Your efforts are consuming yourself.
0 1, your contribution is self-consumption.
A healthy relationship should be mutual. Although it will not be completely equal in every dimension, on the whole, there should be sensory feedback from each other. But an unhealthy relationship is always paid unilaterally, and there will always be one party who feels that there is no return, so it will be considered as self-consumption. If you have communicated with TA, but it doesn't work at all, but it makes you feel powerless, helpless, tired and exhausted, then you are in unrequited love. When you feel self-consuming, it is suggested to let go at the right time, which is also a respect for both sides.
02. You are often full of negative perceptions about yourself.
Before you were with TA, you were confident, optimistic, cheerful and positive. In the eyes of family and friends, you have always been radiant, and you feel that you deserve to be loved and loved. But after being with TA, you gradually feel poor, often fall into self-doubt, feel worthless, and feel unworthy. You will often feel disrespected and unappreciated, often depressed, feel inferior, self-doubt, feel lonely and small, feel ashamed or guilty, and over time, you will hate yourself and yourself. If you often feel the above three points, pay attention to "often" rather than "occasionally", then you should consider saying goodbye to him.
Your efforts are consuming yourself.
03, beside TA, you feel like a different person.
If you are around TA and feel that you are not yourself, like a different person, everything you say and do becomes completely out of control, such as being cautious and suspicious. This shows that you already have some problems. When you feel that your actions and reactions are based on what you think you should do, rather than your real reaction, at this time, the other person may not be the right person, and the better choice is to end the relationship.
Your understanding of this relationship is inconsistent.
You regard TA as a lover, and TA regards you as a "friend" or an "indifferent object". The dislocation of this relationship shows that TA is not clear about your relationship, and your lack of knowledge makes you more active and willing to pay, while TA is perfunctory and careless, and rarely takes the initiative to do anything.
Your efforts are consuming yourself.
05, you are strangers and no longer close.
You no longer have intimate contact, even if you have lost the desire to share and respond, you will not think of each other for the first time in a fragile moment. Ta is still involved in your life, but she feels far away from you.
You have to change for each other.
TA always asks you to change, always saying "I did it for you", "Because I love you" and "This is for our own good", which is an invisible control. TA is "good" for you, and the help it provides really protects you from the wind and rain. But if TAs deprive you of the right to make decisions for your life again and again, you need to understand that what you lose is not only the right to choose, but also the right to control your life.
You are always in competition.
A healthy relationship should be mutual achievement, common growth and unity, but if you are always fighting for the length and win or lose, when the other party fails, you feel happy, and when you succeed, you feel jealous. This relationship seems to be an endless arena, and this relationship is not worth continuing.
Your efforts are consuming yourself.
08, you no longer have emotional connection.
When there is emotional connection in a relationship, you will feel that your emotional needs are "seen" by the other party rather than ignored. The other person is willing to feel your emotions, not just the communication at the factual level. However, if in the relationship, you gradually feel that the other person is avoiding your emotions, understanding your emotions as "unreasonable troubles" and so on, and are unwilling to communicate with you emotionally, resulting in a strong sense of loneliness and alienation-this shows that there is no emotional connection in the relationship. Then, it's time to end this relationship.
09. You no longer trust each other.
Trust is the foundation of intimate relationship. When ta keeps standing you up and failing to fulfill its promise, you will gradually realize that it is difficult for you to continue to trust TA as before, and even have a feeling of sincere wrong payment. This is because trust is also an emotional feeling and the basis of loyal relationship. Lack of trust hollows out relationships from within. If you have tried too many times to rebuild trust, but the other party still breaks the contract or promises indifferently, this shows that ta is not a trustworthy person and this relationship cannot be trusted. Then, it's time to end this relationship.
Your efforts are consuming yourself.
10, you will be troubled by demand.
In a healthy love relationship, you will be very happy and brave to put forward your needs to TA, and you will be confident that TA will meet your needs, and you will not feel ridiculous, embarrassed or embarrassed because you put it forward. But if you are in a bad relationship, you will feel crazy, urgent, dramatic or unreasonable when expressing certain needs. Many times, you even apologize for it. If you are often troubled by asking for needs, then this relationship is unhealthy.