Perhaps coincidentally, on Mother's Day, I read "One day, my mother is old" written by my 96-year-old mother and my 72-year-old daughter. This touching letter from home touched millions of readers in Korea. She is an ordinary Korean mother. When she was in her seventies, she learned to read and write by herself and began to keep a family diary every day. Ten years later, she was accidentally discovered by her own children. In the remaining days of her life, with a kind of indifference and attachment to the world and life, she wrote about trivial matters at home, children, parents and brothers, daily work, and recorded her love for her family in her diary. "The thread in the hand of a loving mother makes clothes for wayward children" and "Children worry thousands of miles away", and that kind of affection spreads here. ...
Compared with myself, I am both a mother and a daughter. In recent years, I have always felt that children are young and need care. I care more about my children than my parents. Whenever something happens at home, I always call my mother and ask her to come to my house to help with the children. Think about it quietly. I'm really selfish. Have I ever thought about my parents from my own point of view? What if mom comes to my house and dad is alone at home? Don't cook any more, just eat together, ok? Ask yourself, how much time do I usually spend with my parents? The old people in the movie Sister Tao need not only money, but also the company of their children, a phone call and a greeting. In the era of pursuing efficiency in everything, we have lost a lot. It will take several hours to cook with a coal stove as before. We don't sit at home for hours like before, chatting with our parents and family, and now we always eat in restaurants. If we have something to say at the dinner table, we will go home. What have we lost in the pursuit of speed? More and more young people are eager to own their own houses. Who will take care of the empty nesters?
The ancients said: "I am old, and people are old; Young and frivolous, and young people. " Our country has entered an aging society, and our parents are no longer young. They are old. As long as they are still here, we should go home often. ...
Chapter 2: Reading "One Day, Mom is Old" After reading this book, I have been thinking: When I was young, who held our tender hands and led us forward step by step; Who sheltered us from the wind and rain and took good care of us? Since childhood, they have paid blindly for us, but they don't ask for anything in return. When we succeeded, she encouraged us to continue our efforts; When we failed, she comforted us not to be depressed. ...
This is a touching letter from home, which has touched millions of readers. This is written by a 96-year-old mother and a 72-year-old daughter. She is just an ordinary Korean mother. When she was in her seventies, she learned to write by herself and recorded her family affairs every day. She recorded eight of these books, which her daughter found while sorting out her relics. If it weren't for these diaries, I'm afraid we would never know the author's true feelings! Her diary made me feel her love for the children.
"Not everyone has a chance to say: Mom, I will come back to see you again!" This sentence is the most important sentence in the article. Usually, we only ask our mother to do things for us. We never consider what our mother needs. We also let her take us to travel and play during the holidays, and let her cook for us if she wants to eat, but I never think about what she wants. I feel very guilty. Parents are prone to loneliness. When they call their children, they are sending a signal of missing. They may be afraid of disturbing our work or study, and will only say things like "nothing, just haven't called for a long time". But when they say they miss us and let us go home and have a look, they really want to touch our heads. Many times, I can't understand why my mother is always reluctant to throw away old things. The attitude towards objects is always to repair if it is broken, and to repair if it is broken. Now I know that behind the tinkering is her gratitude for life and the recovery and reappearance of the past.
In the book, the author's mother wrote in her diary, "How happy it is to have so many daughters! What if I only gave birth to one or two daughters? Fortunately, with so many children, I won't be so lonely now. Otherwise, I will definitely feel lonely and helpless. When people are old, they should talk more and overcome loneliness. Several daughters took turns talking to me, so happy. " I am more and more worried that if, one day, we all grow up, we will spend less time with them. Will one day, like the author's mother, they will feel lonely and can only treat animals and plants as friends and communicate with them?
The ancients said: "I am old, and people are old; Young and frivolous, and young people. " Everyone will be old, and respecting the elderly is what we should do. "The tree wants to be quiet, but the wind will not stop. The son wants to raise and not stay. " Remember, not everyone has a chance to say: Mom, I will come back to see you again!
Chapter 3: After reading the book One Day My Mom is Old, I didn't expect to finish it the next day. I should have been disturbed by the noise of passing trucks around 5 am, and then I got up to read. But it seems that I am a fast reader, so why do I still have so many books to finish? I usually read English. The sentences written in prose are beautiful. Practice words. Yes, that should be a way to spread the time. Colleagues say that a search on the internet will produce many beautiful sentences, and it will take time to write them yourself. I did search and collect some, but I still like to record the good-looking articles I usually see, because others collect them online, and I usually record them after I see them myself. Being online means being online, and I am who I am. That's different. I used to use a notebook when I was studying, but now it is very convenient to type with a computer, and at the same time I can achieve the effect of manual operation and handwriting practice. Why not do it?
