In the process of adolescent sexual development, young men and women have many sexual psychological problems. Although most of them are adjustment problems, they are relatively hidden. Next, I collected the common sexual psychological problems in adolescence for your reference only.
Common sexual and psychological problems in adolescence
1, deviation of sexual cognition
The principle of sexual imprisonment, which prevailed in China's feudal ethics for thousands of years, made many school teachers and parents keep silent on the topic of sex, resulting in many teenagers not understanding physiological knowledge and sexual knowledge, and thinking that "sex" is shameful, hard to say and at a loss. Sexual psychologist WeChat: X 169 1 169 The deviation of sexual cognition is mainly due to the lack of systematic scientific understanding of sex and related issues, which leads to some wrong understandings and unscientific concepts, which affect one's own growth and development, physical and mental health, self-improvement and growth and progress, and seriously affect one's health and happiness throughout life.
2. The problem of sexual consciousness
Teenagers can generally respond appropriately to sexual awareness activities after entering adolescence, but some children can't face sexual awareness activities correctly and are troubled by sexual awareness, resulting in anxiety, impatience, anxiety, depression, self-blame, regret and other emotions. A small number of children will be distracted and afraid to communicate with the opposite sex, which will affect their study and life and seriously lead to psychological obstacles. Sexual psychologist WeChat: X 169 1 169 Teenagers have second sexual characteristics at a certain age, girls have menstruation, boys have wet dream, and when they enter adolescence, men and women are curious, attracted and even adored, and have sexual fantasies and impulses. These are normal psychological reactions in adolescence, not impure, immoral or shameful behaviors. It is suggested that adolescent children should read more relevant books, strengthen the study of sexual knowledge, and talk with their close friends at the same time, so that they can get coping strategies and methods of adolescent psychological reaction from friends and vent their bad emotions.
3. The confusion of sexual fantasy
Sexual fantasy is a normal sexual physiological and psychological phenomenon for adolescent children, which will be accompanied by corresponding emotional reactions, or ecstatic or depressed, so as to obtain certain sexual satisfaction. General sexual fantasies appear some time before going to bed or staying in bed after waking up. For teenagers, adolescence is an intense period of psychological development and change, and it is also a golden period of life development. Although we recognize the normality of sexual fantasy, teenagers must not indulge in sexual fantasy, but cultivate a wide range of life interests, participate in various beneficial social and cultural activities, and devote their energy to normal study life.
4. The trouble of sexual impulse
According to the survey, many teenagers have an incorrect understanding of "sex", and some think it is obscene, dirty and vulgar, which makes them feel ashamed, self-blaming, distressed and confused about their sexual impulses, and produces disgust and fear. In fact, sexual impulse is a normal physiological and psychological response of young men and women, which is produced under the action of sex hormones and external stimuli, not impure, immoral or shameful behavior. Young people with the above incorrect views will cause psychological obstacles if they don't wake up in time. The impulse to sex depends on sexual morality to restrain itself and adopt feasible methods to adjust it. For example, it is an effective way to relieve sexual impulses through inner repression. Moderate repression is the need of socialization and the embodiment of human mental health. However, severe depression is harmful to physical and mental health. In addition, sexual desire can be replaced by a positive, constructive and socially acceptable desire or way, such as painting, music, sports activities, engaging in labor, or friendly communication between men and women, which can transfer energy and balance feelings. This method is sublimation.
5. Men and women.
Adolescent middle school students also have a series of mental health problems to solve when they communicate with the opposite sex. Love is an emotion that is often misunderstood by some immature middle school students. Infatuation may throw a boy or a little girl into chaos. Sometimes, middle school students think that they have been in love forever, but in fact, the feelings they are experiencing are a kind of infatuation, a strong desire, and even a sexual desire that everyone has. Infatuation is a sudden and intense intoxication, a normal and useful emotion, but it is different from lasting, cautious and mature love.
