In the middle of the eighth week of class, everyone began to discuss stress. A student mentioned that the recent anxiety has aroused everyone's discussion. Someone asked: Will anxiety be with us all our lives?
Living in an era of rapid development, the material is getting richer and richer, but the spirit is getting poorer and poorer. No matter what age, anxiety is common. Almost all modern urbanites have the experience of wallowing in the "anxiety circle".
The first batch of 90-year-olds have begun to go bald and tend to surpass the mainstream population. According to "20 17 Micro-Report on Urban Women's Health Insights", among women who consult about hair loss, the first age group is actually 20-25 years old.
Young people always want to complete the career springboard in the shortest time and win a rich material foundation. After a period of hard work, they will be anxious to see others get married and have children.
After being a parent, I am under pressure from work and anxious and self-motivated; On the one hand, everyone wants to balance work and family. Sometimes when I see other people's babies are obedient and win prizes every year, my baby will only be playful, and frustration takes over the whole heart.
With the growth of age, my health is not as good as before, and I am a little flustered to see my friend leave because of illness. If there are any moths in the physical examination report, I am afraid that I will be uneasy, anxious and panic, and my good sleep will be dragged down.
Anxiety, a psychological flu, ranks no less than depression.
At first, anxiety was a signal used to remind us to avoid danger in the process of human evolution. Over time, it has become the default mode of the brain.
When we are aware of the danger, the amygdala, the emotional center of the brain, will be stimulated first, which will trigger anxiety and stress reaction at lightning speed. At that time, the part of the brain responsible for thinking was to make judgments and analyze the situation based on the collected information.
However, if the degree and frequency of anxiety are beyond the range of physiological and psychological tolerance, when we are like a frightened bird and walking on thin ice, anxiety becomes unhealthy and becomes a stumbling block to enjoying happiness.
Long-term anxiety can lead to insomnia, headache, hypertension, heart disease, gastrointestinal diseases and even cancer.
Therefore, anxiety is a double-edged sword.
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Psychologist Dr. Coatman believes that anxiety stems from our perception that what we care about may be threatened. Different degrees of attention to things, feelings and anxiety are also different.
For example, people who have never invested can hardly imagine the anxiety of people staring at the screen in the securities hall; Children who live a good life seldom realize the nervousness of the poor and regard the college entrance examination as the only way out.
Former classmates are worth millions, and you are still arguing at the fruit shop at the gate of the community that the weight is not enough. In order to save more than ten dollars, I would rather ride a bike than take a taxi. This is called environmental protection.
The truth behind it is the monthly rent, meals, transportation, and red envelopes that need to be prepared for the New Year. You're not the only one with similar anxiety. Many times, people tend to measure success with money.
Zhu Deyong said in his early years: "The so-called happiness has long been diluted and simplified by business. The continuous expansion of the market and the continuous mass production of commodities actually violate the original rhythm and simple needs of human nature, and what inspires us is not a bright future, but a more greedy desire.
If you violate human nature for a long time, everyone will get sick. When we make progress' too fast', only a few people get wealth and many people get mental illness. "
Those who are particularly worried about the lack of material satisfaction, if they explore their growth experiences, will often encounter disputes between their parents because of money when they were young. Money and family happiness are the same.
Therefore, driven by material desires, such people will be very hard, never have a purpose, and will be accompanied by uncontrollable feelings on the edge of the cliff.
There is always a dark moment in life that will make you feel overwhelmed and hesitant.
For example, when the marriage lights up at a red light, the lover who once vowed that "the mountains and the heavens and the earth will meet and then dare to break up with you" is now a stranger. From the moment you found out that he was cheating in marriage, besides anger and sadness, anxiety was also entrenched in your mind.
You are worried that you are still young, and you will depreciate more and more, if you bear the loneliness of the rest of your life;
How to explain your anxiety to elderly parents and dependent children;
You are worried about whether there will be temples in this village without it, and whether men in the world are generally black?
