But at present, on the one hand, the country has implemented the second child policy, on the other hand, young people pay more attention to the taste of life, so they are more willing to follow their inner thoughts on the issue of having a son or a daughter.
The influence of having a daughter on dad
The influence of having a son on the mother
Therefore, the biggest difference between having a son and a daughter is that one has a handle and the other doesn't! Because, as long as you are born, how can there be parents who don't love their children?
The so-called difference, I think, is that the poor have a son, and they are afraid that they can't afford a daughter-in-law and that she is not filial!
Rich people have daughters, and they are afraid that no one will inherit the family business! I'm afraid my son-in-law will be worried and covet property!
An uncle in the village gave birth to three sons in more than eight years. I think how bad Crass was. He walked with the wind in the village. For those who have no sons in other people's homes, his original words are, without sons, they are homeless. After they died, no one broke the pottery bowl!
Because the three poor sons were not well trained, they all went out to work at a young age. The boss married his daughter-in-law, but after two years, his wife also disliked his family's poverty and left a daughter to run away with others!
Not to mention the daughter-in-law, what is the poor family like, or the rural adobe house? Why are they so poor? Because of their old age and poor health, the three sons didn't read any books and didn't have any skills, so they couldn't earn much money. They are busy looking for wives, they have spent all their money and are not married. Where girls nowadays are willing to marry people who don't have a house or a car, they are young and ignorant and run away within two years! Now the couple have to help their eldest son raise his daughter! You have to work hard at the construction site when you are old!
Another uncle in the village has only one daughter and has never given birth to a second child. Twenty years ago, he went to town to do business and made a fortune. Now he has a house, a car and a shop in the city. His daughter married two years ago, and his son-in-law is from other places, and his family conditions are good. Being a son-in-law at home is definitely not enough!
Despite her parents' opposition, her daughter resolutely married for love. Now the old couple regret it and only have one daughter. After my daughter got married, the home was deserted, and no one helped to manage the business at home! It's not a taste to watch someone else's house make a scene. I want to know why I work so hard to make money.
Everyone around us has a very tired life of having a son. Middle-aged women marry their sons, and older women with grandchildren have to go out to do odd jobs to help the young couple. It's just a matter of passing on the surname.
My eldest brother's two sons got married late and spent more than 200 thousand to get married. After marriage, they gave birth to two daughters. My daughter-in-law divorced her eldest cousin when she came back from working outside, leaving two girls! My youngest son went to college. He is 34 years old and has been working in Shanghai. Last year, he asked my uncle to take out 200 thousand. He wants to chip in to buy a house in Shanghai. As a result, he didn't contact his family and didn't go back for the New Year! Now the big uncle's family means that both sons are unmarried and have no house in the city, and the eldest son has two children. Oh, my God, I can't even think ...
Father is also two sons, and I am a daughter. At that time, my father was ill and hospitalized twice, and my brother and I were not married yet! I work outside, my brother works at home, and I rush home from other places. My dad spent more than 20 thousand yuan in hospital. I waited on him day and night for a month, bringing shit and urine to my dad and wiping his body! My brother has been to the hospital two or three times a day! I'm married now, and so is my brother. I don't know if I can count on my younger brother when my father is ill. Maybe I'll go again? It's a long story ... ~ Xiao Wu
In today's society, it doesn't matter whether you have children or not.
Both sons and daughters should be educated well. It is often said that having children is a fame, and having daughters is a blessing.
Whether you have a boy or a girl, as long as you are healthy, safe and smooth, now men and women are equal, and many women are better than men.
The difference between having a son and a daughter depends on your personal consciousness and cognitive ability.
People with feudal ideas and traditional consciousness have a serious preference for sons over daughters, and the consciousness of carrying on the family line is deeply rooted. They think that sons can continue the incense and inherit the mantle, and daughters always serve people with other surnames to inherit the incense.
People with modern consciousness believe that boys and girls are all the same, but there are gender differences.
What is the specific difference between giving birth to a child and giving birth to a girl? I think there are the following aspects.
Men are more powerful and competent for heavy physical labor than women. Women are careful and handy, and are more suitable for knitting and other work.
Men are magnificent and mighty, swallowing mountains and rivers. Women are tactfully lingering, gentle and graceful. Men are bold and rude, women are gentle and delicate. ...
In fact, this is just a general appearance. In fact, many men and women just have opposite or mixed personalities. For example, some female entrepreneurs and politicians have the strong and brave side of men, while some male artists also have sissy personality.