The contact between middle school students and the opposite sex is not entirely sexual, and some of them are out of help, sympathy, gratitude and other reasons, but if they are not guided, the sexual love of middle school students will also be abnormal. Therefore, in the communication between men and women, on the one hand, we should prevent indulgence, insulting and even provocative words and deeds. On the other hand, we should also break the feudal stereotype that men and women are not close. Some students of the opposite sex will immediately have gossip because of their hobbies, or because they have a little more contact with work and study, so that they dare not contact normally. When they are forced to contact, they often feel ashamed, blushing, unable to express their feelings, and at a loss, which leads to abnormal sexual psychology of teenagers. Doing so will sometimes arouse students' rebellious psychology and make pure friendship develop in the direction of first love. Some parents are afraid that their children will fall in love during their studies, so they repeatedly forbid their children to associate with the opposite sex. In this way, their children's curiosity and mystery about the opposite sex will be enhanced. Therefore, extensive communication should be advocated among male and female students. Only with the experience of communication in a normal atmosphere can teenagers gradually master the difference between friendship and love through comparison and identification, so as to better grasp their emotions. In addition, heterosexual communication can enrich students' personality. Psychological research shows that the wider the range of personal communication, the more diverse the contact with the surrounding life, the richer his own spiritual world and the more comprehensive his personality development. Therefore, single same-sex communication is far less than multi-sex communication to enrich people's personality.
Common psychological problems in adolescence
1, youth fantasy
It is normal that adolescent children often love fantasy. Many children fantasize about becoming great scientists and solving problems in the world; Some children want to travel around the country or the world; Some fantasize about becoming excellent singers, and so on. This is exactly the energetic performance of adolescent children. Under the influence of environmental reality and personal conditions, most children will realistically abandon their fantasies and establish their ideals for future work. Adolescent girls also have fantasies about love. They have a man they love. This person may be a male classmate in the class, but it may also be a handsome actor or a handsome singer, a foreign movie star or a fictional hero in a movie. Sometimes the object of fantasy will change frequently, sometimes I know it is impossible, but I still like to enjoy the warmth and get psychological satisfaction in fantasy. With the progress of girls' puberty, girls will gradually mature, and these fantasies about love will be reduced to disappear. But there are also some girls who are introverted, addicted to fantasy and even affect their study.
2. It is easy to form bad habits
Adolescent girls are not fully aware of things, curious and imitative, and like to compare with their peers, so they are easily influenced by others. For example, smoking, partial eclipse and blind weight loss. We should find it early and stop it early, so as not to affect their physical and mental development. Therefore, adolescent girls' health awareness is very important. Improve their physical and mental development. Therefore, adolescent girls' health awareness is very important.
3. The pressure of interpersonal communication
Due to the enhancement of independent consciousness, teenagers have more and more extensive contact with society. They are eager for social interaction and their own intimate partners. However, due to their own reasons, such as inferiority, excessive concern about other people's evaluation, fragility, strong vanity, fear of losing face and so on. They feel depressed and lonely, have no close friends and have interpersonal barriers. Therefore, parents, teachers or psychologists should help teenagers to change some inappropriate cognition and attitudes, guide teenagers to objectively analyze their current situation, learn to accept themselves, allow themselves to have shortcomings and failures, and do not expect too much from themselves or the outside world, so as to enhance their self-confident skills in action and practice.
4. Sexual troubles and confusion
Sexual annoyance is caused by the fact that teenagers' physiological needs can't be accepted by social behavior norms after their sexual consciousness awakens. Sexual confusion is the sexual development of teenagers. Due to the restriction of social ethics and the mystification of sex education, psychological conflicts among teenagers occur from time to time. They often think that "sex is bad" and "it is shameful to have sexual fantasies about the opposite sex", which leads to negative evaluation and excessive sexual repression. Therefore, we must purify the social atmosphere, actively carry out sexual mental health education, change parents' traditional sexual concepts and give children correct sexual health education.