You are worried that he is lying again when he comes back a few minutes late. When he got home, the sound of SMS made you suspicious again, wondering if you got up in the middle of the night to confirm your guess.
It's like walking into a maze, and you have to feel your way out. Anxiety drives people crazy; Anxiety is repressed. Who let fragility always be one of the essence of life?
Many professionals are more or less worried about "whether they will get affirmation". From the speech at the meeting to the year-end KPI assessment, even if you can finally talk about customers alone for many days, you will be nervous and irritable.
Even the report I've been preparing for two months is finally about to start. Before I went on stage, I was still anxious. My stomach is disappointing. I always want to go to the toilet, and my lips are shaking, as if I don't belong to myself. After all, most people regard work as a source to prove their sense of value.
The more focused you are, the easier it is to cause anxiety.
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There are so many rules and regulations in life that it is often not others or things themselves that restrict us, but our own cognition and beliefs.
Wu Xiaobo said that perhaps the best way for us to face anxiety is to find a person we like, a city we like, a job we like, and then redouble our efforts, go ahead and never look back.
If we take this search as the end point, how can we get along with the anxiety that is happening now? There are many ways to help us relieve anxiety, such as exercise, deep breathing, listing goals and action steps.
However, if anxiety is deeply rooted and has affected normal life, it needs systematic methods to deal with it, such as psychological counseling, mindfulness decompression therapy and so on, which have been proved to be effective methods.
After trying a variety of methods, the two methods have rapid and remarkable effects and are worth recommending.
When people encounter anxiety, they will instinctively produce unpleasant, irritable and evasive reactions; Then, shame, self-blame, anger and so on will all join this reaction. If anxiety is the first arrow shot at us, then the confrontation with anxiety is the second arrow.
"Wonderful Congress" has a speech from Liu, a bipolar patient, who shared her bipolar experience, including one sentence:
"I admit that this life is not good. I admit that all my efforts may have just completed an ordinary life, but maybe this is the meaning of life. "
Indeed, anxiety or fear, since they have all been encountered, cannot be changed. This is part of life. When we admit it, at least we pull out the second arrow, and the inner waves will be much calmer.
When being attacked by anxiety, many people can't sit there quietly and meditate. Thich nhat hanh, a famous mindfulness trainer, then recommended the method of "smiling while walking".
When the body moves, the thinking of the brain will be gradually affected. This method has been tried several times and the effect is immediate. It can quickly calm anxiety and anxiety, and people can quickly find inner peace.
Step one, if possible, find a beautiful place for a walk. You can be alone or with friends.
Step two, start walking. When you walk, you will feel that you are the happiest person in the world. You are really lucky, because you can still walk and smile-you are still alive!
Step three, imagine that every step you take is full of peace and joy. Every step you take seems to be kissing the earth, and you are comforting and caring for the earth.
The fourth step, pay attention to how many steps you take when inhaling; How many steps did you take when exhaling? When you inhale, say "enter" to yourself; When you exhale, say "out" to yourself. You don't need to control the process of breathing and walking. It just happens naturally.
Step 5: When you find beautiful trees, beautiful flowers, pleasant lakes, children playing or other pleasant things, stop and look at them.
The sixth step, imagine that every step, there is a flower in full bloom, and every step, your body and mind will be brand-new and full of vitality. At that time, at this moment, life was meaningful.
In recent weeks, when I am wrapped in anxiety and can't sit still, I will try to walk in the garden with a smile, from fidgety to quiet; Gradually move from tension to peace; From fighting physical pain to living in it.
Smiling stimulates the connection between the body and nature, and makes the body accept the power of nature and the care of the universe. Gradually, it breeds love for this world and gratitude for my existence in this world. Smiling is a kind of love and kindness to yourself.
As thich nhat hanh said: Every small step of mindfulness brings you back to the embrace of Mother Earth, reminding you to find a real and sweet home at this moment.
Anxiety can't control you without your permission. And we are the masters of anxiety. Making good use of anxiety can give us strength. Let it become action, life will be more substantial, more meaningful and more loving.
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