When my daughter was in junior high school, she failed math for a while. After I found a one-on-one teacher to make up the lessons, my daughter was not only in math, but also in other grades. From a dozen in the class to the top five in the school. Later, my daughter was successfully admitted to a key high school: No.7 Middle School Wanda School (the first session).
On July 20 14, my daughter was successfully admitted to 985 University: Sichuan University.
In August of 20021year, my daughter successfully found a job in Hangzhou.
So, how did I raise my daughter so well? It's really hard to say a word or two. So I found the logs of those years from my QQ space. I'll call it parenting classics. Maybe you can find something from these odds and ends.
My parenting experience
June 20, 2009: Children's Progress
Recently, my daughter has worked hard, and Hui and I are very pleased.
It is said that the head teacher said that if you make great progress in the final exam and have a certain ranking in the whole grade, you can avoid holiday homework. All the students in my daughter's class are trying to get rid of their holiday homework. Although the purpose of study is not very clear, as parents, we still feel some comfort to see our daughter studying exercises seriously at night, especially the math problems that she has a headache.
Watching her daughter grow up day by day, she began to become sensible. Who is unhappy as a parent? It's good to have progress!
2009-7-3: The Trouble of Mathematics
My first-grade daughter failed in the math exam again.
Every mid-term exam, it's ok, 150 points can be tested 100 points. Don't blame us for asking too little of our daughter, mainly because her daughter has never been interested in mathematics. As soon as the final exam arrived, the exam in Chengdu was revealed. The last issue was 1, which was 89. This semester is even worse. I got more than 70 points directly, and there is still a long way to go before I pass.
My daughter's math has become her daughter's trouble, the teacher's trouble, my trouble, her father's trouble and our family's trouble.
I want my daughter to go to cram school, but she won't.
They say we spoil our daughter too much. But there is really no way. Learning is your own business, and others can't help you. If you don't want to learn, it's no use worrying too much about your parents.
How nice it would be if my daughter could take math classes voluntarily and get math grades!
The following is my daughter's reply at the bottom of the diary:
1 comment time: July 25, 2009 12: 42: 35
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Send you four words; Dream On!
Expensive tuition
I came back from a parent-teacher conference at school yesterday, and I was very depressed. It's not just because the children didn't do well in the math exam, but because the math teacher said, "If you only understand the contents of the book and don't add other knowledge, you won't get in the exam at all." Mathematics was originally used to widen the gap. It is impossible to publish only the contents of the book. How else to select talents? "
I originally reported a glimmer of hope to make up books for my children, hoping that my grades will improve next semester.
It seems that I am getting confused. If you want to help children, you can't start.
Parents have no choice but to ask for foreign aid. I went to "Daishido" for consultation at the weekend, saying that my daughter's grades were not suitable for large classes and needed one-on-one counseling, which would be more effective. Daughter, in this case, ten classes can make up for it.
Then sign up for a one-on-one remedial class first. "Pay 880 first" "Pay it." After I emptied my wallet and handed it to 880 yuan, the teacher who collected the money said, "This is the money for four classes, once a day, once for 2 hours, every hour 1 10 yuan. If you think the effect is good, then pay the refund. " I thought it would last ten days, but it took me four days. This is my salary for half a month. It hurts a little, but I'm desperate for my daughter. As long as the daughter's grades improve, money is nothing! Bite your teeth and the light will pass!
When she came home after signing up, her father disagreed. "It's too expensive! This is simply not affordable for our family. "
I said, "I know it's a little expensive, but I have to try it and see if it works for my daughter!" " "The child's father was speechless.
It is because I didn't communicate well with my children at ordinary times and let myself wander for a long time that my daughter has the present result. I have to make up for it. Although it's a little expensive, I'm very happy that my daughter agreed to attend the math tutorial class.
I hope that the teachers in "Mingshitang" are worthy of the name and can help my daughter.
Poverty inherits the wind!