The more you read this book, the more sad it becomes. No wonder it was all the rage. No, it's also very popular now. It was an old mother who tied up a big family. What I wrote the most was three words that an old mother said to her children and grandchildren-I'm sorry. There is a saying that I believe is written in the hearts of many old people: If you live long, you should at least be healthy. "Suffering from this disease, the body is very uncomfortable. I don't want anyone to see me like this. " This reminds me of my grandmother. Women love beauty more. Besides, she still has hair. I used to watch her comb her hair carefully, but by the Spring Festival, I found that my original black hair had a lot more white hair. There is another saying: when people are old, they should talk more and overcome loneliness. Perhaps this is one of the reasons why the elderly are more talkative.
Old people will look at photos when they miss their children, and then recall the past and indulge in beautiful memories. I will always take my camera and take many beautiful moments. I'm going to develop representative photos and buy a big photo album to collect them. The photos taken in the back are also stuffed in, and my parents will have to wait for decades. I am old, and photos may be an important playmate. That's a good idea, but it's a pity that primary school doesn't have time to shoot.
This book describes many old people's frustration and melancholy when they live alone. Every day, he looks forward to the happy time when the children come to see her. I think this kind of hope and expectation is very helpful to people's body and mind, because they have expectations in their hearts, so they have to live a better life. Hold on, hold on, live.
Old people will choose not to live with their younger generation. There is a truth in the book: old people sometimes make their homes messy and dirty because of their poor hands and feet. Therefore, the elderly will want to be free by themselves, although they will be very lonely. But when you choose freedom, you have to accept loneliness and look forward to a lively and happy reunion. I wonder, what will I do when I get old?
She said that both her mother and her husband died young. How can she live so long? Very ashamed. She said that it is a terrible thing to watch the relatives around her leave one after another. At this time, you should feel the shortness and fragility of life. The 90-year-old woman still drags her sick body into the farmland every day. She is an industrious mother and another real example to prove that life lies in exercise. She hopes to die early so that her children will have less trouble. But she will be afraid of accidental death. I think of my grandfather. I was young and ignorant at that time. If I remember correctly, my grandfather came back to his hometown with an incurable disease, and my grandmother was taking care of him. His temperament changed greatly because of his illness. I often lose my temper with my grandmother for no reason (this is what my grandmother learned from chatting with her elders). Later, when she was critically ill, grandma followed her grandfather to Guzhu Hospital. He doesn't want to leave like this. He wants to live longer. Yes, at least he's not very old. Every time my grandfather takes my three brothers and sisters to visit the sick, I won't comfort his old man. Alas, it's ignorance to think about it.
Later, grandpa and grandma said that they didn't know they were cancer until they died. I don't think so. Grandpa is a teacher. Anyway, he can't feel it. Maybe he just doesn't know what's wrong with him At that time, my father said to buy things that my grandfather had never eaten, so that I could have less regrets (when I am healthy and convenient, I really need to go outside more, such as traveling). Wait till you get old. It's hard to move even when you need to stay in bed all year round. What's the use of regret? No wonder some people say that filial piety should be done as soon as possible However, grandpa is a more cheerful person. Is it really good for him to go on like this? 13 I almost couldn't find it when I went to grandpa's grave to burn incense in the New Year. Because that large area has changed a lot, the orchard that Grandpa had been working hard before his death was overgrown with weeds and the grass grew very tall and lush because no one took care of it. (Grandpa asked to be buried there) I looked for it for a long time but couldn't find it. Many children followed me. They have no patience to clamor for it. But my last blog, the result really let me find it, and the joy at that time was really indescribable. Because there is no plan to meet eight. Nine people, so they lit a stick of incense for each person. Pray for the happiness of grandparents and more people who have passed away.
Chapter Four: After reading the book One Day, My Mom is Old, it mainly tells the story between a daughter and an old mother. My daughter was very unfilial to her mother at first and often lost her temper with her mother. Later, my daughter finally realized that she was wrong and often bought this and that for her mother, thinking that this was filial piety to her mother. But she hasn't understood what her mother needs most. In fact, what her mother needs most is not all kinds of gifts, but her company, even a greeting on the phone! After the daughter woke up, the old mother gave up.
