First, the family environment. Children's scheming is generally caused by family environment. For example, one of my classmates is precocious, and she thinks ahead of others' expectations. How? After a long time, she has fewer friends. I asked her why she was so sensitive to others and especially cared about their words and deeds. She told me that she grew up in the countryside, and there was no internet at home, and she walked into the big city step by step. She learned wine table manners, and she learned to read and read.
Secondly, very young children are directly related to their parents' education. Parents are the first teachers of the children. Parents' words and deeds are remembered by their children, and they unconsciously learn the ability to look at people and talk. Children are scheming since childhood, almost all of which are related to their parents' education.
Finally, the child has a heart and does not rule out the growth of the surrounding environment. Maybe both parents are businessmen, and the people they come into contact with all have social backgrounds, so the environment in which children grow up will also lead to children with brains.
Children are not advised to be scheming. The scheming will really be too smart and sensitive. Relatively speaking, friends are birds of a feather flock together, which is not good for their growth. Of course, if the circle they contact can make them grow up healthily, this scheming child. When I grow up, I will do something different.
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I think some children are scheming since childhood, which should have something to do with education and themselves. Why? Because when it comes to inspiration, children are more obviously inspired by education and are more easily inspired. Children's memory is much better than that of adults. Therefore, it is best to start with children's basic education and become a useful pillar. Children are childlike, unlike adults, and may have too many distractions. Therefore, some children can concentrate on what they are interested in, and they will be particularly focused after being inspired. Take the simplest example, learning English. If a child learns English with an English teacher from an early age, it is absolutely easy for the child to learn English, and it is natural for the child to learn English with a strong childlike memory. Besides, when children become adults, it will certainly be difficult to learn English. Of course, I can't say adults can't learn English. I mean, it is relatively difficult for adults to learn English. This is an indisputable fact. And I said that some children have scheming since childhood, which is related to themselves, because it is not difficult to find that there are many geniuses in reality. Otherwise, this child is really a child prodigy, so I think it is necessary to specifically say why some children are scheming since childhood, which has something to do with education and themselves. Please forgive me for answering my personal views above! thank you
Mainly related to the family environment.
If you need to meet the needs of children from an early age, you will become more and more scheming.
If there is a "crisis", it will be easier to have a "heart".
For example, the second child in the second child is often more scheming than the boss.
For a long time, the second child has no strength advantage, and he often can't beat the boss if he wants to fight for what he likes, so he can only "outsmart" to survive.
On the other hand, "scheming" is embodied in dealing with interpersonal relationships. When the second child is born, it is necessary to deal with the relationship with the "boss", and naturally it is necessary to deal with this interpersonal relationship. If you want to win or survive in this relationship, you will work hard and you will have more ideas in the process of trying to solve it.
On the contrary, if you are the boss, or the family atmosphere is relaxed, parents are unconditionally loving and satisfied with their children when they are young. If the child has no sense of crisis, he will focus on his inner growth and develop his ability at this stage.
What people need most in communication is sincere treatment. But there are always some people who like to treat others as fools and show their scheming everywhere in life. He thinks he is clever, but he is. No one is a fool. As we all know, we don't say anything when we read it. Adults' scheming is not terrible. The terrible thing is that children have scheming since childhood. So how are these scheming children formed?
First of all, children themselves love to be clever. The little girl next door, who is only 5 years old, is very scheming and always plays tricks. Once she came to my house to play and took a fancy to my son's big gun. She kept telling my son, give me the gun, or I won't play with you. My son doesn't want to.
Later, when her son left her alone, she was ready to sneak home with a gun. I found it. I said, why do you have a gun? She said my son had to give it to her. But I asked my son, and he said that this gun was newly bought and I haven't played enough. How can he give it to her? I'm really touched! So small, so scheming, how to grow up?
Secondly, the reason why parents' views are incorrect. There is an old lady in her eighties in our street. Her son works outside the home all the year round, and her daughter-in-law is particularly scheming. Pretend to be filial when there are guests at home, feed the elderly and help them clean up their rooms. But I usually play mahjong outside, don't go back to cook for the elderly all day, and often yell at the elderly. Neighbors know the situation. Therefore, her children have been dumbfounded since childhood, and they are as scheming as she is.
Third, influenced by the people around you. For example, relatives or friends at home often love to lie and play tricks. Children will naturally learn from adults, that is, they don't know right or wrong, but they will unconsciously imitate adults' behavior.
Touch asphalt and you will be defiled. Always playing tricks and shaking your head is like lying. After a long time, it will be revealed one day. If you lose everyone's trust, you will lose the watermelon after picking sesame seeds.
It is directly related to family education.
First of all, a child is born with a blank sheet of paper. 0~6 years old is a critical period for children's character growth. Relatives and family atmosphere that accompany children to grow up play a vital role in children. What kind of person do you want your children to be, what kind of people are your family and parents who accompany your children to grow up?
Second, all the problems in the child's growth process are not his own problems, but those brought to him by his growing parents. Therefore, let children grow up to be honest, grateful, lively, cheerful and full of positive energy. Parents or relatives who accompany their children to grow up play a vital role.