The following is my daughter's reply:
1 floor comment time: July 2009-17 2 1: 59: 09
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Mom, you're pathetic. Don't say you let yourself find me. I'm a little annoyed.
2009-11-12 held a parent-teacher conference for her daughter.
My daughter's study is mainly managed by my mother, so I usually attend every daughter's parent-teacher meeting.
I remember when I was in primary school, I was very satisfied every time I came back from the parent-teacher conference. Because every teacher has a good evaluation of her daughter. My daughter not only studies well, but also has a good personality. She often does some voluntary things for her teachers and classmates, and she is very popular. Is a very popular child in school.
My daughter's personality has not changed since she entered junior high school, and she is still a lively and cheerful child. It's just that there is something wrong with math study. I don't know whether I don't understand it or I don't work hard enough. Mathematics in Grade One has never improved. This has become an annoyance to our whole family.
At the parent-teacher meeting, the teacher always said that her daughter was too eccentric. I hope her parents will discipline her, and maybe her grades will improve. In particular, the class teacher always said that our parents are too low on their children. Without pressure, children have no motivation to learn, so their grades will never go up.
I am an office worker. Every time I give my daughter a parent-teacher meeting, I have to ask for leave. Sometimes just have something important to do at work, let the father of the child hold a parent-teacher meeting.
I remember once coming back from a parent-teacher conference, her father looked ugly and said to me, "Don't look for me in this kind of thing in the future." What a pity! "My daughter's study has not progressed, and I feel very guilty. As a mother, I spend so little time with my daughter that I can't even spare time for a parent-teacher meeting. I don't seem to pay much attention to my daughter's study.
I have always believed that my daughter is not stupid, but there may be problems with her learning methods. What's more, we parents always think that learning is our daughter's own business, and it's useless for us to worry about it as parents. Mainly because our daughter wakes up and can take the initiative to learn, it will be really effective for learning.
During the National Day this year, my daughter played with her primary school classmates (also good friends) several times. When she got home, she said to me, "Mom, I saw my good friend getting better and getting such good grades. I feel that I am far behind them. I can't get along like this anymore. " I heard my daughter's heartfelt awakening, and I saw my heartfelt hope. After the National Day, my daughter signed up for weekend classes in English and math, and went to the bookstore to buy some tutoring materials related to her study. This may be a manifestation of her daughter's active and hard work.
Since my daughter grew up, I always let her choose whether to go to any extra-curricular remedial classes, and her parents never forced her to go to any extra-curricular remedial classes.
Although my daughter is very hard, she goes out early and comes back late every day, and there is not much time left to play on weekends. My daughter didn't complain. Because these are all her own choices.
"No pains, no gains." This is the eternal truth.
165438+1At the beginning of October, my daughter took the mid-term exam in school, and her grades made obvious progress, especially in math, and she actually got the score of 130. I ranked 25th in my math class last month, but this time I ran to 8th. Both Chinese and English are playing normally, but math, which used to be very procrastinating, is on fire this time.
"Tingting, you have a parent-teacher meeting for a long time? It's my turn to participate this time! " Daughter, her father asked her daughter excitedly. This is the first time that a father has asked to attend his daughter's parent-teacher conference. My daughter and I will laugh.
Through this result, my daughter summed up one thing: "You can learn math well through hard work." I hope my daughter will stick to it and continue to work hard! I believe that hard work will bring good results.
20 10-2- 1 About big tickets and small tickets
I remember when I came back from the parent-teacher conference last semester, what impressed me the most was a sentence from the math teacher: "I only learned the contents of the book, and it may be difficult to pass the exam."
At the end of this semester, I will come back from the parent-teacher conference. What impressed me the most was the English teacher's words: "I am only responsible for the basic knowledge, and the exam accounts for 90 points, which is my responsibility;" The other 60 cloze and reading comprehension mainly depend on your own accumulation and a lot of practice, so that you can do well in the exam. "
Compared with last semester, my daughter's grades have made great progress in this final exam, and finally the problem of partial subjects has been solved.
