We think that anger will make us unreasonable, but I hope everyone will not ignore the benefits of anger! The following are the benefits of anger I have sorted out, hoping to help everyone.
Anger is the driving force.
Sometimes you will hear people say that anger is the driving force to "turn anger into positive energy". In fact, anger itself is a kind of positive energy and a powerful driving force. Studies have found that when we face difficulties and obstacles, anger can drive us to achieve our goals.
In one study, participants were told that goals and rewards are closely related. Some of them looked angry from the beginning, and these people wanted goals more.
When we think something is profitable, anger will make us want it more. So, if used well, beneficial anger can make you feel strong and help you get what you want.
2. Anger makes people more optimistic
It sounds incredible, but people have something in common when they are angry and happy. That's because both emotions tend to be optimistic and positive.
Someone has studied people's fear of terrorism after 9. 1 1. Studies show that those who are angry have much lower expectations of future terrorist attacks. On the contrary, those who feel more fear are pessimistic about the future and expect further attacks.
3. Anger contributes to interpersonal relationships
Anger is a natural reaction when being wronged and a way of communication when being wronged. But society tells us that anger is dangerous and we must hide it. How does this affect our interpersonal relationship?
Strangely, research shows that anger hidden in intimate relationships is harmful (Baumeister et al., 1990). When you hide your anger, your partner won't know what he/she did wrong and will continue to make mistakes. This is not good for your relationship.
Expressing anger, if it is not unreasonable, but aimed at finding a solution to the problem rather than simply venting, can really help each other's relationship and enhance their feelings.
4. Anger fosters insight
Anger can also let us know ourselves if we want to.
There is a case to investigate the influence of recent anger on Americans and Russians. 55% of the respondents claimed that anger would bring positive results. In addition, one-third of the respondents said that anger made them realize their mistakes.
If we can notice when and why we are angry, we can learn to improve our lives. Anger can inspire self-change.
5. Anger reduces violence
Although anger often leads to physical violence, it can also be a way to reduce violence. That's because this is a very strong social signal, suggesting that there is a situation that needs to be solved urgently. This kind of signal will inspire those who notice it to appease the angry party.
If you still don't believe that anger can reduce violence, imagine a world without anger, in which people can't express their anger when they encounter injustice. Will they resort to violence directly?
6. Anger is a negotiation strategy.
Anger can be used as a legal means to get what you want. In a negotiation study, participants made greater concessions to angry people, not happy people, and made fewer demands.
So there is evidence that anger can be used as a negotiation strategy, but its complexity is far more than that. You can't expect to get anything you want just by losing your temper.
Anger will only work if it is reasonable, if you appear strong and the other person's choices are limited. Under reasonable circumstances, angry revenge is possible.
Is it a fatal mistake? Or constructive emotions?
Anger can reduce violence, help interpersonal relationships and cultivate optimism. It can be a useful driving force, but it is undoubtedly destructive.
The miracle of human emotions is that happiness is not always beneficial, and anger is not always harmful (although it may feel this way). An unhappy person is also more likely to find mistakes, and an angry person will behave more positively. What needs to be reminded is that even terrible and dangerous emotions have a positive side, as long as there is a legitimate purpose.
Useful anger may have the following characteristics:
1) The person who caused the anger was present.
2) Anger is reasonable, and proper limit is just right.
3) Expressing anger is the first step to solve the problem, not just venting.
People seem to unconsciously realize the benefits of anger. It is found that participants are more likely to listen to some prepared angry music or recall something that makes them angry before participating in antagonistic games. Then they will behave better because they feel more angry.
If used properly, anger can be a ready-made tool. But use it with caution, because anger is the most difficult emotion to control.
What does our body experience when we are angry?
Anger is the strongest of all our emotions. It will trigger a state of "fight or flight", a moment of high tension like war. At this time, our bodies will experience: rapid heartbeat, muscle tension (trembling), blood flowing back to the core area (cold body surface), and even hair can stand up, and anger is overwhelming.
These states are actually caused by the following three mechanisms in our bodies.
