First, the trauma of growing up.
Many parents have little contact with psychology before raising their children, and most of them inherit the parenting style of parents from families. When raising children, methods and skills are lacking. As the saying goes, they won't love and hurt. Many parents always try their best to give their children what they think is the best love, but because they don't understand their children's psychology and what their psychological needs are at each growth stage, they can't respect their individual differences and psychological needs during their growth. Therefore, it will lead to certain psychological trauma during the whole growth process of children, especially during the period of 0-6 years old. If parents can't satisfy psychological nutrition in time, it will lead to various psychological problems after children enter adolescence.
Second, the influence of traditional values.
In the process of growing up, every child will be influenced by the values of family members' caregivers, that is, how parents view the world and the college entrance examination ... The influence of parents' beliefs and values on children is subtle, coupled with the prevalence of exam-oriented education in the whole society and the lag of family education, many parents' cognition can't keep up with the pace of the times, and many parents are still trapped in the traditional concepts of "reading changes their destiny" and "the college entrance examination determines their life". With the improvement of the material environment, parents' mood of "looking forward to their daughters and children's success" is more urgent, and the comparison between neighbors and acquaintances has invisibly brought certain mental pressure to children. Many children think that failing the college entrance examination means losing everything in life.
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Third, the lag of vocational education.
Some developed countries in Europe and America have guided and infiltrated vocational education for primary and secondary school children much earlier than we have. If we can help children understand their professional interests and talents in junior high school, pave the way for employment prospects and plan their careers in advance, the psychological pressure of college entrance examination candidates will be reduced accordingly, and many children who fail in college entrance examination will see that there are many other choices in life, which will help them reduce the occurrence of suicide when their college entrance examination results fail to meet expectations. Of course, we are also happy to see that. The country is stepping up its efforts to carry out a new round of educational reform, but any reform needs a long process. The prevalence of exam-oriented education in primary and secondary schools and the lack of guidance in vocational education will eventually lead to further aggravation of children's psychological problems.
Fourth, interpersonal barriers.
In fact, children go through the same difficulties as adults entering the society. Besides studying, children need to learn many interpersonal skills. If these skills are not improved, there will be obstacles in interpersonal communication, especially some excellent children who spend a lot of time on their studies. When their interpersonal skills are backward, they are more likely to have psychological barriers. When children enter adolescence, having good peers as close friends will greatly reduce the occurrence of psychological barriers, and some children often unconsciously project their teachers as parents at school, and have high expectations for teachers. When expectations are not met, it will also lead to problems in the relationship between teachers and students.
Fifth, lack of emotional release skills.
Many children with psychological problems are mostly because their emotions have been suppressed for a long time, and they can't be released reasonably or are too extreme when they are released. When negative emotions are considered as a scourge, many people will suppress or hide them, and the farther away from negative emotions, the better. If we can realize that there is no difference between good and bad emotions and the positive value and significance behind different negative emotions, and learn some skills and methods to deal with emotions, the probability of psychological problems of teenagers will be greatly reduced. In my consulting case, I have met many depressed children whose body hormones have changed because of long-term medication. In fact, in the early stage of depression, if children can correctly guide him to treat emotions rationally and release them safely, the symptoms of depression will be alleviated or cured.
In short, the psychological problems of senior three children are caused by comprehensive factors, which require the joint efforts of the whole society and the help of psychological professionals to help more teenagers get rid of psychological troubles and reduce the occurrence of more tragedies.