2. temperament is the key. If you can't learn fashion, you'd rather be simple.
3. When shaking hands with people, you can shake hands for a while. Sincerity is a kind of wealth.
You don't have to use "I" as the subject.
5. Don't borrow money from friends.
6. Don't "force" guests to look at your family photo album.
7. When you fight with someone, please sit next to the driver.
8. Insist on saying good things about others behind their backs, and don't worry that such good things won't reach the ears of the parties.
9. When someone speaks ill of someone in front of you, you just smile.
10, drive your own car and don't stop to say hello to your colleagues who ride bicycles. People will think you are showing off.
1 1. Visit your colleague when he is ill. Sit naturally in his hospital bed and wash your hands carefully when you get home.
12, don't let everyone know the past.
13, respect people who don't like you.
14, for things, not people; Or be ruthless about things and have feelings for people; Or do first and do second.
15, self-criticism always makes people believe, but self-praise is not.
Nothing can improve your bowling performance like a bystander. So, don't be stingy with your cheers.
17, don't take others' kindness for granted. You know, gratitude.
18, the "myna" under the banyan tree is talking, just talking but not listening, and the result is a mess. Learn to listen.
19, respect the master in the reception room and the cleaning aunt.
Remember that when you speak, you always start with "we".
2 1, clap for everyone who sings on stage.
22. Sometimes you should know perfectly well that your diamond ring is expensive! Sometimes, even if you want to ask, you can't ask, for example, how old are you?
23. If you talk too much, you lose. There are many people, so you talk less.
24. change the unspoken "no" into "it will take time", "I'll try my best", "I'm not sure" and "I'll call you when I decide" ...
25. Don't expect everyone to like you. It's impossible. Making most people like you is a sign of success.
26. Of course, you should like yourself.
27. If you are performing or giving a speech, if only one person is listening, you should continue with your heart, even if no one is cheering, because this is the road and cradle of your success. You should not watch others succeed, but hope you succeed.
28. If you see a post that is still worth reading, you must reply, because your reply will give people the courage to move on and give people great encouragement. At the same time, people will appreciate you.
Question 2: How to get on well with classmates? First of all, the first question: how to deal with the increasingly troublesome interpersonal problems. The so-called interpersonal communication is a process in which people contact each other in a certain way, thus influencing each other psychologically and behaviorally. The psychological relationship formed between people on the basis of communication is called interpersonal relationship. There are three main types of interpersonal communication objects for middle school students: friends and classmates, teachers and parents.
The characteristics of interpersonal communication among middle school students in China are as follows:
Friendship occupies a very important and special position. Friendship between friends is friendship, which is an emotional relationship based on the consistency and mutual attachment of ideals, interests and hobbies. On the surface, parents have the highest degree of emotional attachment to their children, while friends are in a relatively secondary position. With the growth of age, this emotional attachment gradually changed from parents to friends, and it was increasingly confirmed and strengthened. Research shows that most people think they make friends in middle school at most.
2. The phenomenon of small groups is prominent. Because of the accessibility in space, the same age and the same character, most middle school students join informal small groups. These small groups are generally composed of 39 people, and their members have high loyalty to each other and are also very binding in behavior.
3. The teacher-student relationship has been weakened. You no longer regard the teacher as the supreme authority like a primary school student. They have a new understanding and higher requirements for teachers and a clearer view of what kind of teachers they like.
4. It's easy to alienate parents. Many middle school students find it difficult to communicate with their parents. They would rather chat with their friends than their parents. No matter in values, ways of making friends, living habits, or even dressing, it is easy to have friction with parents, which constantly aggravates the psychological barrier between parents.
In short, because of the obvious enhancement of self-awareness, independent desire and self-esteem, middle school students are eager for interpersonal communication, and at the same time, they are prone to psychological obstacles such as atresia, defense, inferiority and arrogance, which should be overcome.
So we know what our problem is and how do we communicate with people? Who is more popular?
According to psychologists' research, people's communication forms in groups can be divided into several types: (1) Small groups refer to two or three or four or five students who are close, like-minded and exclusive, that is, other students are not welcome to participate and are not close to each other. (2) The popular type is the most popular person in the class; (3) The disliked type is the least popular person in the class; (4) The leader refers to the students who emerge naturally in certain activities and can be responsible for leading these activities. Lonely people are people who seldom associate with others, and also people who seldom associate with others. 6. Those who reject each other refer to classmates who are hostile to or discriminate against each other.
