Yes, in the world of adults, it is not enough to talk about life without the word "easy" and those who are martyred by fate.
On a rainy day, the car suddenly broke down, but people were stabbed by enthusiasm, misunderstood by the people who care most, wronged by the leaders, and the trivial things that they had to face that were hard to get rid of, which made people feel distressed and annoyed.
In addition, there are many unexpected setbacks and setbacks that make people feel dejected and burst into tears.
Who wants to be trapped in the trough of life, and who doesn't want to raise their hands and look up to see the sun shining and the soft wind and drizzle everywhere.
Sometimes, people's hearts will blind their eyes and bury their rationality with sensibility, thinking that everything they see in their eyes is what the world should look like.
First, what you choose to focus on, you will see!
Life is not easy for most people in this world.
Even if you can see a lot of perfect personal background, experience and external design, you should look carefully in the mirror and find flaws and unknown flaws.
There is a topic in Zhihu called-How did you survive the most difficult time? The following netizen answers are distressing.
Some people say that they have eaten instant noodles for several months and haven't bought themselves a new dress for several years. Some people even have no extra money to go out for parties and entertainment with friends except simple food and clothing.
Some people not only suffer economic losses, but also suffer from depression and mild depression caused by physical degradation. ...
But fortunately, I finally survived step by step. If you are not strong, will others be strong for you? Obviously not.
Many times, the difficulties we encounter are more like a kind of practice and the only way in life. As long as you dare to face it and go on boldly, the desperate situation will naturally be broken.
In fact, life doesn't know who we are, so we don't deliberately embarrass anyone. Most of us are not necessarily desperate, but may be depressed and unhappy because of some small things.
Just remember not to despair when encountering setbacks, to comfort yourself that the tattered days will eventually pass, to learn to treat emotions only as emotions, not to amplify emotions, and not to let emotions affect actions, and gradually form benign habits.
Many times, the straw that breaks people down is just a grass, not that heavy.
Don't always complain about social chaos and hard life. You will see what you choose to focus on and what raw materials you choose to use. In the near future, you will create an inseparable finished product.
No one's life is easy. Similarly, everyone has the right to pursue hope and happiness, and is born with infinite strength and courage.
Second, don't be too hard, ask for moderation and seek constancy!
Like master Joe, in a sense, there are only a few people who really want to change the world, and it is also a rational courage to admit that they are the majority of all sentient beings.
Don't underestimate your ability, but don't overestimate your energy. Don't push things too hard just because you are afraid you can't do it. Being careful is counterproductive.
Take myself as an example. When I was still studying, every winter and summer vacation, I would happily bump into a lot of books and make various complicated reading plans. How many pages you read every day and how many books you read every week are counterproductive, and the ultimate goal is difficult to achieve.
This seemingly hard-working habit is essentially misleading. If we have to evaluate it from the perspective of self-control, I can only say that it is very difficult to carry out the perfect completion on schedule day after day.
Once it is delayed or done less for some reason, it is easy to simply stop implementing the plan because of laziness.
It is wisdom to do what you can, and what you can do is more important than what you want to do, so you should learn to respect your tolerance standards.
"omnipotent, invulnerable" is a kind of nonsense for ordinary people. After all, there are many laws and rules in the world, and only by carefully observing them can we live more decently and comfortably.
The ancients said, "Know yourself and know yourself, and you will be invincible." This tells us that it is the most basic thing to put "bosom friend" first and know yourself.
The most important thing in life is not how high your mind is and how far your goal is, but how to relax yourself, make good use of your talents and abilities and make the best use of them.
Personally, I prefer to constantly discipline myself in the process of pursuing my goals: I don't work hard, but I seek moderation and perseverance. Because you are relaxed, you will be willing to stick to it because you have formed good habits.
That's what I mean when I say, "I can't plant flowers intentionally, but I can't plant willows into shadows unintentionally."
Third, live well, nothing is more important than health!
People are extremely fragile emotional animals. When they are tired, their heads will hurt, their bodies will feel uncomfortable, and when they are hungry, they will be listless and can't do anything.
Even if only one person has wisdom teeth, it may be enough to make it difficult for a person to concentrate on what he is doing.
So, take care of yourself, it is the capital of work, the capital of love, and the premise of all kinds of eating, drinking and having fun!
Last year was a year in which my whole physical condition was quite bad. From the physical examination, I found that I had a big thyroid nodule. Whether physically or psychologically, I suddenly found that my resistance was getting weaker and weaker.
Insufficient qi and blood, coupled with staying up late for a long time to continue writing novels, irregular living habits lead to sub-health. Every time the climate changes, you should be careful and take medicine as soon as possible if you feel a little uncomfortable.
Later, Japanese novels became Zhou Geng. Obviously, I feel refreshed all over.
No matter when, the body is the most important. It is not worth the loss to work hard and ignore your health to overdraw your health without limit.
The bondage brought by a fragile body is by no means easy to overcome. Once health is destroyed, it is difficult to break through yourself and change the situation by willpower.
It is recommended that you read a book called "This Life is Unfinished" when you are free. It was created by Yu Juan, a young teacher of Fudan University, at the last moment of his life. In the face of secular success, Mr. Yu devoted countless energy and blood to this and turned himself into a spinning gyro until he was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer due to accidental fainting.
In the book, she regrets that she didn't take good care of her body for such an important thing, and finally regrets leaving, leaving her beloved children, husband and career, which makes people feel sorry.
To truly understand the meaning of living a good life, we should not pay the price of life.
Fourth, live in the present and do whatever you want!
Paulo coelho said in "The Fantasy Journey of the Shepherd"-
"I am still alive. When eating, I eat wholeheartedly; When I walk, I just walk; If I have to fight, then today, like any other day, is a good day for me to die. Because I don't live in the past or the future, all I have is the present, and I am only interested in the present. "
Living in the present is a very subtle feeling, which requires you to adjust your inner ups and downs, concentrate and put all your energy into the current action, which may be work, reading, chatting, being in a daze, sleeping …
It seems easy, but it is very difficult to keep doing it. This requires constant practice.
The most effective way to live in the present is to start with one thing and make it to the extreme. In this process, you will become stronger, more determined, more focused and even enlightened.
When you really live in the present, you won't waste too much time and energy thinking every day, and your mood will follow the present state, either happy, sad, excited, or calm, pure and rich.
Live in the moment, not only to concentrate, but also to do what you want to do.
Remember, we always habitually make a wish for ourselves, wait for time to spare to go to the gym, learn some work skills, read a masterpiece of big coffee, wait for time to go home to spend time with our parents and lovers, wait for time to take pictures and write sketches abroad, and go to a specialty store with three or two friends to drink cheese and corn, eat a mango salad and chew a pineapple string. ...
In the end, you will find that these things have been postponed for the simple reason that nothing can be started until people are fully prepared.
Many things can only be started intermittently from small details.
In fact, life is nothing more than allocating limited time and energy to countless people and things, and learning how to allocate yourself to important people and things is also a science.
The more you grow up, the more you understand that maturity is not foolhardy, but the farther you go, the less unrealistic dreams you have, the more things you plan, and the more you understand the truth of returning to nature and living in the present.
Cherish the people in front of us and do the things in front of us, because we live not for the end of life, but for being more comfortable in the process of living.