How to get along with colleagues?

How to get along with colleagues into the workplace, the primary problem is not work, but how to get along with colleagues, which is a very headache for many newcomers in the workplace. If you want to do a good job, you must integrate into the collective and get on well with your colleagues. So how do you get along with your colleagues? What should we do? Let's take a look! First, the way to get along in the workplace 1. The purpose of uncritical discussion and discussion with others is to explore the best way to solve the problem. If you constantly criticize others in this process and always think that you are right, the fundamental reason is that you don't put each other and yourself on an equal footing and give each other high respect. Perhaps subconsciously, you think this is a discussion between professors and illiterate people. When your criticism is refuted or the discussion is fruitless, all you get is anger. 2. Before doing something, there is no doubt about it. Before doing it, you must know that it is right. If it's wrong, you won't do it, which is a sign of mental health. As the saying goes, "If you want to know the taste of pears, you must taste them yourself." Similarly, doing things is the same. Doing something wrong is better than not doing it at all. Blindly hesitating and swaying can only "dust off the brilliance of thought." Only over-perfectionism or cowardice will keep doubting because they can't bear failure. 3. Challenge psychology without ridicule holds that, generally speaking, all challenges are hostile, just like the competitive psychology caused by adolescent vanity. You have to separate yourself from me before you are willing to give up. However, the arrogance of self when challenging often makes people use "ridicule" as a weapon to attack each other. In Maslow's view, people with high mental health will not do this. They have a philosopher's sense of humor, and regard challenges as goodwill cooperation, not to overwhelm and defeat each other, but to learn from each other's advantages and sum up their gains and losses. They hope that they can surpass each other, and the other party can surpass themselves and make progress in constant transcendence. 4. Forgive without resentment. When a person forgives each other verbally, whether it is true or not, there is a way to judge: sincerely forgive, even if the other person makes the same mistake next time, he will forgive; If it is false, we won't forgive each other next time. Is this because of false forgiveness or resentment? It's just a linguistic compromise. Resentment exists because our eyes only stare at each other's mistakes and ignore our own. The real forgiveness should be to find the reason from yourself first. If you don't do well, how can you ask others to do better? Then play the role of love and mercy and forgive others completely. Smile without hesitation. The most perfect smile in the world appears on Mona Lisa's face. When you see her, you will understand what a "smile without hesitation" is. She reveals the inner kindness and tranquility, which is the truest expression of the soul. When others see this kind of smile, they will also feel a sense of happiness. Smile is the most direct reaction of people to beautiful things and people. If you hesitate, then it brings a little false ingredients. Smiling faces made for flattery or perfunctory reflect our inner depression and contradiction. 6. Luo Luomei, the master of existentialism, divides the love in the world into several types. The lowest level is sexual and erotic love, and the highest level is unrequited pay. In modern society, when we give something to each other, we often hope that he can return a peach. Even between lovers, "I gave you a gift on Valentine's Day last year, and you have to give me one this year". The relationship between people is like doing business. If you give, you expect. I want more when I take it, but I forget that "love" should be nothing to look forward to. The sun gives the world the heat equivalent to burning 7 trillion tons of coal every day, but it never asks us for it. Should our love for others break through the restrictions of conditions like this? Second, the way to get along with colleagues is 1. Shallow and profound people can't make friends with the company for the first time. They can communicate with their colleagues through small talk and get closer to each other. But there is a kind of person who has just known you for a long time and then confides his difficulties and grievances to you. This kind of person is very touching at first sight, but he may also tell anyone that you don't have much weight in his heart. 2, gossip "rapper" can not be intimate. Generally speaking, those who love right and wrong must have right and wrong. This kind of person likes to pry into other people's privacy all day, complaining that this colleague is not good, that boss is having an affair and so on. Gossip may arouse the friendship between you and your colleagues. When you and your colleagues are really unhappy, they watch the fire, watch the excitement and even applaud from the other side. It may also encourage you to quarrel with your boss. He asked you to speak ill of your boss, but he beautified these words to his boss's ear. If your boss doesn't see it clearly, your life in the company will be sad. 3, lest the world be chaotic, it is not appropriate to make friends. Some people are too active and love to spread gossip and create tension. "The company is going to lay off staff", "So-and-so is appreciated by the boss", "How much bonus will be paid this month" and "The company is in huge debt" and so on, which makes people panic. If such people say these things to you, remember not to believe them. Of course, don't throw cold water on him, just perfunctory: "Oh. Is it true? " 4, shoplifting love accounts for a small advantage, not intimate. Some people like to be greedy and cheap, thinking that "shoplifting is not stealing", they take away the company's property, such as stapler, paper, stationery and other small things. Although it is not worth a few dollars, the boss will never tolerate traitors. This petty gain also includes using the company's time and resources to do private affairs or part-time jobs. I always feel that the salary given by the company is too small, and it is very uncomfortable not to use the company's resources to make some extra money. This kind of petty gain doesn't seem to be a serious problem, but once a serious incident happens in the company, the boss may suspect such a person. 5. Being blacklisted by the boss should not be intimate. As long as you observe carefully, you can find out who the boss sees as a thorn in his side. If you get too close to "unsuccessful" people, you may be implicated. Maybe you'll think it's too pushy. But what can I do? Aren't you worried that you will be implicated and your promotion will be affected? However, even if you are unfamiliar, you don't have to hit a person when he is down.