The popularity type is the star in the class, which is enviable. They have a harmonious interpersonal relationship in the class and are valued and praised by everyone, so they have a high sense of security and self-confidence. It should be said that every student wants to have a good interpersonal relationship, that is, "good popularity", but many students have misunderstandings about this. For example, some people think that popularity is to pull relationships, some people regard it as loyalty, some people think it is to please and tell, and so on. In fact, research shows that popular students are popular with their classmates because they have popular personality traits:
1. Respect others, care for others, treat others equally and be compassionate;
2. Enthusiastic in class activities, very reliable and responsible for work;
3. Be sincere and helpful;
4. Pay attention to your independence and modesty;
5. Have various hobbies;
6. Have an aesthetic vision and a sense of humor;
7. Have a touching appearance.
It can be seen that popularity is not a deliberate pursuit, but a reward for a person's excellent personality quality.
Students who want to have a good relationship may wish to make a fuss about strengthening personal cultivation.
This is a problem that students should pay attention to in interpersonal communication. Here is how to communicate with the teacher. After all, schools are made up of teachers and students. Teachers always participate in our study, and how we get along with teachers directly affects our study and campus life.
Most students have this experience: which teacher they have a harmonious relationship with, which course they like and which course they get good grades; If you don't have a harmonious relationship with any teacher, it will also hurt that course, which is probably a manifestation of loving me, loving my dog. Students spend most of their time in school, so it is inevitable to associate with teachers. How do students interact with teachers? ...& gt& gt
Question 3: How to improve the relationship with classmates? 15 people have shortcomings. Even if you do well, some people will gossip, because others will say that you can't control it. Don't care too much, you will be very tired, just be yourself, you can't cater to everyone.
Question 4: How to improve the relationship between classmates? Learn to get along well with classmates.
Everyone wants to get along well with others and have good interpersonal relationships. In college life, interpersonal relationship has always been an important factor affecting one's mental health and the quality of campus life. Then, how can we get along well with people on the university campus, have a good memory that will never be forgotten, and make full preparations for the future society? We might as well start from the following aspects:
(1) We should fully understand the characteristics of interpersonal relationships on campus.
From the day I became a college student, the objects and characteristics of getting along with people have undergone fundamental changes. Before middle school, the objects and meanings we got along with were narrow, just an extension of friendship or intimate relationship. In addition, the interpersonal relationship at that time was relatively simple. For example, we can only associate with people we like, and people who don't like or don't want to associate can ignore him. However, once we become college students and live in dormitories on campus, we can no longer associate with others only by our personal likes and dislikes. For every member of the collective, whether we like it or not, we have to face it every day and get along with it. Therefore, we should not only associate with people we like, but also keep friendly relations with people we don't like. This is a prominent feature of campus interpersonal relationship. In addition, in college life, the new feature of interpersonal relationship is that you can't only ask others by your own standards, but also realize that your behavior and lifestyle may be accepted and rejected by others. Therefore, when there is conflict or disharmony between the two, we should not only blame and blame each other, but also understand and adapt to each other. In other words, college students must gradually get rid of the self-centered way of thinking, gradually learn to put themselves in others' shoes, and on this basis, establish independent and coordinated new interpersonal relationships.
(2) Pay attention to the cultivation of one's own personality and ability.
I often hear a classmate say: that person has a good personality, knows a lot and likes to communicate with him. Indeed, a person with good quality and ability or a special skill is more likely to be loved by people. People appreciate his character and talent, so they are willing to be close to him and become friends. Therefore, if you want to enhance interpersonal attraction and get along with people in a more friendly and harmonious way, you must fully enhance your personality, display your talents, show your specialties, and constantly improve your personality, ability and talent. People like sincere, warm and friendly people.
People hate people who are hypocritical, selfish and cold. Generally speaking, the highest evaluation of personality quality is sincerity, and the lowest evaluation is hypocrisy. When choosing friends among college students in China, the first consideration is personality quality, and they are willing to associate with mature, enthusiastic, frank, positive and responsible people. In addition, interpersonal communication is always characterized by emotional reactions such as mutual satisfaction or dissatisfaction, like or dislike. To have a good interpersonal relationship, we must pay attention to our feelings. Generally speaking, people always like people who like themselves and have a good impression on people who really evaluate themselves. Once you get someone's appreciation, love and praise, your self-esteem will be satisfied because of your praise, which will lead to psychological closeness and affection for this person, thus reducing mutual friction and interpersonal conflict, achieving emotional harmony and providing psychological conditions for good interpersonal communication. Praise others sincerely, and in turn others will have a good impression on you. Some people often pay too much attention to themselves and can't find the value of others. If you can observe carefully and pay more attention to others, you will find that everyone has something worthy of praise. Affirming and praising the advantages of others will bring benefits to yourself.
