseverance, achieve a better self with wisdom and strength, continue to maintain good health, and leave a hard card.
To speak accurately means to know how to carefully analyze the power of speech, grasp the scale of speech, talk less nonsense and be gentle with others.
When you wake up in middle age, people are relying on themselves everywhere, but you can't help it. Only by learning to shake hands with the world can you get more from it.
Author: coarse grains in cloth.
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