1, sympathetic nerve excitation
In order to improve the efficiency of the body, our autonomic nerves are highly excited when they are angry.
This will lead to the acceleration of breathing, heartbeat and gastrointestinal peristalsis controlled by autonomic nerves.
2. Stress hormones suddenly increase.
Stress hormones represented by adrenaline will be released into the blood in large quantities. They are the primary stimulants of the human body, which can make us burst into amazing power.
However, it is a hormone that "eats more than income" and inhibits other functions that require energy consumption, including immune system and excretory system.
If the stress hormone exceeds the standard for a long time, it will greatly accelerate the decline of body cells.
3. The inhibitory ability of cerebral cortex is invalid.
Usually, our emotions are controlled by the cerebral cortex. Will suppress bad emotions. But when angry, the activity of the cerebral cortex is inhibited. The ability to lose control of subsequent emotions will also decline.
The endocrine mechanism used by the brain to reward and punish emotions may also be disordered, resulting in only negative emotions and even depression.
The harm of long-term anger should not be underestimated.
1, cardiovascular and cerebrovascular system
Anger is the most direct harm to cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases.
On the one hand, the heart rate accelerates blood vessel contraction, and blood pressure will suddenly rise. If you have the problem of vascular stenosis, you may induce the risk of acute ischemia.
In addition, stress hormones in anger will damage the health of blood vessels themselves, laying a curse for subsequent arteriosclerosis.
2, stomach damage
Many people have this experience: when they are angry, they feel that they are crossing the river and their stomachs are very uncomfortable. This is because when angry, the blood in the stomach is taken away, and the gastric mucosa may lead to ischemic ulcer because of anger!
3, affecting brain health, insomnia, depression.
People who are often angry have poor sleep quality. This is caused by stress hormones affecting the brain and the brain itself. In the long run, it may also lead to depression.
Therefore, the ancients often said the word "sleepless night", mostly related to bad emotions.
4. Immunity declines, making it easier to get cancer.
Stress hormones suppress the immune system very strongly! If you are angry and in a bad mood for a long time, cancer cells in your body will escape more easily and cancer will appear early.
In the hospital, we can see that people who are always optimistic and positive usually make slower progress and even get a chance to be cured. People in a bad mood usually walk faster when they have a nervous breakdown.
5. Liver damage
The sages of traditional Chinese medicine summed up a sentence, anger hurts the liver early. Often angry, harmful substances in the body increase, the load of liver catabolism will be too large, and it will also cause damage to the liver. As a general of the whole body, if the liver is injured, it will bring systematic influence and damage the life span.
How should I control my emotions?
It's no use trying to control your emotions. You don't take the initiative to change the status quo, just convince yourself to relax. We should take the initiative to attack, start with small things, establish a reward and punishment mechanism in our brains, and restore confidence.
At present, the most effective ways to change mood are as follows:
1, the magical effect of exercise
Exercise is not as simple as burning fat as we think, it will induce the brain to secrete dopamine. Dopamine can mobilize our emotions at the molecular level. In addition, completing exercises every day also helps us to form the qualities of self-discipline and self-confidence.
2, open the brain reward system
A four-star general in the United States said at a meeting to encourage new recruits: If you want to be a general, you should start by getting up and making quilts every day. The audience burst into laughter immediately after hearing this.
The general went on to say: folding quilts every morning is not only a ceremony to remind ourselves to live seriously, but also to help us accomplish a small goal together.
People are always like this. As soon as they have a result, they will encourage themselves to complete the next more difficult task. Stick to it, set goals for ourselves and accomplish them, and we will form strong self-discipline. This is the key quality of success. And if it doesn't matter from the beginning, small things will not succeed, and the whole person will easily break the jar.
So, if you are always angry and feel powerless about the present situation of life, you might as well start with small things.
3. Emotional intelligence exercise
The so-called emotional intelligence is the ability to control emotions. This includes not only other people's emotions, but also their own.
The real strong, all climb up from failure, from the inner strength.
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