(3) Be broad-minded, learn to observe each other's psychology and be honest with each other.
Our society is a pluralistic society, and the relationship between people is becoming more and more complicated. The complexity of society leads to the richness of personality, which inevitably leads to the intensification of contradictions among individuals. To maintain good interpersonal relationships with people around you, we must learn to seek common ground while reserving differences and have a generous and open-minded psychological quality. We must be considerate of others and be honest with each other.
In life, we have misunderstandings with our classmates who live together day and night. When we are treated unfairly and not accepted by others, you will be anxious and irritable, which will definitely affect your study, life and social relations. What are we going to do, make a scene? Why don't you just break up These are not the best ways, they can only put themselves at a disadvantage in communication and affect future communication. On the contrary, if we are magnanimous and open-minded, we may be more calm. >>
Question 5: How to improve the relationship between classmates? First of all, when chatting with a classmate, talk about the topic he is interested in, not the topic you are interested in.
Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. This is an allusion. This allusion means that if you can't do something yourself, don't let others do it, or if you can't do it yourself, you are not qualified to ask others to do it. The same is true for classmates. Students who can't do it themselves don't let them do it, just grasp a scale.
Helpful, tolerant, understanding, empathetic, let nature take its course.
Question 6: How to improve the relationship between classmates and roommates? Sincere and easygoing.
The most important thing between classmates is sincerity. It is inevitable that students get along with each other every day. When one classmate complains about another in front of you, what you can do is to be a good listener. Don't comment on anything because of personal preference, and don't publicize anything after listening. Students will always feel your sincerity.
First of all, maintaining a friendly, cordial and understanding relationship with classmates is the greatest help to create an external environment conducive to concentrated study. Everyone spent most of his time in school with teachers and classmates, and his contact with classmates extended from campus to the outside. Every student will inevitably get along with his classmates in class, between classes, on the way to and from school, at home or in the dormitory.
Maintaining friendly relations with classmates can facilitate the exchange of doubts and help each other at any time. Getting inspiration from classmates is a trick in learning. Especially the students with good academic performance, most of them have their own thinking advantages, and mutual communication is conducive to mutual learning and common progress.
In addition to helping students study, maintaining good relations with classmates is also an important part of students' school life. There is a simple reason. Learning is obviously not the whole life of students. From primary school to middle school, even to college for more than ten years, most of one's first experiences in life are spent in simple and beautiful schools. Among them, the communication between classmates brings people not only knowledge growth, but also unforgettable friendship. The friendship between classmates often becomes an unforgettable memory in a person's life.
From getting along with classmates, every student is learning how to get along with others, especially with peers. This problem is particularly meaningful in China, because most children in China are only children. Nowadays, most of the students are only children at home, and they are spoiled by their parents and relatives. At school, only children get along with each other in close and friction communication, and learn how to get along with their peers. The school is also a small society, and its performance in school is the exercise and simulation of entering the society in the future.
Through communication with classmates, these only children can learn interpersonal skills and gradually cultivate personality qualities such as love, sincerity and tolerance. Especially for the only child now, tolerance is particularly important. When the only child gets along with his classmates at school, he should learn that tolerance between people is the most precious quality. Tolerance is by no means cowardice, but a manifestation of self-confidence.
In school life, communication with classmates affects the plasticity of a person's personality. If you have a friend who understands each other, you can help each other in their spiritual growth. With the rapid development of society, many people say that children are so precocious that parents can't understand their ideas. At this time, peers can understand each other better, and it is easier for students to open their hearts and talk to each other. Therefore, making friends with good conduct is helpful to people's growth, but it is very dangerous to associate with children who are infected with bad habits.
Having a good relationship with classmates does not mean that students should put a lot of energy into maintaining classmates' relationship and interpersonal communication, nor does it mean that they must be good friends with everyone. A good relationship with classmates means keeping a good attitude towards each other and having a few good friends. There is no need to spend a lot of energy deliberately, and the communication between classmates has long been popular. As long as you have a correct attitude, you will certainly maintain a good relationship with your classmates.
The student era is not only an important stage for a person to master knowledge, but also a shaping period for a person's personality and psychological development. In primary schools, middle schools and universities, every student lives in a group of classmates, and their academic and physical and mental development are influenced by classmates' communication. In order to live a happy and full campus life, it is necessary for every student to have a good relationship with his classmates while studying hard.
