In other words, they are weighing whether this man can give them a sense of security after marriage, because psychologically speaking, the more a person pays for another person, the higher the weight of this person's price in his heart. At the same time, it is more difficult to let go, because if it is lost, he will have to pay the same amount again to maintain another relationship. When she has no sense of security, she can only give herself a guarantee with economic things such as houses and cars. So if you really love a person and a woman, the person who wants to spend his life with him will choose to give him enough sense of security, or give him the greatest financial security, so that he can believe that you can bring her the happiness he wants.
Happiness comes from the following aspects:
1, family relationship, health status and income level are the three major factors affecting happiness. "Family relationship" is the most important in their minds, followed by work and boyfriend and girlfriend.
2. China Economic Life Survey (20 17-20 18) conducted a special survey on college students aged 18-25. Most of them were born after 1990. Among them, family and economic conditions are not their priority in choosing a spouse, but the tenderness and thoughtfulness of the other party are the first in their eyes.
After all, a lifetime is so long. If you are with a boring person, even if he has a house and a car, they just live under the same roof and respect each other as ice. It is better to be single. This shows that the post-90s generation still knows what they want.
In addition to these emotional problems, the survey also shows that the post-90s generation now has a very high demand for the quality of life. Food safety, air quality, housing security, etc. They all value the quality of the city very much. Not only that, but the post-90s also understand that they can't just ask for nothing, and they are willing to spend their time on "reading" and self-improvement.
For people who value material things, not having a house will naturally reduce their happiness. Such people will feel insecure and feel that the house can give them a sense of security, so without a house, they will lack the feeling of happiness. The whole person will live in anxiety, always feel that he has accomplished nothing, and will gradually feel inferior. ? On the contrary, for those who are more confident and like freedom, without houses and other things, these things will not have any influence on them at all. As long as they have a place to sleep, they can have their own freedom and love themselves. This is happiness, and the house is only a material thing. For such people, they don't care about these problems and look down on these things, so even if there is no house, there will be no happiness. On the contrary, they will live more freely and happily. If they have a house, they will feel that the house is a bondage and a sense of oppression, so they will feel hindered and block their right to pursue freedom. ? 3. My sense of happiness comes from having the habit of keeping healthy, having a job I love, helping people in need through my own ability, being able to taste favorite healthy food at any time, loving myself and people around me, having healthy and friendly interpersonal relationships, reading favorite books, being curious, having my own independent three views, gaining knowledge through study, and gaining wisdom through action, especially the freedom of thought and a free and happy life.