5. Psychological disorder
Teenagers often have some psychological obstacles, such as depression and phobia. These psychological obstacles will make teenagers lose their unique vitality, get tired of things they are usually interested in, reduce their thinking ability, lose their concentration, lose their motivation to learn, suffer from insomnia, general fatigue, loss of appetite and so on. This will further affect their communication with others, they will be very anxious and painful, and in severe cases, they will have physical and mental diseases.
6. Study pressure
The study burden of middle school students is too heavy, which often brings them heavy psychological pressure. It is not uncommon for teenagers to fall into pain because of the pressure of study. Because I pay too much attention to the results, I don't feel interested in learning. Some teenagers can't bear the psychological pressure brought by study, and sometimes they show unusual resistance, leading to domestic violence, and some even commit suicide passively.
Psychological problems of teenagers
1, depression: I always feel depressed and bored, and I am listless in class;
2, anxiety: I always feel very inexplicable tension, irritability, fear, and my heart is not practical;
3, interpersonal sensitivity: I always feel that others don't like to associate with themselves, don't understand their feelings, and feel uncomfortable with the opposite sex;
4, psychological imbalance: if your academic performance is worse than others, not rich enough or not well dressed, you always feel that your heart is very unbalanced, not a taste, and there is an unequal treatment;
6. Poor adaptability: I don't like all kinds of subjects in school and it is difficult to adapt to school life. I often encounter difficulties in my study and it is difficult to make progress;
7. Symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder: I often worry about some unnecessary things, such as worrying about what to do if I fail the exam and what to do if I say something wrong. Girls are always worried that they are not dressed properly and love to look in the mirror.
Faced with the above psychological problems in adolescence, how to guide children and help them get out of this rebellious period?
1, strengthen emotional input and harmonious teacher-student relationship. We should deal with problems from the standpoint of students, shorten the psychological distance between teachers and students, and eliminate psychological obstacles. Making students close to teachers is helpful to adjust and alleviate students' rebellious psychology.
2, comprehensive evaluation of students, know how to respect every student. Fully affirming their advantages, putting forward sincere expectations for them, making them feel their potential and igniting the fire of students' souls will help students' confrontational mentality gradually disappear.
At the same time, please ask parents to be more tolerant and understanding to their children. Educate children to maintain physical and mental health, establish a positive attitude, develop in many ways, cultivate a wide range of interests and hobbies, and enrich their hearts.
Common sexual psychological problems in adolescence 1- psychological problems of adolescent girls
1, the contradiction between adult feeling and childish feeling
The outstanding psychological feature of teenagers is that they have a sense of adulthood and think that they are mature and have grown up. Therefore, in some behavioral activities, thinking understanding, social interaction and other aspects, he showed the demeanor of "adults". Psychologically, I long for others to treat him as an adult, respect him and understand him. However, due to the limitation of age, social experience, life experience and knowledge, they tend to be blind in thinking and behavior, easy to do stupid things, and obviously naive.
2. The contradiction between opening and closing.
Teenagers need to communicate with peers, especially with the opposite sex and parents on an equal footing. They are eager for others to open their hearts to each other like themselves. But because everyone's personality and ideas are different, we can't find the object to project this desire, so we have to say it in our diary. The truth written in these diaries, because of self-esteem, does not want to be known by others, so it has formed the ambivalence of wanting to be known by others and being afraid of being known by others.
3. The contradiction between desire and depression.
Teenagers have a desire to communicate with the opposite sex because of their mature sexual development. For example, I like to be close to the opposite sex, want to know about sexual knowledge, like to show myself in front of the opposite sex, and even have hazy love ideas. However, due to the constraints and restrictions of schools, parents and public opinion, teenagers are in a state of depression and contradiction in their emotional and sexual understanding, and they are both eager to express themselves and embarrassed to express them.
4. The contradiction between self-control and impulse
Teenagers' consciousness and self-control have been strengthened while their psychological independence and sense of adulthood have emerged. In the interaction with others, they subjectively hope that they can consciously abide by the rules and do their best, but objectively it is often difficult to control their emotions well, and sometimes they act rashly, which makes them fall into the contradiction of strong self-control but impulsive. The limitation of knowledge is often blind in thought and behavior, and it is easy to do stupid things, which is obviously childish and naive.