Question 7: How to improve the relationship between junior high school students? First of all, you should have the spirit of helping others and help others when they need help. Secondly, you should be open-minded and understand others. Finally, your humor is 1 Strengthening good communication between students depends on mutual understanding. To get to know each other, we must strengthen communication, strengthen exchanges in thoughts and attitudes, and participate in more social activities in our spare time, such as playing ball games, playing chess, going out for an outing, etc. To enhance understanding and friendship. Caring for others is a basic need. The more you care about others, the more she needs you. Naturally, she will turn to care about you. Once you care about each other, the relationship between classmates will naturally become close. 3. Tolerate others "no one is perfect". Anyone will always have shortcomings and do something wrong. These are normal and inevitable. You can be tolerant of other people's shortcomings and mistakes, don't care, others will be very grateful and willing to communicate with you. 4. Improve the tense relationship between self and classmates. Most of them have some problems in personality and habits. They should deliberately change their bad personality and habits and try their best to: 1) keep their clothes clean and beautiful. 2) Get used to smiling. 3) Pay attention to your manners. 4) Don't show off. 5) Help others more. 6) Be good at praising others. If everyone is keen on praising others and is good at praising others' strengths in interpersonal communication, the degree of interpersonal pleasure will be greatly enhanced. At the same time, paying attention to praising others does not mean that you can have no scruples. Two principles should be observed: first, praise should be sincere, and the content of praise should be the excellent qualities and characteristics that the other party really has or will have; Second, the content of praise should be taken care of by the other party. 5. Keep a proper distance. Sometimes we are too kind to a person, but she is ungrateful and stays away from us. There are two reasons: first, according to the level of mutual compensation, your concern has been rewarded by others. When she feels that her ability can't repay your concern, she has to take measures to keep the balance of interpersonal relationship by not accepting your concern and alienating you. Secondly, everyone has his own space in his heart, only he has it. No matter how good a friend is, if she doesn't want you to enter and can't refuse, she'll have to stay away from you. Therefore, people should keep a proper distance from each other, leave a little space for each other's hearts, and let each other feel free before they are willing to continue to communicate. Do a good job in the above aspects, I believe you will handle the relationship with your classmates.
Question 8: How to improve the relationship between classmates? 1. Remember everyone's name, you can remember their names when you see them, and you can remember their faces when you see their names.
2. Boys should not be like Xiao Shenyang, and girls should not be like Zheng.
If you are a boy, you should say more funny words when you are with girls, that is, humorous words. Try not to be too loud. Pay attention to your behavior when you are with boys. Swearing is necessary in this era, otherwise boys will look down on you because you pretend to be a scholar. What boys hate most is literati. Such people can only mix with girls, so say some dirty words moderately, not too much, or others will say you are too uncivilized.
If you are a girl, don't show off with her, don't say what you have, say that you have nothing. If you see that your partner is a little different, such as wearing makeup, you should say that today is really beautiful. Don't be too crazy, otherwise you can't mix with those weak girls, you are not familiar with modern girls with average temper, and you can be a girl with average temper if you are familiar with those gangsters. Try to be as open as possible when you are with boys, don't care about the differences between men and women, don't talk about some private things, and be careful not to be too close, otherwise others will misunderstand.
You must study hard, at least in the top twenty in your class, or you will be looked down upon.
6. When students need to borrow something, help them in time if they lose something. You should also say thank you and appreciate others' help.
7. Don't think that you are the first and the boss, which will be rejected by all your classmates.
When students get together, they are divided into many kinds of people. If you are familiar with every kind of people, it is best to have acquaintances, that is, good friends.
9. Don't be too arrogant. Don't make statements that are contrary to textbooks and popular ideas. You can go in different directions, but never the other way around.
10. Seize one thing to render yourself and let all the students know that I did it. This is to achieve the effect of hype and let all the students remember you. Of course, this kind of thing is definitely good. If you say that the classroom has been burned down, that's too bad. That kind of memory of you is regret and anger.
These ten items are introductory. I usually summarize it. Ask me if you are interested.
Question 9: How to get on well with classmates and friends? 1 Don't blame others too much. No matter what a person has done wrong, 99% will not blame himself, no matter how serious his mistake is.
Criticism is useless, it can only make people take the defensive and often try their best to defend their mistakes. Criticism is dangerous, because it often hurts a person's precious self-esteem, his sense of self-esteem, and causes his disgust.
