Jiang hang
Aggressiveness is a common bad behavior of children. Children with bad behavior often do not actively participate in activities, and it is difficult to concentrate and develop their abilities in all aspects. Because there are often aggressive behaviors in communication, the relationship with other children is not handled well, and they are often excluded by others. If this continues for a long time, it will affect the healthy development of children's physical and mental health and the cultivation of personality and good moral character. The Guiding Outline of Kindergarten Education clearly points out that children should be trained to "understand and abide by the social behavior norms in daily life" and "love their parents, elders, teachers and peers". Therefore, analyzing and controlling children's aggressive behavior and promoting the formation of children's good social quality is a serious topic in today's preschool education. Through research and practice, the case study of children's "aggressive behavior" is summarized as follows:
I. Background of the case
Erhang is a seemingly lovely and quiet child. Although she is also attending kindergarten for the first time, she is more mature and adaptable than other children. In the first week, when other children were crying and emotionally unstable, he not only stopped crying, but also wanted to greet the teacher under the guidance of his parents. Will also find their own toys to play with. But he has a very bad behavior, that is, he often attacks the children or teachers around him aimlessly. And when the teacher criticized her behavior, she was very silent and ignored it.
Second, the case description and analysis
I think Erhang's aggressive behavior is inseparable from her family environment and her parents' teaching. Of course, a larger part of the factor comes from his own psychology. So as a teacher, you should pay more attention to her at ordinary times. Only in this way can we effectively intervene and even reduce children's aggressive behavior from the inside out.
Case 1:
Airline 2 has been a good boy all morning today. After lunch, I organized the children in my class to have quiet activities. The quiet activity today is watching cartoons. After I organized the children to do it, I turned to play the disc. But just as I turned around, something I didn't want to happen finally happened. Suddenly I heard a bang, and then I heard the child sitting next to Wen Er Hang crying. I hurried over and asked what was wrong. The child cried and said Wen Erhang hit me. I quickly pulled Wen Erhang aside, criticized her and asked her why she hit people, but she was still very indifferent. When asked if she would call again, she said "no".
Analysis: Erhang has become a habit to hit people. As long as she is in a bad mood, or the children around her influence her, she will habitually attack others. Everything is natural. She didn't realize that attacking others was a wrong act at all. This is why she is indifferent to the teacher's criticism. In view of this characteristic of her, I think if we pay too much attention to her, it will only magnify her problems and shortcomings. If some special measures are taken in this respect, she will feel that she is different from other children and is a bad example, which will further lead to his inability to get along with his peers.
Countermeasures: Kindergarten children lack consciousness and are weak. They are all in the stage of one-on-one guidance reception. Consciousness determines action. Therefore, if we want Wen Erhang to get rid of this attack on others completely. First, let her realize the mistake of this behavior. Secondly, let her feel the teacher's care and collective warmth.
(1) When she has an attack, the teacher should stop it immediately and patiently tell her the wrong behavior and seriousness of the attack.
(2) Find an appropriate opportunity to understand her behavior motivation, patiently tell him how to get along with her peers, suggesting that she is trying to correct her shortcomings.
Case 2: Group teaching activities after morning exercises one day. The teacher is showing all kinds of toy teaching AIDS. Play "What's Missing" for children. All the children listened carefully. Suddenly, I heard a cry of "Wow" from Flight Two and said, "I want my mother." The teacher was about to walk over to comfort her, when she carefully looked at Wen Erhang's hand holding Fan Wenhui's hair tightly, and the teacher quickly walked over and stopped her. I finally released her hand. When the teacher criticized him, she remained silent. After a long time, I said helplessly, "Not next time."
Analysis: Erhang's attack is still going on. Although the number of attacks is not as much as before, she still can't change this casual habit. There is still not much change in consciousness. Although he began to accept the teacher's criticism, he seemed extremely reluctant, which was not her intention. For this kind of excessive behavior of Wen Erhang. It's still a bit of a palliative. However, it is impossible for kindergarten children to make a qualitative leap in their behavior habits in a short month.
Countermeasures: Compared with last month, the performance of the second airline has improved. Although the progress is not great. But at least her attitude has greatly improved. From silently criticizing the teacher to reluctantly accepting it. Therefore, we should continue to establish the correct consciousness of young children.
(A) through the form of stories, let her perceive the wrongness of the attack from the side.
(2) Through the role performance in group activities. Let children know that peers and teachers like people who help others. And people who like to attack others as a whole.
Case 3: The child is outdoors. In order to prevent falling behind, the teacher asks the child behind.