Actually, there is no distinction between men and women. Both have their advantages and disadvantages. Without one party, human society would not exist.
The so-called difference varies from person to person. My family is my daughter. Personally, I think that from the perspective of social responsibility and adult support, the responsibility of educating boys is indeed greater, and parents' comprehensive abilities, including parenting wisdom, including physical companionship, need to be considered! Girls are more inclined to cultivate their own character and give more companionship and love! Boys often give him more independent space, more physical release and more thinking training! The cultivation of both boys and girls should be diversified. Parents should better improve their children's knowledge and spiritual growth, at the same time exercise their children's physical fitness and keep up with their abundant physical fitness in play.
The biggest difference between having a son and a daughter is that when your child has a child, your mood outside the delivery room is more happy and expecting or more distressed and worried. Other than that, it's the same. Why do you say that?
First, the problem of having a son to carry on the family line.
In today's society, people's thoughts are not as conservative as before. If the daughter does not carry on the family line, she is still the continuation of her parents' life. In the future, the daughter's children can still have sex with their mothers after consultation with the young couple.
Second, I have a son who I can rely on when I am old.
I want to say that as long as the child is filial, it is the same for both boys and girls. No one can count on being unfilial. What's more, now, living with your daughter-in-law is happier than living with your son's daughter-in-law.
Third, the daughter is the parents' little cotton-padded jacket, and the child is more intimate.
It is true that women are more cautious than men and know how to care about people, but still, it depends mainly on children. As long as children are filial, sons may not do better than daughters.
Fourth, the economic pressure of having a son is great.
In fact, no matter from the cost of education and the future children getting married and having children, what kind of family conditions give children what kind of financial support has nothing to do with boys and girls. If the child gets married, the man can't get married without money and house. There are also many women who buy houses and cars for their children as dowry.
Therefore, these problems are not real problems. It's just that when their children give birth in the hospital, as parents-in-law, they are more excited and expecting. As parents-in-law, I am even more distressed by my daughter's suffering and worried that her daughter is in danger.
Let me tell you a piece of news first. Last year, a couple gave birth to 18 children in order to have a boy. It is said that the eldest daughter is in her twenties and the youngest is five years old. Apart from the working eldest daughter, these 17 children live with two old people. The family is very poor, and none of these children go to school. Two old people make a living by collecting rags, and these children sleep in clothes. I had no taste. What's the use of asking so much?
Personally, I think it's out of date to say it's time to have a boy. Some couples around me don't want their first child if it's a boy, and they want another one if it's a girl, but if they continue to have girls, they won't talk about it. Most of them are for the sake of children and children don't want it, and there is a girl. There's too much pressure.
At present, parents who want sons are mostly young couples. Their concept of raising children for old age is too strong. How many bachelors do you think there are now? A boy who married a daughter-in-law can't stop 654.38+0 million. What a pity!
So the idea now is that boys and girls are the same. Boys are not necessarily anti-aging, and girls are not necessarily married women. The key to throwing water out is the quality of education!
Great difference!
What I mean here is the difference in my state when I am pregnant, not that I prefer boys to girls or girls prefer boys to girls! Let's talk about the difference and view between my pregnant daughter and a woman!
People here say that if you are pregnant and beautiful, you have to have a daughter. Is it really ugly to have a son? My eldest daughter was born in 2003 and is 20 years old. There didn't seem to be any special reaction at that time. I can't remember for a long time. It was 19 years ago. I am 39 years old this year. Has given birth to a third child.
Anyway, when I was pregnant with my second daughter, my skin was smooth, and I didn't have morning sickness or acne. It looked good. My second daughter was born on 20 14. My skin was dull when I was pregnant with my son. I just want to sleep every day. I feel sick when I see the trash can. I can't smell the fish. I threw up when I smelled it, and there were a lot of fine hairs on my stomach [covering my face]. When I was pregnant with my daughter, my stomach was very light and there were no stretch marks. After giving birth to his son, he is now three years old and has stretch marks at the root of his thigh. It is really a world of difference! The third son born on 20 18.
Why do I have three children?
My husband's hometown is from Shandong and I'm from Zhejiang. Their son preference is more serious. But to tell the truth, my mother-in-law is still very open-minded. She has never urged us to have three children, and she has never said that she wants to have grandchildren. We have two daughters of our own and want a son. It is best to have both children.
