Childhood life still focuses on the family, so a happy and harmonious family life and the giving of family affection have a great influence on its good physical and mental development.
There is no doubt that the cultivation of children's good psychological quality requires the joint efforts of parents.
It is not the exclusive work of "women" or "men", but the joint work of father and mother. It is not easy to cultivate children's good psychological quality, but there are several important principles, the most important of which is the harmony between parents. If children grow up to see that there is little respect and goodwill between their parents, and there are often language and even physical conflicts, children will gradually regard their families as battlefields and as places of patience rather than joy. Of course, if one parent supports the child and the other opposes it, things will be even worse. Facts have proved that family disharmony and parents' divorce are easy to cause children's bad emotions such as fear and pessimism, and even form negative psychology.
In order to make children develop physically and mentally, parents should try their best to create a good family education environment. A good family environment is very important for children's growth. All family members should have a harmonious emotional atmosphere, strengthen the construction of family culture, form a good "family style", and let children live in an educated and cultural environment.
Scientific parenting attitude is the cornerstone of children's healthy physical and mental development.
Children live in the family for a long time, and parents' parenting attitude is very important for children's physical and mental development, such as treating children fairly, meeting their needs appropriately, helping children adapt to the changing new environment, insisting on positive education, and giving guidance according to their emotions and individual characteristics. Now it seems that there are several incorrect parenting attitudes in the current society: (1) Overindulgence. Today's families, especially the only child, are the most easily spoiled. Parents are on tenterhooks all day, and once their children make mistakes, they will make excuses for them; If a child conflicts with others, it is not a positive sermon, but a defense. The whole family is child-centered, obedient to children's demands, and overprotective of children, which leads to children's lack of self-restraint and strong dependence, and makes children over-self-esteem, forming arrogant, willful, selfish and impolite characters. (2) autocracy. Some parents like to control their children, limit their every move, and even often beat and scold them. Authoritarian parents don't love their children. They lack patience and want their children to do what they say, which suppresses their independent personality and creativity. In the long run, it will make children timid, timid, even indifferent or violent, rebellious and other bad behaviors. (3) Irresponsible. Parents who hold this attitude take a negative attitude towards their children because they can't be self-disciplined or have other reasons. They don't attach importance to education and only care about their children's food and clothing. If children are allowed to develop freely like this, they will naturally feel lonely, which will also lead to a lack of self-confidence and responsibility in doing things, and it is easy to form bad behavior habits. Correct parenting attitude should be democratic parenting attitude. Democratic parents don't beat and scold their children at will, but analyze and guide their children's behavior, give help and encouragement in the process of their growth or study, and rationally use rewards and punishments to make their children gain knowledge and understand things from their parents' behavior and education. Therefore, in the process of educating children, we should advocate democracy, oppose autocracy and laissez-faire, and combine appropriate control with positive education, encouragement, care and consideration. "Love" embodies "emotion" and "management" embodies "reason", and the two should be moderate, reasonable and mutually infiltrated. * * * plays a regulatory role in the parent-child relationship and implements a scientific educational attitude towards the healthy development of children's body and mind.
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The quality of educators themselves is the guarantee for the healthy development of children's body and mind.
Makarenko once said, "Parents are children's first teachers. Every word and deed, every move, a look, and even an invisible spiritual world will have a subtle influence on children. " Children are imitative and their parents are their role models. Parents' words and deeds, ideology and morality, living habits and work style have a great influence on children. As the saying goes, "fish begins to stink at the head". Parents have good moral character and words and deeds, and children will receive a good education. On the contrary, parents' words and deeds will be adversely affected. Therefore, parents should always behave themselves, lead by example, teach by example, work and study consciously, and set an example for their children in all aspects. Because example is better than words, the power of example is infinite.
Although many parents are aware of the importance of family education, they lack correct educational ideas and concepts, lack understanding of children's physiological and psychological characteristics, lack of basic knowledge and skills of family education, and do not know how to play the role of educating children, which hinders the role of family education. Now many countries are taking various forms to improve the quality of parents. For example, Germany has a "parent school" to provide parents with systematic family education; In the United States, parents are counseled in the form of lectures and seminars, and a "parental behavior scale" is established for family education research; In Taiwan Province Province, parents' education has been brought into the ranks of adult education, and attention has been paid to cultivating parents' attitude, ability and way of educating their children by using various conditions and forms, and attention has been paid to systematically planning family education courses in school education, and arranging young students to take "pre-service" family education subjects. We should not only continue to play the role of our unique and effective experience, but also correctly treat these scientific methods and theories about family education in the new period, so as to better improve the quality of parents.
Correct family education methods are the key to the healthy development of children's body and mind.
Family education has a great influence on children's physical and mental development, and different educational methods will have different effects. A survey shows that the lack of family education function caused by improper parental education methods is the main external cause of juvenile delinquency. Improper parental education methods are one of the important reasons why children go astray.
A famous American psychologist studied the influence of family education on children's life. Among them, the story of a successful man from the White House and a prisoner from a prison is impressive: their mother gave them apples when their children were young, and the prisoner said against his will, "Mom, I want the youngest and the biggest for my brother." Mother was very happy and gave him the big red apple as a reward. From then on, he learned to lie. Later, he learned to fight, steal and rob. He did whatever it took to get what he wanted. The difference is that the mother of a successful person gave the biggest apple to the person who mowed the lawn fastest and best, letting him know that if he wants to get the best, he must work hard and strive for the first place. This shows that the same thing, different education methods, the results are different.
In the family, parents should pay attention to educating their children positively, such as encouraging education. We can choose many heroes from all ages as role models for children to learn and set them up in children's minds from an early age. We should start with specific characters, tell stories or choose what happened around us, and educate children in social morality in simple terms, such as respecting the old and caring for the young, obeying the law, caring for public property, protecting the environment, and being brave. Let children basically understand what to do and what not to do, and know that a person with healthy personality should. Parents should also cultivate their children to have good habits, such as language habits, work habits, living hygiene habits and so on. The formation of these habits plays an important role in the healthy development of children's body and mind. Therefore, parents should consciously cultivate their children to develop good habits in the family, such as speaking politely, paying attention to personal hygiene and taking the initiative to do housework. Give priority to positive education, but you can also selectively use cases to educate children. In the process of education, parents should explain the harm and achieve the goal of avoiding children's imitation. Family life is not closed, and all kinds of social information will flow into the family through various channels. Parents should explain to their children some negative information and behaviors that violate the morality of public places, and the harm these behaviors bring to society, others and ultimately to themselves, so that children can distinguish right from wrong, understand advantages and disadvantages, and achieve the purpose of education.
The hand that pushes the cradle is the hand that pushes the world. Parents are the first teachers of the children. You can teach them to tell the first lie, or you can teach them to be honest and always strive for it by your own efforts. In a word, family education is the foundation of school education and social education, and it is very important for children's future growth. It can be said that if family education is done well, school education and social education will be more than half successful, and individuals, families and society will benefit endlessly.