Sincerely appreciate others. Dr. Dewey said: the deepest impulse in human nature is the sense of importance. When those millionaires sponsored General Bayer's expedition to the South Pole, they attached a condition that the iceberg should be named after them, and Hugo even hoped to change Paris to his name.
3 meet each other's needs. People often ask CSI? George, why is he still in power when other people who became leaders in the war, such as Wilson and Orlando Clemenza, are gradually forgotten by the world? He will answer, if he has any secrets in strength and skill, it may be because he has long understood a truth: if you want to catch fish, the bait must suit the taste of the fish!
Question 10: How to improve the relationship between classmates? Analysis of Dealing with Classmate Relations with about 500 words
Nowadays, the vast majority of students are only children, and they are always self-centered in their families, and rarely take care of others, let alone care for, help and tolerate others. When these only children meet, they all know that thinking from their own perspective will naturally lead to contradictions. In addition, some parents love their children too much, and when they have conflicts with other children, adults always come forward to solve them, ignoring their children's experience in dealing with conflicts. Make children lack the experience of communicating with peers and dealing with contradictions from an early age. Classmate relationship is also a kind of interpersonal relationship. Dormitories, classes and schools are a small society. If you learn to get along well with your classmates in this small group, you will be good at dealing with all kinds of complicated interpersonal relationships, adapting to society and influencing society in the future.
According to the research of interpersonal psychology, the main factors affecting interpersonal relationships are:
1, communication level There is a close relationship between people, and mutual communication is an essential prerequisite.
2. The level of mutual return Psychologists point out that the behavior between people has "mutual return", that is, "I will do what you do to me." The "reward" here includes not only material aspects, but also psychological aspects such as emotions. When people get along with each other, the higher the level of mutual compensation, the more stable and intimate the relationship. I'm afraid it's also an important reason why some students can't handle the relationship with other students well and their mutual rewards are low. Show indifference to the needs and difficulties of your classmates, which makes people feel that you are indifferent.
Generally speaking, the evaluation level is what you think of others and what you are asked to think of you. The level of evaluation mainly lies not in how many good things you say about others, but in whether the evaluation is sincere and realistic.
4. Tolerance level The physiological and psychological differences between people exist objectively, and whether this difference can be tolerated is also a manifestation of interpersonal coordination. The higher the level of tolerance, the greater the adaptability of getting along with others and the better the interpersonal relationship, and vice versa.
Second, the solution
1, strengthening good communication between students depends on mutual understanding. To understand each other, we should strengthen communication, exchange ideas and attitudes, and take part in some social activities in our spare time, such as playing ball games, playing chess, going out for an outing, etc. To enhance understanding and friendship.
Caring for others is a basic need. The more you care about others, the more she needs you. Naturally, she will turn to care about you. Once you care about each other, the relationship between classmates will naturally become close.
3. Tolerate others "no one is perfect". Anyone will always have shortcomings and do something wrong. These are normal and inevitable. You can be tolerant of other people's shortcomings and mistakes, don't care, others will be very grateful and willing to communicate with you.
4. Improve the tense relationship between self and classmates. Most of them have some problems in personality and habits. They should deliberately change their bad personality and habits and try their best to: 1) keep their clothes clean and beautiful. 2) Get used to smiling. 3) Pay attention to your manners. 4) Don't show off. 5) Help others more. 6) Be good at praising others. If everyone is keen on praising others and is good at praising others' strengths in interpersonal communication, the degree of interpersonal pleasure will be greatly enhanced. At the same time, paying attention to praising others does not mean that you can have no scruples. Two principles should be observed: first, praise should be sincere, and the content of praise should be the excellent qualities and characteristics that the other party really has or will have; Second, the content of praise should be taken care of by the other party.
5. Keep a proper distance. Sometimes we are too kind to a person, but she is ungrateful and stays away from us. There are two reasons: first, according to the level of mutual compensation, your concern has been rewarded by others. When she feels that her ability can't repay your concern, she has to take measures to keep the balance of interpersonal relationship by not accepting your concern and alienating you. Secondly, everyone has his own space in his heart, only he has it. No matter how good a friend is, if she doesn't want you to enter and can't refuse, she'll have to stay away from you. Therefore, people should keep a proper distance from each other, leave a little space for each other's hearts, and let each other feel free before they are willing to continue to communicate. Do a good job in the above aspects, and I believe you will also handle the relationship with your classmates. ...& gt& gt