The menstruation was abnormal when I gave birth to two girls. Irregular. So I didn't take the first month's menstruation seriously when I was pregnant with my third son. After two months, there is still no menstruation. What's more, in those two months, my appetite was super good, and I had to find the biggest bowl at home when eating. My neighbor asked me, "Do you have it again? You seem to have gained weight. " I said, "I can't help it. I just have a good appetite."
It's wrong to think afterwards. It's not really there, is it? !
I went to a drugstore in our town and bought a pregnancy test stick. 10 yuan. The urine test shows that she is not pregnant, or the quality of the pregnancy test stick is not good, or she is pregnant but not obvious.
Plus, when I was two months old, I felt a little red one day and thought it was my period. Make sure you are not pregnant. Then I went to work in Hangzhou.
After working in Hangzhou for two months, I still didn't have my period for those two months. Plus, once I went to the bathroom, I felt a lump in my lower abdomen. I always thought I had irregular menstruation. Could it be that I have some tumor or something? ! I told my husband, what happened to me? Are you pregnant or have an incurable disease?
Husband immediately said to go to the drugstore to buy a pregnancy test. He went to the drugstore and bought two pregnancy tests, 50 yuan. I got up two mornings to check my morning urine. The first morning, two obvious red bars! It's over. Are triplets really here?
I woke up the next day and found two red bars. Very close.
Later, my husband took me to the Second Hospital of Hangzhou to do BC. The doctor said you were pregnant for four months, didn't you know?
To tell the truth, I really didn't feel anything four months ago, and I didn't have morning sickness. It was at that time that I felt sleepy at work. I wanted to sleep as soon as I got to work every day. Obviously, I got enough sleep every day.
My husband and I discussed what to do. I already have two daughters. To tell the truth, my husband wants another son. I love him very much and I want him to have two children. I said to my husband: let's gamble! Whether it is a son or a daughter, after all, it has been four months, and the hands and feet are together. You can't kill it alive, can you? If it's a daughter, it's a daughter. We accept it. If it is a son, then my husband's life will be more perfect. ...
Time passed little by little, the due date arrived, and we went to the hospital. I have a dull pain in my stomach for three days, and there is no sign of birth. Later, at 10 o'clock on the third night, my stomach became more and more painful and I entered the delivery room. Later, it was extremely painful. I told your doctor that I wanted to have a caesarean section. The doctor says you have a third child and it will be born soon. Maybe I'll follow you as soon as my water breaks. I thought, is it that easy? This is killing me. ...
After a while, my water broke. But it will take a long time for the contractions to occur. The doctor examined me and said, "No, no contractions. Maybe your uterus is seriously aging. Amniotic fluid is also a little turbid, for fear of baby suffocation. Still have to cut. "
The doctor immediately asked the nurse to call the anesthesiologist to prepare, and while looking for my husband's signature, he sent me to the operating room. It was really cold when I went to the operating room, and I was scared. After all, I have never been to the operating room, and I am very scared. I wonder if there is any risk. We all say that women give birth with one foot in the coffin and one foot outside the coffin.
Coupled with the heavy psychological burden, I am afraid that if I want another daughter, my husband will say it doesn't matter. Will he lose his mind and dislike me? I'm shivering with cold, plus a tenth-grade pain during contractions.
Soon the anesthesiologist was in place, and the anesthetic entered the spine. Soon I lost consciousness below my stomach. I even heard the doctor's scalpel cut my stomach. With a loud cry, my voice was hoarse. As soon as I heard the sound, I guessed it was my son. The doctor told me before that whether you have a son or a daughter, don't get excited. When you get excited, you are afraid of bleeding and your life is in danger.
After a while, the nurse weighed and wrapped the baby, showed it to me and said to me, "Mom, see for yourself, is the baby a boy or a girl?" It looks like a boy to me. Oh, I wonder how anxious my husband is waiting outside the operating room. How will he feel when he knows it's his son?
After my son showed it to me, the nurse immediately carried him to another floor for vaccination. I came out of the operating room half an hour later, and my husband was waiting outside the door. As soon as I saw the expression on his face, I couldn't help laughing. Hehe, I finally spelled a son for him. He is happy, so am I.
Now that my daughter is older, my son is healthy. Although not very rich every day. But not shabby. There is still a well-off society. We are very satisfied. It is enough for a family to be healthy, safe and happy, and not to seek great wealth ... Thank you for reading it, and I wish you a healthy and happy family.
One more thing: having a baby is the same as having a girl, and health is the most important!