1, cultivate children's habit of self-management of life and labor.
Self-managed life and work habits not only affect children's physical and mental health, but also reflect their comprehensive quality. Including eating, living, defecation, hygiene, labor and other habits, so as to sleep on time, get up, sleep quietly and have a correct sleeping posture, not picky about food, not partial eclipse, chew slowly, wash your hands correctly before and after meals, brush your teeth in the morning and evening, rinse your mouth after meals and so on. Parents should make appropriate rules for their children according to their age characteristics, ask them to do what they can, put on and take off their clothes, learn to make the bed and fold the quilt, and help them do some housework, such as helping to set the dishes and chopsticks, clean the table, sweep the floor and take out the garbage. Gradually form a good habit of sorting out your things, loving cleanliness, stressing hygiene and being organized.
2. Cultivate children's habit of autonomous learning.
The habit of autonomous learning has a great influence on children's interest in learning and academic performance, which is directly related to their success. The habit of autonomous learning is: thinking hard and daring to solve problems; The habit of studying within the specified time should not be delayed or dawdled; Ask if you don't understand; Review old lessons and preview new ones; Check carefully after finishing homework; Memory; Reading; Keep a diary; Make plans; Wrong problem set. Because once children develop the habit of autonomous learning, they will concentrate on everything and use their brains in their hearts, which will naturally lead to high efficiency and great gains.
In recent years, only a lot of reading can achieve good results in the primary school graduation examination, senior high school entrance examination and college entrance examination. Shakespeare said: "Books are the nourishment of the whole world. Life without books is like life without sunshine. Wisdom without books is like a bird without wings. It should be our parents' goal to make children friends with books all their lives. As parents, we should help our children grasp the best reading time in "primary school" and improve their achievements in learning Chinese through reading. Soviet educator Suhomlinski once said: "Reading is an important means of intellectual education for students with learning difficulties. The more difficult it is for a student to study, the more he needs to read. The more students with learning difficulties read, the clearer their thinking and the more active their wisdom. " The seeds of reading are sown in the family. Parents or the elderly at home like reading, and children will fall in love with reading. Such an example is around us.
3. Cultivate children's civilized and polite habits of love, gratitude and respect for others.
Parents are children's mirrors, and children are parents' shadows. People without love will never respect and sympathize with others, including those they love. Nowadays, children are generally selfish and will only accept the love of others, but will not love others, including their parents. So I think it is necessary to cultivate children's love, gratitude and respect for others' manners and manners.
Teacher Lu Qin said, "Children's love is tender. If you care about it, it will grow up. " If you ignore it, it will wither; If you hit it, it will die. "A trickle flows into rivers and seas, and a sand and a stone build a palace of love. If we want to have a loving, grateful and respectful child, then we should cultivate and care for it in our life. Pay attention to the cultivation of children bit by bit, and teach by example. That kind and broad love will take root and sprout in children's hearts, and will continue to expand and rise with their growth.
4. Cultivate children's responsible moral habits.
Responsible moral habits include various rules of conduct, respecting and caring for elders, not defecating anywhere, not damaging flowers and trees, caring for public property, obeying traffic rules, being able to empathize, being United and friendly, reflecting on oneself in mistakes, paying for mistakes, and so on. It is necessary to consciously assign some tasks to children and exercise their ability to do things independently; Encourage children to do things well from beginning to end; Encourage children to take responsibility bravely; Educate children to cherish the fruits of their parents' labor.
5. Cultivate children's habit of bearing setbacks.
In the arena of life, children can only rely on their own efforts, and parents can't replace children. I personally think that children should be given the strength to maintain a good competitive state, which can help them build their self-confidence. I think this should be the core task of family education. We should not only be good at discovering and praising children, but also guide them to face failure correctly, be their comrades-in-arms in the face of setbacks, help them tide over the difficulties of "setbacks" and cultivate their frustration tolerance. Children will always encounter setbacks and failures in the process of learning and growing up. Parents should first adjust their mentality, don't be too hasty, and have a peaceful mentality. Only in this way can they come up with and use the most suitable tutoring methods, and also influence and cultivate their children's healthy personality, so that children can have a healthy psychology.