It is in this contradiction that adolescent psychology is formed and gradually matured, which is a natural process. Parents should pay attention to respect and trust their children, exchange feelings with them more, understand their psychology, and help them arrange their lives fully and meaningfully. And more importantly, help children correctly understand the content of this "forbidden zone".
Psychological problems easy to appear in adolescence
1. Inferiority
Inferiority refers to making a low evaluation of one's own quality and ability and feeling inferior to others' psychological feelings. A proper sense of inferiority can motivate you to make up for your own shortcomings and surpass yourself; However, excessive inferiority will lead to depression and seriously affect our physical and mental health. Some middle school students often make mistakes because of their poor academic performance, so at home and at school, they criticize more than praise, blame more than encouragement, and punish more than guidance. So I thought I was hopeless, felt inferior, and became disheartened, depressed, self-destructive and negative. Form the inferiority complex of "I am inferior to others".
2. rebellious psychology
The so-called rebellious psychology refers to the opposing emotions and behavioral intentions that are contrary to cognitive information and general normal education requirements due to the inherent traditional stereotypes and thinking patterns in the process of receiving education. Many middle school students often can't treat their parents' pains and teachers' criticism and education correctly because of their poor ability to distinguish right from wrong and their doubts. They doubt everything, are supercilious, hold a negative attitude towards positive propaganda, deny role models and advanced figures for no reason, have emotional identification with bad tendencies, and passively resist ideological education and compliance with rules and regulations.
Step 3 be lonely
People are gregarious animals, and people can't live without groups and interpersonal communication. Loneliness is a subjective psychological feeling that you are excluded, forgotten and psychologically isolated from the world. Loneliness is a psychological state of loneliness, helplessness and unhappiness produced by individuals in groups. Loneliness is the result of lack of communication with people, and it is also a psychological problem that it is difficult to communicate well with people. Many middle school students are withdrawn, afraid of communication, and often feel that they are alone in the vast sea, or feel sorry for themselves, or groan without illness. They don't want to enter the hot life, but complain that others don't understand and accept themselves. Some middle school students seldom associate with others and often act alone behind everyone's back. Their interpersonal relationship is alienated and diluted, and they advocate being "superman" and "eccentric". They feel lonely inside.
Step 4 be alert
Jealousy is a social psychology and consciousness. Some people describe jealousy as a fundamental, universal and intense psychological phenomenon. Psychologists define jealousy as a targeted feeling, a tendency to look at the happiness of others with pain. When the current and expected relationship is threatened, it is a ambivalence of jealousy and hostility. In middle school, some students' beautiful appearance, excellent academic performance, superior family conditions and being loved by teachers often arouse the envy of others. The more they care about and attach importance to the object of jealousy, the more vulnerable they are to despair and fear, and then develop into some bad emotions such as hatred, hostility, resentment and revenge.
5. Self-centered mentality
Some middle school students are only addicted to self-realization and personal struggle, and they can take themselves as the core everywhere. If you encounter something slightly unsatisfactory, you will break into a furious rage, eat humble pie, or haggle over every ounce if you violate a little personal interests, be insensitive to the collective and be indifferent to society. In doing things, only others care about him (her), and he (she) never cares about others. Once his personal desires are not satisfied, he will try his best to harm others and social interests, and even embark on the road of crime.
Step 6 be tired of learning
Weariness refers to students' psychological state of losing interest in school life, boredom and indifference, and their bad performance in action. According to the survey, the number of students who are tired of learning is as high as 50. 14% among middle school students, and the highest is Grade Two, reaching 66. 18%. They are characterized by lack of motivation to learn, boredom with learning, loss of confidence in making progress and low desire to learn. In the worst case, they even lose interest in learning, regard learning as a chore, are too lazy to open textbooks in class, can't finish their homework independently, and hope to graduate early in order to get rid of it. What's more, I don't study at all, and I'm in a daze all day long. They get headaches when they see textbooks, worry when they sit in the classroom, often arrive late and leave early, miss classes, lack feelings for teachers, and feel bad about teachers.
