Case study:
First, the case description:
A student, female,
14
Years old. My father works outside all the year round, and there are only my mother and my brother at home.
Once, I learned from my diary that she wrote in her diary that she had to do a lot of housework at home, and her mother and brother were very upset.
Bullying her, she feels happy only when she goes to school and doesn't want to go home. At the end of the diary, she wrote: I
How can there be such a mother? Is this also love? I hate my mother.
After I read the diary,
Heart quilt
Shocked and at a loss, the seventh-grade children are so sentimental, so sensitive and so strange.
Different ideas and psychology.
Second, the problem analysis:
1
, there is a problem:
A
The student is timid and can't be taken care of by his parents. Parents are closed-minded
B
There is a lot of hatred in my mind, but I can't release it from my heart, and my thoughts have nowhere to communicate. Neither pleasure nor pain is willing.
Set up and share.
2
, cause analysis:
A
Personal factors: Through observation, I found that she was negatively affected by inferiority, shyness, anxiety and fear for a long time.
The heavy psychological burden made her unable to correctly understand what love was. It's hard to feel the warmth of family,
Thereby falling into a loss.
I hope,
Fall into a vicious circle of resentment.
This will seriously affect her physical and mental health development.
Pupils are extremely strong.
Comfort psychology, that is, primary school students' attachment to their parents, makes it easy for them to confide their anxiety and troubles to their parents.
In order to get comfort and help from parents.
But children in this situation lack this comfort.
Thereby causing communication barriers.
B
Family factors: due to the traditional concept of men and women in China, some families and parents attach importance to boys and ignore them.
The girl's closed mind pays little attention to the girl and even ignores her existence. This gives girls psychology.
Create a shadow as if I am dispensable, thus denying self-doubt, anxiety, worry, loneliness, isolation and so on.
Sensory disorders followed. Gradually form inferiority and depression. If the child's academic performance is not good, it is even worse.
Very serious
Because mothers don't care enough about their children,
My father works outside all the year round,
It belongs to my brother, too.
Bullying, there is a scene in the diary.
C
Teacher factor: in school, if teachers don't know enough about some students and pay enough attention to them, they are prone to make mistakes.
When these students feel lost,
Lack of self-confidence,
Under great pressure,
Generally have a serious inferiority complex.
But judging from the reflection in the diary,
It shows that our teacher usually pays attention to her,
Made her fall in love with school,
happy
Happy school psychology.
The seventh grade is a turning point in middle school.
The child's mind begins to have personality,
More subjective.
Yes, the students' family situation is extremely complicated. The student's problems belong to psychological problems, and it is easy to happen if the guidance is not good.
Psychological problems of psychological paranoia.
Third, counseling methods:
1
Ask about the basic situation and get a comprehensive understanding of the students. Talk to your child and induce her to speak her mind. from
From the conversation,
It turns out that when children were young, they should have been told by their neighbors that their mothers didn't value themselves and didn't read to their children.
The garden also said that when my daughter grew up to be someone else's, she wanted to study hard for her brother. So psychological settlement, add even.
My mother ignored punishment everywhere,
After that, I didn't want to communicate with my mother.
Know her heart
So fragile and sensitive.
Understand the pain and annoyance in the child's heart,
Find out the psychological crux of the child,
For the next one.
The upcoming diversion strategy provides a good preparation.
2
Talk to children and learn about their inner world. To walk into a child's heart, you must put yourself in her shoes.
Thinking about the earth.
When I heard those life stories she told,
My heart is shaking.
I regard it as a friend.
Tone to communicate with her, listen to her talk, she is so talkative, I feel I have a responsibility. I will try my best.
Influence her with a calm tone and a positive attitude. I encouraged her to get rid of the shadow, face it positively and care.
Parents live in harmony with their younger brothers. I analyzed with her that my brother often beat and scolded her, but actually he wanted to play with her.
Happy for her condition, let her like this brother from the heart.
three
, home visit. Have a heart-to-heart talk with parents. Strengthen the ideological guidance to mothers, break the closed thinking and give
Care and love. After the parents' ideas are solved, the child's depressed heart will be relieved. The relationship between mother and child has eased.
four
I suggest that she study hard and be herself. As long as you do it yourself, others will not criticize you. make an effort
Studying hard is the basis of getting love. Set clear goals and make unremitting efforts to make you feel that the world is colorful.
Life is valuable.