First of all, remind parents that postpartum depression is really not melodramatic, and dad may suffer from it (refer to Lv Ziqiao in ipartment), so you must take this problem seriously, don't blame it blindly, and seek medical advice in time if necessary.
Secondly, it is easier to have children than to raise them. There are countless problems to face after having children, and postpartum depression is only the beginning.
So, today I'm going to talk to you about a problem that runs through all stages of a baby's growth: parenting anxiety.
In fact, from the beginning of pregnancy, anxiety has been coming continuously, such as whether the child can be born healthily during pregnancy, whether the child can eat and sleep well after birth, whether his studies can be successful after he is older, and whether the family can be happy.
The following summarizes the main sources of parents' anxiety. Parents can go and have a look.
(1) From children: Children are always worried about whether they are in their stomachs or when they are young. Personality development, good health, refusal to eat well and sleep well. Nothing parents can not worry about. Sometimes they think a lot of ways and say a lot of kind words, but it still doesn't work.
(2) Source itself: Many parents want to give their children the best (for example, they want their children to go to the city to study better and attend remedial classes on weekends and summer vacations) despite the poor economic situation at home, and they are even more afraid that their children will grow up; Some families have good economic conditions, but they often have higher requirements and expectations for their children. Either way, parents will feel great anxiety.
(3) The source of others and the environment: This source is actually the most deadly, because there is often no harm without comparison. Children of the same age, other children can recite multiplication formulas, and their own children can only do addition and subtraction. I would like to ask, in such an environment of gradual involution, which parent can not be in a hurry to see other people's children so excellent and smart?
In fact, no matter what kind of parenting anxiety, in the final analysis, it is parents' love and expectation for their children, but too much anxiety is not conducive to children's growth.
I want to tell all your parents that you are not the only ones who are advancing on the road of parenting, and you are not the only ones who are anxious. To some extent, your anxiety means that you are taking care of your baby. Don't worry too much. I'll give you some tips to eliminate anxiety.
(1) Learn to enjoy parent-child time.
Now that the baby is born, there is no way to put it back. Therefore, it is better to calm down and learn to enjoy the parent-child time. Working hard at work, thinking about children only when you are with them, and achieving high-quality companionship will improve efficiency and reduce anxiety.
(2) Allow defects to exist
I have heard many mothers around me worry: "Why can't my child walk 1 1 months later?" "Why is my child always more stupid than others?" ......
In fact, every child's development speed is different. What parents should do is not to compare with other children, but to respect their development rhythm and interest, because no one is perfect, just like when you were a child.
Therefore, learn to accept the imperfect existence. Even if you see all the beautiful photos of other people's children in your circle of friends, it just shows the good side. Don't be anxious because others deny yourself.
(3) Everything is learning.
Whether the baby is in a daze, or looking at something intently, or he is "helping" when you are busy, it is the baby's learning experience. When the baby is in a daze, he is actually thinking about something that adults don't know. When he runs and jumps at home, he is exercising his sports ability.
If you don't have time to accompany your child, please don't feel guilty, because this is also the process of your baby's independent learning and growth.
It is best to hope that all parents can face up to anxiety and reduce it in a reasonable and effective way. Let's turn anxiety into motivation and keep practicing on the way to raising a baby.