However, English and Chinese are her daughter's strengths, but she did badly in the exam. Firstly, the problems of some subjects are solved and the balance of each subject is obtained. Next, we should also give full play to our daughter's strengths. Still need to work harder.
My daughter's grandmother summed up a sentence about weekend classes and holiday cram schools, which is very interesting. "Going to school now is like traveling. The fee paid at school is a big ticket; The fees paid for weekend classes and holiday cram schools are small tickets. " When traveling, the "small ticket" is a voluntary consumption item, but as we all know, you can't enjoy the scenic spots without paying the small ticket, leaving a lot of regrets. This "small ticket" for school is also a voluntary consumption item, and no one forces you to spend it. However, if parents don't hand in this "small ticket", many parents will leave a lot of regrets. Therefore, in order to reassure our parents, to be worthy of our children and our hearts, we should take the initiative to hand over this "small ticket" so that neither we nor our children will leave regrets.
This is the status quo of education, not that there is no place to spend more money; It is not that our children are stupid and have not studied hard. But what I learned at school can't adapt to the current exam content at all. So, when your child does badly in the exam, please don't just blame the child. Did you do what parents should do? Have you paid all the "receipts" that should be paid?
This winter vacation, my daughter went to cram schools for English, mathematics and physics (500 yuan for each class, 10 days, 2 hours for each class every day). I gave my daughter the "receipt" of 1500 yuan, which is the price of a large class. Because I had a one-on-one class last semester, I feel that this "small ticket" is not too expensive this time.
I can't help it. Now I have been educated by the actual education situation to have no personality.
Is 20 10-3-4 an illusion?
Last night, I helped my daughter print a competition composition. I read while typing. This is a very fluent article about maternal love.
After reading my daughter's composition, I feel that my daughter has grown up and learned a lot. I have been worried that my daughter is a cold-blooded animal. Now it seems that my daughter doesn't know everything, but she doesn't like to say all the good things.
I said that my daughter really understands her parents' hearts, and my daughter replied, "Don't think I'm really that sensible, it's just an illusion."
Is it an illusion? I hope not.
Is it an illusion? I don't think so.
Great changes have taken place in my daughter's study since the National Day last year. This is mainly based on the change of her attitude towards learning. Attitude determines behavior.
The change of attitude is also based on the fact that her daughter's good friends are studious and enterprising girls, which has a great positive impact on her.
In the past, getting up in the morning was the hardest time for my daughter. She didn't get up after shouting for a long time. After getting up, she wants to wash her hair and blow her head. It's strange that you said not to be late.
Now, my daughter's alarm clock is earlier than mine Every morning, she gets up early, washes quickly and goes to school, and is never late.
In the past, when my daughter came home from school, she often ran around first and often visited her classmates' homes. After returning home, she also dragged her feet to do her homework. When you encounter problems, you will generally retreat, leave it alone, and don't want to figure it out the next day.
Now my daughter comes home from school, and the dinner is not delicious, so she does her homework first. When dinner is ready, she will go to her room to do her homework without being urged by adults. When she meets a problem, she must find a way to solve it. Even if you can't solve it at night, you must find a teacher or classmate to understand it the next day.
My daughter's progress is in my eyes and in my heart.
Daughter's greatest advantage is good personality, outgoing and cheerful, lively and generous. In my daughter's words, emotional intelligence is high. I once told her that it would be perfect if she could make greater progress in her studies. She is moving in this direction.
My daughter's progress, the teacher also saw, this year's evaluation of the school three good, especially recommended her. After fierce competition and comprehensive evaluation, my daughter was rated as a colonel. The encouragement of teachers and classmates moved her daughter very much.
She will prove that she is really good with her actions.
Is it an illusion? Even if it is an illusion, I don't think so. Let this illusion last longer!