After reading this book, I benefited a lot, especially in the diary of the author (the daughter in the book), "You realize that you are tired of me and you want to live a carefree life. Are you leaving so early because I am too unfilial? " This sentence. Let me know how to spend more time with my parents when they are around, otherwise I will regret my parents' departure.
After reading this book, I also understand: don't just ask your parents for it, and don't turn a blind eye to their needs. Our parents will always meet our requirements one by one, so we should try our best to meet their needs and be filial children.
Chapter 5: After reading My Mom is Old One Day, I recently started reading My Mom is Old One Day, which is about an old Korean mother who started to learn to write in her 70s and wrote eight diaries in her 90s. I just read one of them, My Woodenhead, which is about her 7-month-old son who died 50 years ago.
When I read that the mother's negligence caused the child to get sick and finally die, the landlord didn't let the child die in the house. After getting up every day, the young mother reported her child to the field, waiting for death, and made a shroud for her child with old clothes. Her eyes are swollen and she can't get a needle through. Finally, the clothes are ready, but she still can't cover her thin body. Until the child died, the mother was still studying the child's long eyelashes and soft hands. Watching my tears will make me disobedient.
Since having a child, it seems that there is no way to be indifferent to the child's accident. As long as the news, Weibo and other information mention the child, my tears will come out at a fast speed and I can't help it. If it was before, various events have numbed me, and I can only sigh a few words at most. But now, I really can't help crying. Especially when the child's death is actually due to the mother's negligence, I can't help thinking about how the mother should blame herself and regret.
As written in the book, the death of a child to his parents may be just a tombstone on a green hill, but the death of a parent to his child should be the most painful in the world. This kind of pain will not heal with time, but will only be missed more and more. Although I have different views on the death of my parents, I once thought that if my child leaves me one day, maybe I really can't help but go with him. No matter how strong a person is, he can't stand such pain.
Finally, a eulogy written by the bereaved mother is attached at the back of this article:
Put your hands together and pray to heaven,
Write Wan Li's long book with my blood.
Write down my demands and my pain.
Children, children,
My poor child.
My favorite child,
Don't cry when you see blooming chrysanthemums falling down one after another.
The trampled grass will sprout again next spring.
Seeds that can't breathe under the stone will grow out of the stone one day.
Don't cry as long as you have roots.
Don't cry as long as there is life.
When the sun rises, dry your tears.
Look at that beautiful flower in the yard.
It shines against the sun.
Son, dry your tears,
Open your shining eyes and smile.
Let mom touch your forehead again,
Put you to sleep.
My lovely child.
Play the flute for my children.
My child, don't cry.
Tears will make the night sky pale.
I miss Woodenhead who died in my childhood.
Chapter 6: After reading One Day, Mom is Old, not everyone has a chance to say: Mom, I will come to see you again. This short sentence printed on the cover of the book is deeply imprinted in my heart.
One day, my mother and I went to the bookstore. I was deeply attracted by the retro and old-school style of writing and found it in the vast sea of books at once. When I got home, I finished reading the book in one breath. The touching story of mother Hong Rongnv and daughter Huang Anna in the book deeply touched my heart.
In the book, a 70-year-old mother taught herself to read and write, and recorded every bit of life through words. Mothers often wait for their children's calls by the phone, perhaps unaware that so much time has slipped away.
My mother lives alone and is lonely. On the roof of Seoul's house, my mother planted some vegetables and wild vegetables, and always watered them when she was free. When a mother misses her children, she can only look at photos and immerse herself in memories. Whenever her children come to see her, she will always be very happy, cook well and wait for their arrival quietly.
"Mom, I will come to see you again." My mother's life is because of this sentence, waiting in countless sunrises, sunsets and seasonal changes, with expectations in her heart, so she should work hard to live.
After reading this book, I closed it gently, and my heart was full of melancholy. Never has a book touched me so much that I can't shake my mother's figure in my mind for a long time. I don't know when, the crow's feet in the corner of my eyes have climbed up, and my eyes are not as bright and clear as before, but a little more vicissitudes. I don't know when she started nagging, and I'm impatient, but after thinking about it, I may have answered the sentence in the book: when you are old, you should talk more and overcome loneliness.