The girl said, "If I wasn't pregnant, my boyfriend wouldn't marry me!" " It can be seen that the man is highly supportive of his mother's behavior. He didn't leave himself alone, and he didn't protect his girlfriend from the standpoint of his boyfriend. Instead, they indulge their mothers in bullying each other.
This girl is not an ignorant girl. She has a master's degree and her family is from other places. Marrying a boyfriend's family is a distant marriage. Even so, she was blocked by her mother-in-law. Only when she gave birth to a son can she enter this family.
In the past, boys were preferred to girls, and some girls might not even be able to go to school. Now that there are better living conditions, the concept of son preference has been improved. Especially in the 1980s, many families even had only one girl, and many parents began to pay attention to the cultivation of girls. There is only one child, whether it is a boy or a girl, and parents are trying their best to cultivate it.
Some men, perhaps excellent individuals and successful careers, are always in an "unclear" state, which not only hurts the feelings of husband and wife, but also ruins the marriage.
In fact, a truly mature man, when facing his wife and mother, will be very clear in his heart, knowing that his parents' nurturing grace must be reported, but his wife is also his partner in future life and must not be ignored.
Smart men know how to honor their parents and take care of their wives. In the face of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he always has a wife in his heart. Everything will stand in her perspective, take care of her feelings and try to solve the problem for her.
Only when a man has this mature mentality and understands that his wife needs to be maintained by himself can he play a role in regulating the contradiction between his mother-in-law and his daughter-in-law, and when problems arise, he can find ways to solve them with the best of both worlds, so that his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can live in harmony.