7. Puppy love problem
The so-called puppy love refers to the premature occurrence or development of love among teenagers. There are roughly two bases for judging whether puppy love is possible: one is the degree of self-reliance in life; The second is the difference between the age of love and the legal minimum age for marriage. Puppy love is a common phenomenon in adolescence. With the development of the body and the maturity of the reproductive system, middle school students will have psychological curiosity and yearning for the opposite sex, and it is easy for boys and girls to have a hazy affection. Coupled with the help of pop songs, romance novels and film and television media, it is a ripening agent for the sexual psychological development of middle school students. Coupled with the severe criticism and supervision of parents and teachers, students have a strong rebellious mentality, which is even more.
8. obsessed with network problems
With the development of society, the Internet has entered our lives more and more. The Internet has brought us a lot of convenience and disadvantages. For example, middle school students are obsessed with the internet. Some middle school students have poor self-control ability, so they can't get out when they enter the network. For example, a cousin of mine fell in love with the Internet when he was a freshman. He stayed in the Internet cafe for several days and nights, and the school informed his family if he could not be found.
9. The problem of "idolization"
When the colorful pursuit of glory reflects the youthful and energetic singers, dancers, movie stars, sports stars, writers and other successful figures on the screen and stage, a pair of heartfelt worship eyes are also closely following these "star-level" figures, which has become one of the cultural phenomena of teenagers, the emergence of "groupies" and the rise of "youth idol fever". The phenomenon of idolization of middle school students is very obvious in the first grade of junior high school. I once worked as an intern in the first grade of junior high school in our town. After class, I chatted with my classmates, who surrounded me and asked me which singer and comedian I liked.
10. Test anxiety
Examination anxiety is a very complicated emotional phenomenon. It is a common psychological phenomenon, which is caused by a certain examination situation, characterized by anxiety, manifested as defense or escape, and restricted by individual cognitive evaluation, personality factors and other physical and mental factors. The performance is: I feel nervous when I hear that I will have an exam, I can't sleep well before the exam, I feel nervous, flustered and my memory is stuck during the exam. Some students who usually study well panic when they get to the exam and can't play their due level. According to the survey, about 1 1. 18% of middle school students have obvious anxiety symptoms about exams. Serious test anxiety not only does great harm to study, but also poses a potential threat to the physical and mental health of middle school students.
1 1. Emotional problems
The performance is as follows: middle school students have rich and strong emotions, but their emotions are volatile, unstable and impulsive. They are often not good at regulating and controlling their emotions. Sometimes, they may get emotional and frustrated because of a little thing. The changeable mood often makes it difficult for them to concentrate on everything, and their study and life are disturbed. The laissez-faire mood often affects the friendship and unity between classmates. Because middle school students' emotions fluctuate greatly and their self-control is weak, they are easily captured by bad emotions, which affects their mental state, hinders their enterprising spirit and even violates school rules and regulations. Alice, an American psychologist, believes that people have unpleasant emotions because they have many unreasonable beliefs about things. What makes us unhappy is often not the event itself, but our unreasonable view of the event.
12. Poor academic performance
The phenomenon of poor academic performance is very common in schools. Its essence is that students' academic performance cannot meet the basic requirements of teaching, and there is still a gap between them. Generally speaking, students with poor grades are obviously poor in learning. This kind of students is what we often call "underachievers", also called "underachievers". It is an indisputable fact to attach importance to grades in the learning process. Learning should not be a painful thing. Student days are the golden age of learning knowledge. Why are students so miserable? We have to regard learning as a competition to get scores simply by evaluating the results of learning. In this competition, most students are doomed to be losers, which makes students feel that learning is painful and thus loses their interest in learning, which can't help but make people sad. Students with poor grades are the most sensitive inside. Some unconscious behaviors and unintentional words of teachers, parents and classmates will hurt their self-esteem.
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