I think it's my problem. Take myself for example, the boss is honest and intelligent by nature. He started to play by himself from some small things, such as when adults are busy. Nobody taught him this. Every time an adult is busy, he is fine. The second child is different. Whether you are busy or not, you only judge whether he is happy or not. As long as he is unhappy, even if the adults are busy, he will always make trouble. It has been taught many times, and it is useless to teach. So I think this has a lot to do with children's natural personality, and education accounts for a small part!
It has a lot to do with family environment and parental rearing patterns. Parents are good at dealing with people, and they are influenced by opportunities. Children learn from what they see and do, so they will learn to use their brains regardless of their age.
A relative's child is the same age as my son, and I'm afraid he's too careful. This is how he was brought up since he was a child. My son is very simple and naive. As long as he is with my son, the child always has the upper hand, giving him all the good ones, which is particularly overbearing, so I will tell my son privately to stay away from him as much as possible and not to believe what he says.
Children have plans since childhood? Teacher Qingfeng can tell you for sure that children are definitely not born with scheming, not their own problems, but environmental problems! Don't run away when you get the answer. Won't you listen to me and tell me why?
1. What is the child's nature? I believe there is a famous saying in Saint Amethyst that everyone has heard: "At the beginning of life, human nature is good", which is the good theory of human nature advocated by Mencius, a great ancient thinker, and the evil theory of human nature advocated by Xunzi. In these two thoughts, Mencius' goodness of human nature is universally acknowledged. The child was born with a blank sheet of paper. Where is good and evil? Where is black and white? If we really have natural self-knowledge, what else do we need parents and teachers to do?
Aren't there so-called travelers in many novels and TV plays? Even if there are travelers, there are one or two. If everyone is a traveler, those worlds will not be chaotic. Moreover, the so-called passerby is only the imagination of others, and there is no real case.
According to the research of child psychology, a child is born blank. Frankly speaking, he is an idiot and his brain is not fully developed, so the essence of the child is blank and pure!
Second, how can I make my children have brains? 1. The strongest Juexue of mankind
Let's think about the biggest difference between people and animals. The biggest difference is that human brains are developed and their intelligence is higher than that of animals. That's because we are studying! It is no exaggeration to say that people learn from birth, how to speak, how to eat, how to walk, how to quarrel, how to learn ... The technical term used in child development psychology is-acquisition! Learning to be yourself is learning! Your child becomes scheming because he learned it by observing and learning things around him when he was growing up, not because the child is a scheming boy!
2. Bad example of parents
Parents are their children's first teachers, and almost all the children they teach are the same, because children are imitating the people they see from the moment they open their eyes. The pediatrician said, "The height of parents determines the height of children." There is also a famous saying called "fish begins to stink at the head", which refers to the exemplary role of parents.
Children imitate adults, which is my personal experience. When I was chatting with my three-year-old child, I found that he was deliberately imitating my tone and my speaking habits. For example, I like to say "my own mother", and he imitates me to say this sentence, scaring me to correct it quickly.
Children are a mirror of adults, imitating us all the time. Children brought out by abusive parents must be "clean", and children brought out by parents who like to touch their hands must be "kung fu". How simple can a child brought out by a black-bellied parent be?
I find that my children are very scheming, so why not see if they have been trying to "block"? Hee hee.
The acquired environment plays a vital role.
People have the instinct to learn, and the acquired environment is the content of people's learning, so what a child learns is closely related to the environment in which he lived since childhood. The best proof is the wolf child incident in India. 1920, 19 In September, two girls fed by wolves were found in the jungle about 1000 km west of Kolkata, India. The oldest is estimated to be eight years old, and the youngest is one and a half years old. They were probably taken away by wolves six months after birth. When people found them, they were like wolves, and there was no sign of anyone. Finally, until his death, the wolf boy didn't learn to speak. He was never a normal person! There is no doubt that human growth is closely related to the acquired environment.
Why are children who grow up in rural areas so different from those who grow up in cities? The simplest answer is the environment. From small to large, the environment is different.
Compare the story of "Three Major Movements" in Meng Mu. If you don't know, please comment. Let me add that this also shows the importance of the environment! So when you find that your child has become a little scheming, take a closer look at what the child's growth environment is like. Are all the people around you used to playing business?
Third, it must be a bad thing for children to become scheming? Teacher Qingfeng believes that it is not necessarily a bad thing for children to become scheming. As long as it is well guided, I believe it is beneficial to children. After all, in a certain society, what kind of person would you like to be, honest, upright and flexible?
This is a derogatory term, and in a commendatory term, it is smart! A talented person shows that he is a brainiac! Smart is not necessarily a bad thing. Smart people at least won't be too bad to themselves! Go away, that is, benefit others, go astray, that is, harm others and harm yourself, so we must guide our children's three views!
Discussion: Do you think thinking is necessarily bad? Comment, give your opinion!
Everyone is different. Children's environment, education given by parents, subtle influence on children, children's own personality, observation and imitation will cause thousands of people. Think about yourself. Are you different from the people around you?
Therefore, some people are born with leadership temperament, and some children are good at obedience. There is no need to force why.