The child leaned on the shoulder of the child in front. When waiting in line, Erhang deliberately grabbed the child in front of him by the neck or pulled his clothes to prevent him from leaving. Even if the teacher stops, Wen Erhang won't let the children behind him pull their clothes soon, otherwise he will start to prepare me to pick up his little fist that I haven't held for a long time. At this time, I looked at him with my eyes and said to him with a smile: "I believe Wen Erhang is the most generous. Are you the big sister? " She said "yes". So he slowly loosened his little fist.
Analysis: the formation and consolidation of personality and the cultivation and improvement of skills are a gradual process, not a day's work. Therefore, it is necessary to correct children's "aggressive" behavior step by step. Through the joint efforts of our motherland. The reason why children show this behavior in activities. Perhaps it is more because he feels that he has not been noticed by his teachers or peers.
Countermeasures:
(a) the performance of the day, individual conversation.
(2) When children make great progress, praise and encourage them in front of the whole class.
(3) Seize the bright spot in time to affirm it, and ask the children to give an evaluation.
(4) Contact parents regularly, mainly to praise her good behavior in the garden (let the second airline know) and tell parents how to correct the improper behavior of the second airline at home (let the second airline know). Mobilize the enthusiasm of Erhang in class, let her answer more questions and enhance her self-confidence. For her mistakes, try to carry out one-on-one education to enhance the enthusiasm of Wen Erhang.
Case 4: In an activity in the morning, the teacher organized the children to choose a favorite toy and play in their own place. At first, the children all played very seriously. But not long after, Wen Erhang suddenly stood up and grabbed the car that the child was playing. Then the robbed child cried with a "wow". The teacher rushed over to stop it and returned the car of Er Hang to the child. The teacher took Wen Erhang aside and told her not to grab the children's toys. I didn't expect her to sit on the ground and cry all the time. No matter how hard she tried, she couldn't convince her.
Analysis: Recently, there has been a phenomenon of grabbing toys in No.2 Airlines. Probably has a lot to do with the environment at home. Children in kindergartens are not fully developed physically and mentally, and their behaviors are highly plastic. Now most children are only children in the family. It can be said that there is wind when there is wind and rain when there is rain. Parents will try their best to give their children what they want. No one has ever robbed her of the food she played with. So children have no sense of sharing and humility.
Countermeasures:
(A) gradually cultivate children's self-regulation and self-control ability.
(2) Guide parents to change their educational concepts. Let children learn to share slowly and learn to be modest.
(3) Teachers should strive to create a democratic and happy psychological environment for kindergarten children.
(4) Let him be a little teacher and help the teacher distribute books or toys.
Third, reflection and experience.
After half a semester of effective guidance. Erhang's aggressive behavior has improved a lot. She is now basically able to control her behavior better. I am also very aware of the mistakes of aggressive behavior. Now she often says this in front of the teacher: "Teacher, you can't hit people." "Teacher, do you think I am good?" It can be seen that he also wants to be a good baby in the eyes of the teacher.
Parents often regard their children as the hope to honor their ancestors and carry on the family line. Children become the treasure of the family and the meaning of parents' survival. Under the control of this kind of consciousness, they meet any requirements of children in principle, regardless of time, place and nature, do not control any behavior of children, and let children do whatever they want. Such children are more aggressive, more overbearing, more difficult to follow the rules and have frequent activities when they arrive in kindergarten. The survey shows that many children are mainly taken care of by grandparents, who relax unprincipled because of their age and cultural influence, which intensifies the aggression of grandchildren.
Everyone has his good side and bad side. In the process of educating aggressive children, teachers can strengthen their advantages and dilute their disadvantages, thus strengthening their advantages and helping children overcome their disadvantages. Because everyone likes to listen to good words, let alone children. Strengthening advantages can increase people's self-confidence. Only when a person is full of confidence in himself can he make continuous progress and overcome the difficulties in his progress. Teachers should be good at observing and discovering the advantages and progress of aggressive children on weekdays, fully affirming and praising their advantages or progress, and keeping their shortcomings in mind, but don't overemphasize and exaggerate them in front of other children, so as to promote their effective and good development. At the same time, we should believe that every child has his own bright spot, and children with "aggressive behavior" are no exception. As long as teachers treat these "naughty" children with a calm mind and equal eyes, they can find many bright spots in them, such as curiosity, thirst for knowledge and strong thirst for knowledge. Teachers and parents should grasp these characteristics and carry out targeted education in order to achieve good educational results.
In short, we should pay attention to art and not be impatient when dealing with aggressive children. We believe that an effort and a harvest, as long as we take corresponding measures, will turn these aggressive children into our good babies.