0 1 Small matter, big trouble
Things like this are bound to happen in life.
When there is a traffic jam, the driver honks his horn to call names;
Can you drive? I'm not leaving this idiot in front.
A while ago, the bus was knocked down by a car, then hit a car, and then rolled its driver under the tire of the bus.
When someone says something that doesn't suit them, they start fighting with each other.
I'm not hungry at night, but I can't help walking to the refrigerator to eat!
Why did all this happen? Looking back, it's all small things. Honking the horn and swearing in traffic jams won't solve the problem.
Skipping meals at night is also good for your health. These little things that make you out of control all stem from your survival instinct.
Our brain is divided into three areas, and the innermost "nuclear area" controls our basic functions such as breathing and walking.
Going out is the limbic system of the brain, both mammals and reptiles have it, which manages our sensibility. All dog owners in the family know that dogs have feelings. You can feel the change of mood in their tone, just like when you are angry, say to them: come here. It must be very depressed! The outermost layer of the brain is the cerebral cortex, which is the difference between us and animals because human beings are rational.
Your survival instinct is killing you.
I was inexplicably flustered when I saw my ex-girlfriend the other day. I talked to myself when I didn't see her. Things have passed. I must wish her happiness, but there will still be some fluctuations when I meet someone.
This is because the limbic system that controls your emotional part sends signals directly to the body without going through the rational cerebral cortex. Cause panic! In fact, the cerebral cortex and limbic system have been in a state of competition, but unfortunately, it is basically the cerebral cortex that loses the game. That is, when people face a thing, they are usually emotional first, and then return to rationality after the thing! Did you silently say to yourself: Oh, I should have done it then!
The marginal system always wins, which will bring us three problems.
The first is my drug dependence.
In the past, when we caught a cold, we carried it on our shoulders. Now we have a cold, no matter how serious it is, the first thing to do is to take medicine, and our resistance is gradually declining.
Second: obesity.
A friend of mine said: When I am unhappy, I eat a lot. At first, I was confused. Is unhappiness related to eating? Later, I learned that these two things have the same demand, that is dopamine!
The secretion of dopamine will give us a pleasant feeling. Dopamine is secreted after exercise, which is why we feel comfortable after exercise! When dopamine secretion is too low, it will cause our panic!
Third: cause anxiety,
It will cause us to keep brushing our mobile phones, even if there is no message reminder. If the limbic system is allowed to develop, our discomfort will increase.
These bad habits will appear.
Addiction habit: Overeating as mentioned above. In addition, in life, some people will be obsessed with alcohol and caffeine. Some people even take drugs and indulge themselves!
Forced habit: Just like washing hands before eating, some people always feel that their hands are dirty. Lying in bed at night, I always doubt that the door is open. You must let others do things according to their own ideas!
Sick habits: frequent headaches and colds. I don't know if you have ever experienced this kind of thing: after a major activity, you got sick, just like when you were in good health in the college entrance examination, you caught a cold after coming out of the examination room.
Insomnia habit: Some people always feel that they can't sleep, can't close their eyes and are always thinking!
Protective escape habit: phobia!
Survival instinct tells us that as long as there is demand, we must meet it immediately!
Behind a phenomenon, there must be a reason. There are two main reasons for these bad habits.
First: conditioned reflex and powerless to conditioned reflex.
Well, some people encounter certain things and immediately surrender without thinking. For example, some people will say: of course I can't do this. What is even more frightening is that in this case, reason doesn't work, but comes quietly without thinking!
Second: psychological externalization
Only by building your inner needs on external things can you get happiness! Have you ever found that this society is a material age and materialistic! The Buddhist scripture says: Seeking the Dharma from outside the heart is crooked ways! Your own needs should be found by yourself!
The reason why we are like this is because
-the fast food culture that exists in life can be obtained immediately.
When I was a child, I was afraid to ask adults for money to buy snacks because I was poor. But I can't resist the temptation of food. I asked my family for a dime and bought a spicy strip. It tastes a little disgusting. First, I licked the pepper outside the spicy strips, then unfolded the spicy strips, ate a little, and finally wiped the spicy oil off my mouth. My happiness is bursting!
Satisfying ourselves step by step is a kind of ability, a manifestation of our patience, and strengthens our perception!
Now, what do you want to eat? If you are hungry outside the group, please order at your convenience. If it hasn't been delivered in half an hour, we will be angry and have bad reviews!
-Developing search engines and electronic devices.
When there is no mobile phone, the teacher asks a question and we will rack our brains to think about it. Even if I can't think of it, I feel endless aftertaste. A few days later, when I think about it, I will say with joy: So that's it. But now, some people say that you need to take the initiative to think about things, the first reaction is to search! Because it can give immediate feedback!
Under such circumstances, it can only be that our survival may get worse and worse!
I have seen too many families. Children want an iphone, but parents don't buy it. At this time, the child said that he felt "angry": if you don't buy it for me, I will die. What's more, some children are beating their parents hard!
Because of the survival instinct of not wanting to be rejected by the community, tell him that you don't have an iphone, and you are not like us. This instinct rose to the height of life and death. That's why there is such excessive behavior.
At this time, it is not difficult to understand why the bus driver will crush the car driver!
Why do we get angry in traffic jams?
Because the survival instinct is weakening!
There are laws to follow.
15 suggested to you. I hope you can take it off and stick it where you can see it!
1. Get rid of dependence on modern technology.
Change it slowly and put the phone down. You can start by closing your circle of friends within a week. When you can't help it, say to yourself: Oh? Did you follow your own rules?
2. Cherish and endure imperfections.
Many people, often pursuing perfection, fail to complete one thing, but forget that completion is perfection. So finish the prescribed things first!
3. Restrict sensory channels,
Think about whether you listen to music and watch your mobile phone while eating. Opening three or four senses at the same time will overload the brain and make it anxious. Because the brain is lazy, it doesn't consume energy if it can.
4. Live in the moment
Have you ever chewed a mouthful of rice 36 times? Great feeling, savor it!
5. Relax before going to bed and let your brain return to calm.
6. Slow down the pace of life. Life is a marathon, and persistence is the foundation of victory. So don't be too fast!
7. Don't hesitate, don't delay
Hesitation is the time when the limbic system fights with the cerebral cortex, so make up your mind and don't delay!
8. Don't force yourself to finish all the work.
9. Accept impermanence. Because impermanence is inevitable, the best solution is to accept it, otherwise the more you resist, the more impermanence you will be!
10. Quit the irritable habit. When you are ready to be angry, I will tell you: Are you ready to be angry? Very effective!
1 1. Life is regular. Healthy diet, healthy work and rest.
12. Expand your comfort zone. The trick is, can you detour home today and not take the familiar road!
13. Empty yourself. Be yourself and think nothing. The weakness of human nature is that I don't want to face myself, so I have been playing mobile phones!
14. Delayed satisfaction. For example, if you really want to buy a bag, why not tell yourself and talk about it next week? If you still want it, buy it.
15 physical exercise. Because it secretes dopamine and makes you happy.
Finally, the world is not black and white. Only by improving our double perception can we get along with the world better and remain grateful! Because the limbic system manages anger and gratitude. It still secretes dopamine, which makes us happy. This is also one of the reasons for comforting yourself after gratitude!
At the end of Confucius' sentence: self-denial is benevolence!