Do you know why foreigners are willing to adopt orphans in China? Moreover, most orphan data show that foreigners like to adopt girls among orphans in China. What is the reason?
In fact, there are three main reasons:
1 The reason is that the adoption procedures in China are relatively simple.
The second reason is because: for many years, foreigners think that women in China are particularly oriental. So they are willing to adopt some helpless girls.
The third reason is that the proportion of male and female orphans in China is significantly higher than that of female orphans.
Two reasons can also be reflected from these three reasons.
1 The truth is that people in China and foreigners think differently.
In the eyes of foreigners, children full of beauty and longing for freedom should be treated equally. Therefore, on the issue of adopting children, foreigners will basically not be hindered by the concept of gender differences. On the contrary, I feel that China has left a deep impression of oriental beauty on foreigners for many years, so in this sense, foreigners are also willing to adopt some helpless little girls in China.
The second reason is: Why is the phenomenon of girls being abandoned more directly reflected in the data of orphans in China? Haven't the differences between men and women been completely eliminated so far?
Yes, the phenomenon of son preference, although it can be saved now. But so far, this backward and outdated concept has not been completely removed.
So what kind of ideas should parents cultivate in advance when they treat their children?
Concept 1: Are you ready to be responsible for your child before giving birth?
For those abandoned children, many people stand up and say: If it is my own child, then no matter whether the child's gender is a boy or a girl, then I will regard them as my most precious object, instead of letting the child leave the arms of his parents because of the unsatisfactory gender and be directly abandoned in a strange world.
In fact, this statement, whether from the perspective of love or from the perspective of responsibility. These words are warmer and their words are more responsible. I believe that people who can say such warm words may be ready to be responsible for their children before they have children.
On the other hand, those young couples who are not ready to have children, if they think that the child is just an accident, they are not ready to accept a new life into this world. Then, before the child is officially pregnant, you must make two preparations in advance.
1 Preparation is to take safety measures as far as possible if you don't want it, and don't let this innocent life come and be forced to leave. The second preparation is: If it is an accident and you are asking yourself to be responsible for your children, then you should learn something about parenting as soon as possible.
The second concept is: try to avoid the phenomenon of son preference in your family environment.
Nowadays, many avant-garde young people have been baptized by advanced knowledge before they are ready to have children, so these parents may not accept the concept of son preference more and more. But this phenomenon does not mean that everyone in the new family has no preference for boys.
My colleague Fang Jie once said that she was originally from Jiangsu and later married in Jiangxi. Because my husband wants to develop in his hometown in Jiangxi for a long time, his new home has also settled in Jiangxi.
But in later life, mother-in-law and father-in-law joined new families one after another, especially the arrival of children. My mother-in-law helped herself in life and wanted to lighten the burden on the newlyweds, but she didn't expect that 1' s child was a girl, and then her mother-in-law urged Fang Jie to have a second child six months ago.
At that time, the policy did not allow to have a second child, so Fang Jie hesitated for a long time. However, on the one hand, her mother-in-law is instilling the idea of raising children to prevent old age, on the other hand, she is constantly persuading Fang Jie to have a son while he is young. Finally, I had no choice but to have two children with my husband. I didn't expect the second child to be a daughter.
It was not until two daughters arrived one after another that her mother-in-law finally broke out and said some unpleasant things, probably around why Fang Jie didn't have a son and how she was so incompetent.
Later, after the second child policy was released, her mother-in-law urged Fang Jie to have three children at once, and advised Fang Jie that it was much more likely that another child would be a boy.
Fang Jie didn't pay much attention to the sex of boys and girls before, but now she is expecting a third child. Colleagues are curious, why is Sister Fang so persistent in having a boy? I didn't pay so much attention to boys and girls before I got married, but why do I look so stubborn now?
Later, Fang Jie told everyone: I don't know why, I feel that I have given birth to two girls, and the third one must be a boy. If the son comes and does nothing, he will grow up at home with him.
It doesn't mean anything that there is a person in a family who doesn't have the concept of son preference. If the whole family does not have the concept of son preference, then the family may appear more free and relaxed. If the elderly in the family still prefer boys to girls, then young couples should try their best to persuade the elderly to let go of those gender requirements. If the young couple's advice to the elderly is fruitless, they should also find ways to open the distance between them. Don't let those old and backward ideas affect the happiness of the whole family and increase the pressure on the young couple's concept of parenting and life.
The third aspect: after welcoming the children, can you give them a complete family?
According to the data, a child may not pay so much attention to toys or knowledge learning in childhood, but children prefer to have a stronger sense of security in childhood, which mostly comes from the love of parents and the other part from the fact that children can have a complete family.