The drama "Our Distance from Evil", which was broadcast on March 20 19, is very deep and depicts social problems, media chaos, human role, life pressure and so on. Let the public feel the same through an exclusive role.
In the play, many couples and their families tend to relate stories. Judging from the performance of the actors, in addition to superb acting skills, the difficulties faced by every couple in life are bloody in front of us, and thought-provoking moments and bridges are like shocking bombs hitting our hearts.
1. Song/Liu Zhaoguo: Is incompatibility really unsolvable?
In the play, Qiao Song An and Liu Zhaoguo have some wrong ideas about each other's work. They became strangers after losing their children. Every communication, whether about family or work, always ends in a hot end, and the situation is getting worse and worse, even with the intention of divorce.
Do we really have to give up the other half whose values are different from our own? After the couple decided to go to marriage counseling for their daughter, the counselor told Liu Zhaoguo: "Even if only one person changes, there is still a chance to change the status quo. This sentence should prove the truth of "one ring buckles one ring". When you make a request and complain that the other half is unable to communicate, unreasonable and opinionated, instead of taking the time to convince him, it is better to change yourself in another way, even if it is a hard iceberg, it will slowly melt.
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2. Song Qiaoping/Lin Yijun: Can the project be safe if something goes wrong?
One is a psychologist and the other is a hospital social worker. When they sang together, Lin Yijun and Song Qiaoping were immortal companions in everyone's eyes, insisting on not having children and living a "guest of honor" life without burden.
However, all this began to be chaotic after Song Qiaoping became pregnant. Everyone has his own blueprint for the future, but even if it is already planned, any "trouble" can disrupt all your plans; In the face of problems, the two sides may have different ideas, and it is necessary to re-communicate and measure.
In fact, life is full of many "uncertainties". What is important is how to sum up the "most suitable for the status quo" lifestyle in every change, and adjust your mentality to have the strength to accept the challenge.
3. Ding Meimei/Wang Snake: How much can you sacrifice for your family?
After entering marriage and having children, you need to sacrifice yourself more or less to achieve a balance between family and life. Whether it is to give up the ideal forgiveness in order to protect the family, or Ding Meimei who wants her husband to work with peace of mind and hide her fears, she is forbearing for the other half and thinks this is the best way.
However, how long can you persist? Is it really a good thing to abandon yourself completely? Is it a good way of education for children? To some extent, marriage does need to choose between self and life, but it will definitely be implemented after two people reach an understanding. The problems faced by Ding Meimei and Wang She symbolize the plight of all couples who enter the marriage hall, get married and have children, which is a subject worth pondering.
4. Ying April/Kai Zi Brothers: Is marriage a matter for two families?
Preparing for marriage is a tedious process. Newcomers must constantly act as a "bridge of communication", gather the opinions of the two families in the process of running back and forth, and confirm the way acceptable to both sides. However, Ying Siyue in the play turns red with her engaged boyfriend brother Kai Zi because her brother suddenly feels dull.
Both Ying Da, who is eager to love her daughter and wants her daughter to give up taking care of her younger brother, and Ma, who seriously asks her son and prospective daughter-in-law to have a premarital health check-up, have good intentions, but invisibly put pressure on them, gradually unable to agree with each other and began to doubt the meaning of marriage. There is no denying that marriage is really a matter for two families. No matter now or even in the future, some problems are always unsolved. Let's go back to the original point of view: "Only when we get to know each other, we won't have many problems when we get married!" 」
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5. Lin/Li Gongkui: Can you support each other after the storm?
In this play, what moved me most was the parents of the innocent murderer Li Xiaoming. Mother Li said: "No one wants to spend 20 years raising a murderer! Let countless viewers in front of the TV be extremely worried.
From the moment the son's hands were covered with blood, the couple's life lost its calm, and they lived in a dilemma of self-blame and mutual accusation, blaming each other and themselves for not educating their children well. However, under the repeated attacks from the outside world, they let each other slowly accept the fact, and their daughter acted as a lubricant, which gave the couple a glimmer of light in their frozen feelings and bravely faced the test of life and society together again.
Of course, such a serious incident may not happen in our real life. But what we have to think about is, after five years, 10 years, or even 20 years, can he still support you?
In this chaotic society, the existence of the other half is like a safe haven in the rapids. Occasionally, we will be exposed to the wind and rain with the rapids, and after many twists and turns, we will finally return to each other's berths. With more communication, more care and more love, we can find the balance between love and reality!
Women's studies are authorized to reprint the original source. Marriage is the grave of love? From the five senses in The Distance Between Us and Evil, this paper examines the balance between love and reality.